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The book 'The Art of Raising a Puppy' suggests that sleeping with your puppy/dog will create behavioral problems. What problems does it create? I can't seem to find info on this.<br><br>
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When I took my puppies to a training classes, the teacheralways advised us not tolet them sleep with us. Something about establishing us as the alpha in the relationship.When you let them sleep with you that gets all out of whack. I think that is why many people crate train thier dogs,to keep the relationship clear. Our trainers always said that always have your dogs (puppies) earn everything,they will be better dogs for it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br>
Now I have always let my dogs sleep with us (much to me DH's shigrin),but I don't know if I will again. I have one dog who acts like it is his right to be up there, when it isn't. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br>
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my guess is it would be the same sort of problems people warn you against sleeping with your human babies. I personally think it's a bunch of bull. Our dog sleeps with us if she wants, but since the children came along, she usually chooses to sleep under or beside the bed instead.
 

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I think it's a bunch of crap too. Our dogs sleep with us and they dont have any issues, granted lately they sleep NEXT to my bed on their bed cause I am getting too fat for us to fit (8 months pg!) LOL As soon as dh gets up for work (at 4 am) one or both of them jumps up there though. Zeke started sleeping with us from when he was tiny and we first brought him home and he is 4 now. I put him in that crate and he just whimpered and cried and I figured he just got ripped away from his mom and brothers and sisters and then I am going to try to shove him in a box all night? Nope, not gonna happen! LOL<br><br>
Zoe started sleeping with us when she potty trained after we got her (and she was already 1.5-2 years). If I tell them to get down though they will. Like if ds comes in the bed I make them get down cause ds freaks out if they touch his feet cause he is my clausterphobic child and wants no one in his space.<br><br>
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I think it's a load of garbage too. My 4 1/2 year old Australian Cattle Dog mix slept with me from the time he was a puppy and he's a lovely dog. No behavioral issues. I was a little concerned when we brought our babies home that he'd act out because he had new bedmates, but he's been great with them since the beginning. And he's a breed that people warn you about when having children.<br><br><br>
Love the boxer in the blue boxers, Desiree. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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All of our heelers (cattle dogs) were great with kids...<br><br>
Usually Keith sleeps next to my bed and Nana sleeps with me, but if there are thunderstorms Keith is right up there pressed against me. I'm still in charge - I can kick them off - but usually I like having them there. I sleep all alone now, since rain and the cat have moved out, and I like company.<br><br>
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I can't imagine not sleeping with our sweet pug. I can understand the whole alpha relationship thing to a point...but we take care of that in other ways (making him sit for food/treats etc.) He really is very polite when in bed with us, although sometimes it seems as if the smallest beast in the bed ends up with the most room :LOL . Gotta love the CalKing bed, though. And with our baby due any time now we're all going to be nice and cozy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/heartbeat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="heartbeat"> .
 

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We started out with DH's old dog, who was 13 when I met him and wasn't allowed to sleep in the people bed because he was a bed hog. When we got our puppy, we crate-trained him when we first got him, although he slept in our room with the older dog. At the beginning of this year, the old dog died. I was resistant to the idea of having the dog sleep with us before that, but it was so obvious that he was miserable, I gave in and let him up. I dunno if I'm interpreting it wrong in Dog, but it seemed like he'd lost his pack, and we were it.
 

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My 2 Pugs sleep in my bed half the time, the other half on their beds next to our bed. It depends on if we want extra space in the bed without them (their little size is deceiving -- they take up a lot of space!) or if we want cuddle time with them. Sometimes it's also when we know they <i>need</i> to be next to us. I think they still know that DH and I are alpha (DH moreso...).<br><br>
We don't have any kiddos yet, so we'll cross that bridge when we get to it. Of course they'll still be in our room, but not sure if we'd have enough room on our queen bed for 2 adults, 2 Pugs, and kids!
 

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well we started out with ds in our bed, dd1 never really liked co sleeping at all. so when dd was about 6 months old we got Joe our deaf dalmation. dh LOVES this dog and he has slept in the bed since he brough him home. then dd and ds moved to starting nights in their bed but both of them ending up in our bed before the end of the night. we got another dog but she had incontience problems so no bed for her... poor pup but she likes it outside most the time. we now have a king size bed with the crib sidecared, allie in the crib then me in the bed right next to her, then dh then our dalmation and now our dobermen who is a new member of the family and the older kids still come to our room some night but not often anymore now that they both have new rooms and new beds, ect. they seem to like their own rooms but yes some nights we have me, dh, ds, dd1, dd2, and our two dogs in the bed! LOL<br>
Oh they are both well behaved dogs i think! LOL
 

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<span style="font-family:'Comic Sans MS';">My other Borzoi used to sleep with me. He actually continued sleeping with me after dd was born... so it was dd, a 95 lb. dog and me! I am sure that I will let our new baby sleep with me when we get him/her in Dec. My sister lets her dog sleep with her and he growls and shows his teeth if she bumps him. So I think it can be a problem depending on the dog. I think it is probably recommended so people can avoid the problem rather than try to fix it if it doesn't work out. I also remember reading that it has something to do with the whole alpha thing, as pp said. But for me, I love curling up against that warm hairy body. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"></span>
 

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Over the course of growing up and as an adult now I have had the experienceof sleeping with six dogs for years and years. They each have/had their own personalities and some issues I suppose but so do people! The main issue (which isnt one in my opinion) is they feel very loved and protective of their family. Also a couple of them were pretty sure they were human. :LOL
 

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Our dog darby (our first baby) has slept with us for 10 years. Though we all know that i am the alpha around here, his needs are met along with everyone elses which i think has made him the compassionate inteligent dog he is. With dd, dp he and i all in a queen size though, he gets kicked off regularly.<br>
I am DREAMING of a california king!!!
 

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rockinmama a california king sounds like heaven. We had our two dogs sleep with us from day one and our cats too. We always have lots of warmth in our bed. It's a queen though and I dream of kings all the time. :LOL
 

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Yeah, I don't believe it, for the most part. Maybe there are a few dogs out there who it could create problems with. Our dogs sleep with us when the want, and the only behavior problems they have is being just a bit over-exuberant and friendly when guests arrive. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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milky way has the right idea. I think it all depends on what kind of dog you have. Some dogs are so dominant that if you give them the "alpha" status of sleeping on the bed they will begin to feel that you are beneath them. Not all dogs do this. My dog is submissive and can be told when she can/can't sleep on the bed. I think trainers advise people against sleeping with their new dog because pack order is not established. If a dog ever shows signs of aggresion or dominance towards his family, a sure way to cure it is to control sleeping space and food. I don't believe people who sleep with their dogs are wrong, and I don't believe people don't sleep with their dogs are wrong. Every family has to find what works for them!
 

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As Milky Way and Sarah said, it totally depends on the dog--and the owner. If an owner is fairly mild and also lets the dog on the bed and the dog is a bit stronger--than it's pretty likely that problems will ensue. I've consulted with many a dog owner who deals with these problems by completely ignoring them. I remember one a springer spaniel--it went on for 6 yrs that the husband was NOT allowed in the bed--as in the dog would (and did) bite him if he came near it. Suddenly when the hubby was going to leave it became a big emergency. Frankly, it would have been far kinder for this dog to have been booted from the bed at the first signs of trouble--I mean if you don't want the hubby in the bed that's one thing--but the dog doesn't get to make the choice.<br>
There is NO doubt around here that I am alpha, but still, every once in a while Havoc needs a reminder and this is at 11 yrs old. He has been selectively bred to be a very dominent dog. About every 6 mos or so he gets a week long eviction from beds and couches--usually because he refuses to listen to dh. I had no idea, shortly after dh moved in, he worked nights and I couldn't figure out why he kept staying up in the morning when he came home--finally I was told, after he got home, Havoc would come back on the bed and if Steve tried to move him he would pretend he was sleeping and not get off the bed. Once when Steve grabbed his collar and pulled, Havoc growled at him. That woke me and since then he hasn't done it again, but it's just an example of how it can become a problem. If Havoc was in a home with an average owner who didn't have the level of control I have of him (for instance if just dh owned him) he would definitely be a dog that should not have access to beds and couches. Now his daughter, Bedlam, she couldn't boss a human around if her life depended on it (which is why she's here on the couch and not producing police puppies--she knew what she was doing)
 

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