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My oldest is leaving home to go away to school in August. He was planning to do another year at community college but an excellent opportunity has presented itself for him to transfer to SFSU - 8 hours away. I am so proud and excited for him but at the same time I am so sad. I can't believe my baby is an adult. I will miss him terribly<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying"> (I am teary as I am typing) I don't want him to see me upset because he is so sensitive he might not go then.<br><br>
Is it normal to feel this way?
 

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Perfectly normal. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
I remember how my neighbor (Mother to 4, Step Mother to 4, all in one house <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: ) cried<br>
the day her dd (and the youngest) left for college. She cried just as hard as she did when<br>
the first went. That's your child, your baby, no matter how grown. You can take pride<br>
though that you raised such a fine young man.
 

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My oldest is 19 1/2, but it's going to be my 17yo dd that leaves home first... the end of this summer. I think we're both ready for it, but I know I'll be a soggy mess when it actually happens. It's supposed to be like that... it means you did something right and you have a good bond with your kid.<br><br>
It went by so fast, didn't it?
 

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I know exactly what you're saying. My oldest daughter will be a junior in college and I still miss her very much....This summer she took a job working for her college so she won't be home. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
My second daughter is in high school and I am not looking forward to the day when she leaves.<br><br>
When I see families with little kids, I feel envious of them. I do, though, talk to people who get a wonderful feeling of freedom after all the kids have all left...
 

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Pefectly normal! And if he asks about the tears, just tell him the truth. They are bittersweet, a happy kind of tear kissed with years of love.
 

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Check out this link. I just saw this on collegeconfidential.<br><br><a href="http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/12778684/site/newsweek/" target="_blank">http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/12778684/site/newsweek/</a>
 

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Of course it hurts. You've done a wonderful job raising your son and I'm sure you will be able to restructure your relationship with the man he has become into one of equals and you will come to him for advice as often as he comes to you. He has absorbed more of your values and dreams and hopes for her than you realize and that when you see her expressing them in his own way, you will be so proud but it will never, ever be the same as when he was a child.<br><br>
Why is it that if somebody devotes their whole life to a difficult career and comes in to work one day to find that their position has been eliminated and their talents are no longer needed and all that is left for them is competing with untrained teenagers for meaningless menial jobs (Think, "Ya want fries with that?") we have sympathy for their tragedy AS LONG as they are a man or a woman doing a traditionally masculine job.<br><br>
If that person happens to be a mother, we laugh at them and demean them and trivialize them with terms like "helicopter parent" and "smother mother".
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/happytears.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="happytears">: oh, you mamas are the best!
 

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*hugs*<br>
At least you are letting him go!<br>
My mom was a wreck when I decided to leave for college, and it took a while for her to settle with this decision!<br><br>
*hugs*
 

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Oh, that will be me in a year or two. My oldest graduates grade 12 this year, then he's going to a local upgrading center to make up some courses. I/m not looking forward to it!
 
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