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Ok, not sure if this would go here or in the nightime forum, but I *think* it's more a gd issue, so I'll try here first.<br>
A little history first. DD (2.75) has never been a good sleeper. Meaning, it's hard for her to settle down, stay asleep, and sleep for long. She was always sleeping 2-3 hours less than the 'norm' for her age. BUT, she has always been happy, healthy, ect. so I've let her for the most part regulate herself. She very rarely melts down due to being tired. So rare, in fact, that earlier this week when she was melting down, I couldn't figure out why, until she took a *3* hour nap!!!<br><br>
So here are some situations that I am having a hard time with, I am hoping that some of you wise mama's have some answers!<br><br>
1. For some reason, the act of going to sleep is like a threat to her. She will fight it and fight it and insist she isn't tired, as she is yawning and rubbing her eyes. I would love to have her recognize her body's sleep cues and just go lay down and relax when she feels tired. She's never been left to CIO, we have always parented her to sleep, so I don't know why the resistance to sleep?<br><br>
2. She needs a reaaaaaaallly long time to settle down. Fine, but I don't want to lay in the dark for 30-90 minutes every night. How on earth do I get her to either A. CHILL OUT in the bed and stop wiggling/climbing/fighting me? or B. Go in there on her own and settle down, get the wiggles out, ect. and call me when she is ready to sleep???<br>
I've tried everything, from pretending to be asleep to threatening her to walking out to yelling.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> After an hour of laying still, my patience is really thin. We have a pretty consistent routine before bed- shower/bath with daddy, get jammies, read a ton of books and I lay with her to nurse and pat/rub her back, until she falls asleep. I'd love to nurse her and pat or what ever for a few minutes or let her take a few minutes alone to settle before she calls me. I just can't figure out how to do that?<br><br>
3. What do you do about all the requests???? Water, blanket, bear, nana, ice cream, books, ect. ect. ect. She will be almost asleep and then remember to NEED something. I try to remember everything before we get to bed, but there is always something else. I feel like she is too young to try to manipulate me, but at the same time, it does FEEL that way! And I can't deny her water can I? But then the requests go on and on, and I don't know how to cut her off?!?!<br><br>
THanks for reading this far!!!
 

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Have you read "Sleepless in America" by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka? It might give you some ideas. I didn't get many concrete ideas out of it, but the basic premise and the research were eye-opening.<br><br>
Does she watch TV? Does she get enough exercise? Would she lay in bed and look at books with a little night-lite? My dd used to look at pop-up books at this age until she fell asleep for her nap.
 
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