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Parents to slow to warm up kids, what do you do to prepare your kids for classes (dance, art, etc)? I took DD to a sample class today and it went terribly. I stayed there (even though the directress of her Montessori school wanted me to watch from a 1 way mirror) and when the basketball coach wanted to help her shoot, I thought she was going to burst into tears. She kept looking at me and I nodded, trying to encourage her, but in the end I just took her out of the class and we left.<br><br>
Before the class I prepped her for about a week, talking about the class, etc and she was pretty excited. When it came down time to do the class though she got pretty nervous. She is OK if we do the class together and I am fine to sticking with the classes we do together until she feels more comfortable.<br><br>
Has anyone BTDT and have any suggestions on how I can help her adjust better in 6 mos or a year when she is a little older?
 

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i just avoid classes that we can't do together (which is everything since i can't take ds with us <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">) i just know it would end with her in tears because someone talked to her. i'm waiting until she's closer to 4 to put her in something with the hopes that she'll be able to handle it.
 

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We have gone to two parent tot swim classes and Panda will barely get in the water. We are paid through September so we will keep trying. I guess it is good even if she is just watching the other babies and sitting on the edge with her feet in the water. But yeah, it feels weird keeping her there sometimes. I would never force her to get in. After the class yesterday we went to the river and she sat in the water playing with rocks for like an hour!
 

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With dd, we get to the classroom a good 15 minutes prior to class. She walks around, talks to teacher, etc, gets used to the environment. Then, by the time class is ready to start, she is ready also. But, if they are doing something new, she might just watch the first couple times. ONce she does participate, she is crazy gung-ho, lol.<br>
I would just let her watch the first half of the class ro whatever, then see if she wants to join in. Let the teacher know that if she doesn't wan to participate, don't push her, just let her watch.
 

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Thanks for the input. I have a call in for the woman that does the dance class as I think this is more DD's speed and interest. My current plan is to talk to her about the class, tell her about DD and make sure that I can sit there with DD on my lap watching the class until she is comfortable joining in. From previous experience, I can guess that this will take about 30 minutes the first time. The class is at the local rec center which is better than DD's Montessori school for various reasons but if it doesn't work out, <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug">: she can wait until she is a little older.<br><br>
I did forget about the one moment at the basketball class that DD had fun. They started running in a circle and she got this look of absolute joy on her face and started running around (while looking at me the entire time). I really think that I cannot do classes at the Montessori school because the directress likes to separate parents from the kids too quickly and she just doesn't get DD.
 

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Can I second this? My son has been uncomfortable coming into group situations where it looks like all the other kids know each other <b>and</b> exactly what they should be doing. Getting there first helps a lot.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Can I second this? My son has been uncomfortable coming into group situations where it looks like all the other kids know each other <b>and</b> exactly what they should be doing. Getting there first helps a lot.</div>
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That is a good point. I have the same problem actually. I have previously shown up for classes but left without joining because I didn't get there 10 minutes early so I could assimilate the atmosphere first. It took me a month to get into cycle class because I kept being only 2 minutes early. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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Getting there early helped our ds some, but honestly, just waiting for ds to get older and more comfortable is what did the trick. Ds is 6 now and will participate in classes without too much warm up at all.
 
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