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I know I have read many many places that sleep begets more sleep. I understand this somewhat in theory, but am wondering if anyone has any advice on how to foster more sleep?<br><br>
DD who just turned 2 has never been a good sleeper. I also know that DD has never gotten the average number of hours of sleep that the "experts" say are needed for her age. She just fights it tooth and nail and always has. I feel so many hours have been devoted to trying to get her to sleep during these past two years (and we won't even go into staying asleep!).<br><br>
We have played around with her bedtime and an earlier bedtime does not equal more sleep for her. She will NOT sleep more than ten hours at night (I know, better than some so I shouldn't complain). The rare time that she has slept more, it throws of her nap schedule which in turn throws off her bedtime to very late. She used to faithfully wake up at 5:30 every morning. Over the summer we were able to finally change this, although she does go to bed 2 hours later now.<br><br>
So, back to the original question. If many kids are not getting the sleep that they need, how do you go about helping them to get more?<br><br>
Thanks,<br>
Tracy (who is tired from DD being up from 2-4:30 last night.....sigh)
 

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I look forward to seeing responses - if there is a way to change it, I am interested, but I honestly believe some kids don't need as much sleep, even the No Cry Sleep Solution say those numbers are averages. I have 9 nieces and nephews, a few of which did not sleep a lot. I have a nephew that still only sleeps about 5-6 hours a night and functions very well on that. He is 21 now. He just never slept and my sister warned me ahead of time, some babies don't sleep a lot and not to spend time stressing over it if they were happy during the day.<br><br>
My daughter goes to bed at 10, and sleeps to 7, every day. And every day takes a 2 hour nap. She is happy and fine and pleasant as can be until she just falls asleep at 10. I can struggle with her for 2 hours to get her to bed at 8, and she will still fall asleep at 10, or just let her be and she will go to bed at 10 anyway. If she does happen to fall asleep early, she wakes up at 5 or 6. If she naps for more than 2 hours, she is up until 10:30-11.<br><br>
I am tired, I don't like it because I love my sleep. But after hearing stories from my sisters, they all said the same thing. I even asked my doctor, because 10 hours a night doesn't seem enough to me either, but he said as long as she is not cranky and not having meltdowns in the afternoon or at night, she is fine.
 

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Some kids just don't need much. Mine dont. My 3 year old always slept from 11pm-7am with a 2 hour afternoon nap. That is it.<br><br>
My 10 month old goes to sleep 9-10pm and is up at 7am. He is usually up 5 times a night, with one of the wakings lasting 2 hours. The others last 30 minutes. He takes a two hour nap in the afternoon, but it has about 4 wakings. I nap with the two of them or there is no nap.<br><br>
If I get them to nap longer, it makes them stay up later or get up earlier. Sleep does NOT beget sleep here, that is for sure! Any sleep during the day takes away from night time sleep. They generally go to bed earlier and sleep better if they nap less. I need that rest period myself, so that is why I have not done away with naps.
 

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For neither of my children has "sleep beget sleep". I've heard of children that this works for, but it doesn't happen in my house. If I gave my DS longer naps or more naps it just meant less sleep at night. He's 5 now and actually sleeps more than he did when he was younger. School tires him out and he's just more active so he gets more tired. I think children need however much sleep they need and you can't make them sleep more. If they are happy during the day they are getting enough sleep.<br><br>
Is your DD happy most of the time? If she is then she's getting enough sleep. My DS never got the amount of sleep the experts said he should. My 1 year old DD doesn't either. DS is healthy and happy now and at age 5 finally does get the 10-11 hours he should. As they get older the sleeping gets better and they seem to actually sleep more (that is if you have a bad sleeper to start with).
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I look forward to seeing responses - if there is a way to change it, I am interested, but I honestly believe some kids don't need as much sleep, even the No Cry Sleep Solution say those numbers are averages. I have 9 nieces and nephews, a few of which did not sleep a lot. I have a nephew that still only sleeps about 5-6 hours a night and functions very well on that. He is 21 now. He just never slept and my sister warned me ahead of time, some babies don't sleep a lot and not to spend time stressing over it if they were happy during the day.<br><br>
My daughter goes to bed at 10, and sleeps to 7, every day. And every day takes a 2 hour nap. She is happy and fine and pleasant as can be until she just falls asleep at 10. I can struggle with her for 2 hours to get her to bed at 8, and she will still fall asleep at 10, or just let her be and she will go to bed at 10 anyway. If she does happen to fall asleep early, she wakes up at 5 or 6. If she naps for more than 2 hours, she is up until 10:30-11.<br><br>
I am tired, I don't like it because I love my sleep. But after hearing stories from my sisters, they all said the same thing. I even asked my doctor, because 10 hours a night doesn't seem enough to me either, but he said as long as she is not cranky and not having meltdowns in the afternoon or at night, she is fine.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">: This is us exactly. DD sleeps 10 hours a night, about a 2 hour nap in the day, and has for months. More daytime sleep means less nighttime sleep. I didn't think 10 hours at night was considered short - is it?
 
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