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DS2 is still small - I guess at around 7ish pounds - and my boobs are huge, bigger than his head. It seems like no matter what position I put him in I am having to hold my breast back from his nose. A few mamas have chuckled and told me it wasn't necessary, but if I don't hold my breast out of the way he starts gasping and will pull off so that he can breathe.<br><br>
I have two concerns. One - I'm afraid that having to push my breast out of the way will interfere with the natural shape of the breast and caused plugged ducts. Is this true?<br><br>
My second concern is that the only way I can comfortably nurse him is sitting crosslesgged on the couch with him propped on a pillow, a cross-cradle hold. In any other position, I have to contort myself in uncomfortable ways to hold my breast up and away from his face. Will I ever be able to nurse lying down or in a sling? I have a two year old, and being confined to the couch to nurse just isn't working. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
Maybe I'm doing something wrong. Any suggestions?
 

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I've personally found that leaning back slightly alleviates this problem.<br><br>
I'm making milk for a 2mo and a 2.5yo and I think he gets overwhelmed sometimes by the boob and leaning back slightly seems to help. I do this both when sitting and side lying nursing to alleviate the gasps.<br><br>
I haven't had a problem with providing an airway gap, as needed. I'm not sure if it would contribute to plugged ducts or mastitis, but if you are super prone to those, then I would certainly try to find new ways to latch. I found that putting William in the newborn carry a bit low in the maya wrap was a great way to get him to latch without having trouble getting air.<br><br>
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I had the same problem, dd is now 9 mos and I think finally her head is bigger than my boob!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I can't remember exactly when I got to quit using my finger as an airway, but I think around 2 or 3 mos. People told me the same thing, don't worry about it she can breath, but like yours she would eat until finally she had to pull off and take a big breath. As far as the clogged ducts, I tried to move my finger around a little and sometomes used 3 or 4 fingers instead of one, I only got redness a couple of times. One of the things that I found helped with nursing laying down was to position dd a lottle below my breast so that she had to tip her head back just a little to latch on, leaving more room between my breast and her nose, this is how we slept for quite awhile, becasue I would forget to hold my finger there when I was half asleep. Another thing that worked pretty well when laying down was to pull the underside of my breast towards me so that my nipple was almost on the bed, that way only her top nostril was blocked and the bottom one had a space right by the mattress. well I hope this helps, and don't worry it will pass!!
 

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It does get better when they get older and have better head control (and a bigger head!). I had similar problems when my LO was a tiny newborn.<br><br>
One thing to try is tilting his head back a little further, with his chin pressed into your breast instead of his nose. Kellymom.com says the baby's nose shouldn't be touching the breast. Your nipple should be pointed toward the roof of his mouth when he takes it into his mouth.<br><br>
Hope that helps!<br><br>
P.S. I *love* the names you chose for your sons. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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My mw said that the baby's nose is specially designed to open more when it is slightly smushed up against a giant milky boob. I was ginaormous right after giving birth! For the first couple of weeks, ds would only eat sitting straight up. After that we got the hang of other holds, inlcuding side lying. I think this is actually easier with big boobs - a lot of people say they find it difficult, but it is easy with a dangly boobie! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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DD does that still when I try to do sidelaying - I just end up so uncomfortable that I sit up in bed with the Brestfriend at night!<br><br>
I had to do that all the time until she was probably 10 or 11 weeks even sitting up... I have bigger, soft boobs and DD was tiny. I had one duct get plugged once, but I had other issues going on. I move my finger around. I'd sometimes not be paying attention and would notice her not breathing and would push my breast in and she'd do a huge inhale through her nose. She only popped off once.<br><br>
Also do try pushing her upper back way in close to you so that her head tilts back - that helps some. I feel bad pushing on her neck or head, but very high up on her back does the trick.
 

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I had a lot of difficulty in the beginning with my first baby. A baby's nose and face is shaped to help it breath easier but a big soft breast pushed in your face needs to be held and adjusted carefully to prevent problems.<br><br>
My little guy was clearly overwhelmed by my huge pillowy breasts and I was overwhelmed by the weight of them. My nipples point downward so I need to lift my breast just to see where to position him and then support it so he wouldn't get smothered or lost under my boobage. Ds wasn't nearly as heavy as one of my boobs and it killed my arms trying to nurse him. Leaning back helps or using your leg to help support either the baby or boob to give your arm a rest. Lying on your back or side is definitely easier for mommas with huge breasts.
 

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I had the same problem with my second, especially since his mouth was really small and his cheeks were really fat. I used 3 fingers to hold my breast out of his way so he could breath, and never had a problem. I found that he didn't like to nurse laying down either, while my first one prefered that, so I tried laying back on some pillows, so I was more reclined than prone, and layed him on top of me. He was able to hold his head up really early, so he would just stay up high enough that he could breath and still nurse. That worked well too. I also had a 2.5 year old then, so I know what you mean about it being hard to manage them both when you need both hands to nurse. We got into a routine where the older one would hold a book which I would read to them both, he loved it because he got to be a "big boy" and turn pages, and we could nurse as long as we needed to. It took a long time to get that routine established though, so don't give up. You will find something that works.
 

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I had similar problems with DD. I had to depress my breast a lot so she could breathe for the first several weeks. I never got a plugged duct from it. Around 2-3 months she finally realized/had the control to tilt her head back. Lying down took a lot of practice but around 3-4 months I felt so comfortable I would sleep while she nursed knowing she wouldn't sufficate.<br><br>
I understand it can be frustrating. I still "hold" my boob sometimes for her out of habit but she really doesn't need it. I have other kids at home too and know it can be frustrating being limited to postions for nursing. Hang in there! She'll grow and it will get easier!
 

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One position I just found accidentally is to sit cross legged on my bed, dangling his legs between mine. He's sitting up basically and leaning slightly back. I hold the back of his neck with one hand.
 

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I had this issue. I still occasionally use my finger to compress the breast tissue. My LC told me that the baby can breathe just fine, but he could not. He would gasp for air. I think it depends on the baby, his nose, and the softness of your breast.<br><br>
(For instance -- although we do not use pacis, I have tried a few, and they are all far too big in the outside part to fit between his nose and his mouth. He has a very small space between his nose and his mouth; other babies have more of a turned-up nose.)
 

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I had so many people tell me NOT to push back breast tissue from the babe's nose. They said there was no way he'd have trouble breathing because he'd just unlatch if he did. Um...but I want him to eat?<br><br>
So I did clear him a little 'breathing room' everytime we nursed for the first month or two. Just be careful not to do that in a way that pulls on the nipple and moves it out of place. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Edited to add: It definitely gets better as the baby gets bigger/stronger. And when getting the babe latched on, I always pointed my nipple at his nose so he had to tilt his head *back* a little in order to latch on. That kept his nose a bit farther away.
 

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same sort of stuff, big breasts, little guy. I held my breasts back a bit for a couple months then they got old enought to deal...no plugged ducts or problems except just figuring out the initial comfort zone. I loved nursing.
 

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nak...<br><br>
My LO is almost 5 mos and I still have to help her. Like a pp said, I dn't want her to pull off. It's better side lying vbecause i can roll away from her a little.
 

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My daughter is 7 months and I still support my breast while she feeds. I also had to do that for my first son throughout his time nursing. It has never caused me any trouble, the only time I ever had any trouble with clogged ducts was with my second son, who I chose not to nurse.
 

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For side nursing head control will help. I had to nurse DD sitting up for 6 weeks. DS had awesome head control so he could nurse laying down from the start. I always have to press against my boob a tiny bit to create an air pocket. I did that for 3.5 years for DD. After awhile you will figure out how to let go for a little bit and they will suckle but that is usually after they are asleep.
 
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