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I'm so sad. I was already feeling kind of down about my relationship with my DD (3.5, auditory processing disorder, SID and ADHD) because our level of interaction hasn't really improved lately. Then I just read a thread on another board where folks were talking about what their 3 year olds were saying now and it *really* got me down.<br><br>
It's so frustrating....my DD and I can communicate - but it's like so superficial. She can express her needs to me. We can "play" but it's still so simple...she can't understand a narrative storyline. She can't ask me where, why or how come questions. She doesn't understand if I ask her a question. We can't have a *conversation* if you KWIM. I was so looking forward to the time period when she really started to ask questions about the world around her. But while I think that one day she will be at that level of language development, it's not happening any time soon.<br><br>
I remember one day when she was 2 we were playing with a friend of hers who asked her mom "where's the Safeway?" and her mom proceeded to explain where it was. I was just thinking today that my daughter STILL can't ask that question a year and a half later! There are countless other examples of interactions I've seen between kids and their moms and I am SO JEALOUS.<br><br>
Anyone else get down about stuff like that?<br><br>
I mean I know there is so much my DD *can* do - and I try to focus on that and not worry about how different she is....but it is starting to bother me more, the older she gets.<br><br>
Just hoping others on here can understand ....ergh.<br>
peace,<br>
robyn
 

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My dd is similar to yours, but without diagnosis, but everything on your list have been given as possible future diagnosises -- among a whole bunch of other stuff.<br><br>
Anyway, yes, I've totally been where you are. In the last year, her language has really picked up. In fact, she said her firsty sentence in April 2006. Keep the hope when you feel down about it. These kids have their ways of surprising us.<br><br>
As hard as it is, try not to compare. Every time I start thinking my dd is catching up, I'll start paying attention to her peers and slip into the funk you are describing. It really helps to keep in mind that it doesn't matter. My dd is unique, so her development will be too. She has shown me that she will always surprise me, I just have to be patient. I suspect your dd might be similar. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Yes, my son is 5,5 and still can't ask these sort of questions (he asks other sort of questions, though). Slowly I realised that some of the stuff he will never say/do, simply because by the time he is able to, it will be no longer needed. Still, it is amazing how much they can learn anyway, nonverbally. And how much sense they make when they try to come up with a concept they don't have enough language for, but still try to express it - he can actually make up words that don't exist, but you know exactly what he is trying to say!<br><br>
Anyway, as my son would say now,<br>
'Don't worry, mum! It will get better, because I am catching up!'
 

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Nothing to add, just a warm, loving, genuine <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
I'm sorry, mommy.
 

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Just wanted to give you a hug too - I've been cycling through those types of feelings myself since I got his IEP evaluation report, it's really hard sometimes.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I know what you mean.
 

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*hugs* My daughter is the same age and the only question she can ask is "what's that noise?" - she has super hearing and is freaked out by noises. I also find it hard reading about what other children her age are able to do so I don't usually venture into those areas of the board.<br><br>
Right now she's asleep next to me and she looks so beautiful and so peaceful that it brings a smile to my face. When I get sad I think of moments like this - she's still my baby girl and we have a connection that no one else has.<br><br>
Big hugs momma!
 

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thanks everyone! your support helps ...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
peace,<br>
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I've btdt with my almost 4 yr old dd Maura. I felt sad when we were driving back from the il's a couple weeks ago - my older dd Miriam SO wanted someone to talk to and big brothers weren't being cooperative. And it's not like she can hold conversations with Maura - yet!<br><br>
I try to keep it in perspective. Last year, I was sad that Maura didn't know how to play dolls with Miriam, who desperately wanted to play dolls with her sister. This year, they're playing dolls together. There is progress, and there will continue to be more progress. Maybe next year, they can chat about the dolls. Also, I shouldn't feel bad that Mim and Maura can't chat yet b/c at the end of the day, Miriam loves her sister and never complains about her. Well, for normal "Maura's eating my cookie/standing in front of the tv" complaining. But Miriam has never wished for a better sister. When Mim does sigh about "I wish Maura could do this with me", I tell her that Maura will someday, it's our job to teach her how to do it. And then Mim perks up b/c she LOVES playing teacher and Maura loves interacting with her and Miriam will say now how she taught Maura how to play with dolls, lol!<br><br>
Miriam's in dance class - and Maura is so wanting to take part, you can just see it as she watches the girls dance and bounces along. I've decided that instead of whining over the fact Maura can't take dance yet, I'm looking forward to when she can take dance. She's following directions better and better, to the point I'm going to ask the teacher what more Maura will need to be able to do to join the wee dance class.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> Oh yeah, I so know what you mean. I get a mixed feeling of sadness, jealousy, and nausea. It just amazes me when I hear typically developing kids talk. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: Then the amazement passes and I just feel sad and sick and queasy.
 
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