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My oldest son (9) was at a computer class today so the other three kids and I went to a park near the class (with another friend... her son is in the class too). As we are sitting there, this woman asks how old one of my other kids is (my 5 year old son), so I tell her, and she says "Oh, he isn't in school?" I say no we homeschool. Which she says is great and how her dd (she was the grandma of the little girl my son was playing with) runs a charter school and how bad public school system is in our state and yada yada. The she asks if we are ever around other children, and adults (I always find this so humorous. Especially if you ever met my 5 year old, he is so social, in fact maybe too social. LOL <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ), which I tell her yes, we are part of a homeschool group and we see people all the time. Then she says "That's good. Because kids can't learn everything from their mom. I mean they need teachers" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: I just sort of nod and turn to my friend and we start chatting. It was so weird.<br>
Some one resently here said something that was so right on, that school as we know it is really new and that kids have learned from their parents for most of all of time. So 100 years ago my kids could learn all they needed from me, but now I have somehow morfed into a moron and can not possibly teach or lead or help my children now. Wild.<br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Then she says "That's good. Because kids can't learn everything from their mom. I mean they need teachers" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br></div>
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SO many people say this to me. Including my mom, who is very supportive of what we are doing. I don't get it either, except that maybe kids feel more comfortable fussing at their parents so they are more likely to object to being made to do things they don't want to do? I almost wonder if it was in some popular parenting book back in the day, or something.
 

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I think there is some value in having your children exposed to different styles of "teaching"...I know my DS has really shone under the guidance of his gymnastics coach who really seems to "get" him and it really makes me feel great watching him interact with someone else in a teaching/coach capacity KWIM?<br><br>
But I get what you are saying as well...yes I can teach my kids everything they need to know just fine (or actually I can teach my kids how to find for themselves everything the decide they need to know...which is a bit more challenging LOL but also more fun <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">SO many people say this to me. Including my mom, who is very supportive of what we are doing. I don't get it either, except that maybe kids feel more comfortable fussing at their parents so they are more likely to object to being made to do things they don't want to do? I almost wonder if it was in some popular parenting book back in the day, or something.</div>
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<span>I wonder if it's just part of the same ol' notion that children need to be "schooled" - so if they're not in a school, they at least need to bounce off of a lot of different teachers in order to get formed into the proper shape, kind of like rocks in a tumbler... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes"> - Lillian</span>
 

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I wonder if it's just part of the same ol' notion that children need to be "schooled" - so if they're not in a school, they at least need to bounce off of a lot of different teachers in order to get formed into the proper shape, kind of like rocks in a tumbler... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes"> - Lillian</span></div>
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So true!<br><br><br>
There was an incident recently in the next town over where a middle school substitute teacher was arrested for using cocaine in the classroom <i>during</i> class. The kids noticed her doing something unusual.<br><br>
You can bet my kids wouldn't learn that at home <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I get that comment, too. It's almost as if people are compelled to say it. Have you noticed it's usually spoken in a robot voice?<br><br>
Kids.need.exposure.to.other.adults.Kids.need.socia lization.Kids.need.to.be.in.school.
 

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I agree with this, too. I know I will be the one to know my child best for years to come; however that doesn't mean that there might not be some subjects in the future where he wouldn't benefit from someone else being able to explain something differently than I could, or would think to do.<br><br>
In my mind those situations would occur quite a bit later than age 5, though. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Oh, I know my kids can't learn every single thing from me... that was why my oldest son was at a computer programing class, I don't know how to do that and have no desire to learn to do it to teach him. Just like when my dd was in tap... I didn't want to learn to tap dance to teach her, so I sent her someplace that would.<br>
But to me those are exceptions, I can actually give my children all the tools they need to learn whatever it is they wish to know. I don't think you get that in school. They give the info they want you to memorize, and then the kids reguritate it back to them in the form of correct test results... tada they "learned". I think my kids are better equiped because I am teaching them how to find out the answers for themselves, not just spoonfeeding them whatever it is I want them to know. Which I don't think I could ever explain in a 5 minute park conversation. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
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I can't help but wonder if this is the sad flip side to the feminist movement? As a feminist I feel saddened but I wonder if 'the movement' focused so much on getting women out of the home that it devalued what mother's have to offer? Of course the role feminists were denegrating was not that of home teacher, but it does seem as if the movement of women out of the home, of insisting that we should be out of the home to be valuable, is another kind of prison.<br><br>
Until we value our own intelligence, without having it defined by either our workplace, our partner etc as a society we will always undervalue what women have to offer.<br><br>
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PS Why is the only good reason to homeschool that schools are crap? Couldn't it just be that homeschooling is a unique experience unlike any other?
 

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Ok, I can't figure out how to quote... but your PS Emmalina, is so true. The school my dd went to years ago wasn't crap, we just decided that we wanted to homeschool instead. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
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