We're having a hard time adjusting to the new baby in the house. She's about 3 months old now, but my ds is changing his sleeping habits, and I'm having a rough time of it. He used to nap for about 2 hours every afternoon, and then go to bed at about 8 pm. Happy to sleep, no problems, etc. Now, he won't nap anymore, and he doesn't like going to sleep at nighttime either. The nap thing, I can deal with, since he's getting older, and maybe he doesn't need it anymore, but the total amount of sleep he's getting obviously isn't enough. He'll usually fall asleep at about 9:30 or 10 every night, and then he wakes up at 6 am, full of energy (for about 3 hours), and then drags around being a little bit crabby and crying all the time for the rest of the day.
Part of the issue is with my dp. My ds likes to nurse to sleep every night, so I give the baby to my dp during bedtime. But this is usually the baby's extremely fussy time, and she ends up sobbing horribly for about an hour. Sometimes my dp will pay attention to her, but usually he'll just put her in the bouncy chair or on the floor and let her cry. This is not acceptable to me, but he doesn't understand why it's a problem, and then he gets mad at me for getting up from putting my ds to sleep, and trying to take the baby too. And then, of course, my ds starts crying if I leave to take care of the baby, and it's a whole mess. And I feel like I'm on the verge of freaking out. I REALLY need a little bit of time to myself each day, whether it's at night or naptime, I don't really care. I feel like I'm about to lose it. But I feel like I can't get that time, partially because of the sleep issues and partially because I don't agree with my dp's parenting philosophies. Something has got to give, but I don't see where it is.
Part of the issue is with my dp. My ds likes to nurse to sleep every night, so I give the baby to my dp during bedtime. But this is usually the baby's extremely fussy time, and she ends up sobbing horribly for about an hour. Sometimes my dp will pay attention to her, but usually he'll just put her in the bouncy chair or on the floor and let her cry. This is not acceptable to me, but he doesn't understand why it's a problem, and then he gets mad at me for getting up from putting my ds to sleep, and trying to take the baby too. And then, of course, my ds starts crying if I leave to take care of the baby, and it's a whole mess. And I feel like I'm on the verge of freaking out. I REALLY need a little bit of time to myself each day, whether it's at night or naptime, I don't really care. I feel like I'm about to lose it. But I feel like I can't get that time, partially because of the sleep issues and partially because I don't agree with my dp's parenting philosophies. Something has got to give, but I don't see where it is.
