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I should consider myself lucky - it was above normal for most of November and December. But then it's been soooooo cooooold for the past bunch of weeks, and with the ice storm we had last week, it's been even worse. I'm seriously going stir-crazy indoors. At least if we had regular snow I'd bundle everyone up and try playing outside for a few minutes, but our yard is literally a sheet of ice - I walked outside yesterday and slid down the teeny tiny slope near our patio.<br><br>
So what are you guys doing to pass the time indoors? Places like Gymboree and Music Together are out, and even if the library story hour was at a reasonable time for my girls (it's right during nap time) I wouldn't really be all that comfortable with that. We have one other set of preemie twin friends we go see sometimes, but they've had colds lately. And I try and visit my best friend and her kids (newborn and 2.5 year old who is usually quite healthy) but she's a 30-minute drive away, and I can't do that every day anyway. We live down the street from the mall, but how many times can I walk that darn hallway, particularly when we don't have any money to spare!<br><br>
Please tell me I'm not the only one feeling bored silly? And please offer any suggestions you can think of! Counting down the days until Spring only occupies a few moments each day and doesn't really interest the girls all that much.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Yeah, I can't wait for spring either. We're still limiting our exposure to the outside world (at least ds2 and I are) so I really look forward to the days that are warm enough to spend outside. I guess I don;t really have any suggestions, just commiserating. I get even more stir crazy trying to keep ds1 occupied without the TV being on all day. Fortunately for both of us Dh takes him out to play somewhere almost every afernoon and weekend(restaurant playground, aquarium, park, Walmart- very entertaining for an almost 3 yo). I personally spend way too much time here <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">.
 

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join the cabin fever club<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:<br><br>
although dd is not a preemie, she is still at risk for getting sick..so we've been hibernating(sp) all winter long, and let me just say...i CAN"T wait until spring/summer <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
its cold and icy here too, and just miserable! my negiboor has a 4 month old ds, and he spent 1 month in the nicu, so he is on isolation too, so if its not us thats sick,its him <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/sneeze.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Sneeze">:
 

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Oh yes, I will join the cabin fever club. I have al least our house up for sale to occupy some time but we dont go to the mall, kiddy classes, musuems etc right now to catch God only knows what so its getting old real fast.
 

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I've mostly just gone out for doc appts. Last Wed was the Synagis shot at the hospital and guess what, I came down with a stomach bug this weekend <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/inthet.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="inthet"> So glad I'm avoiding all the places I'd really like to be <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: At least no one else in the family has come down with it (yet) and I'm eating some toast now.
 

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It does feel better knowing we're not the only bored crew here! I did go to one playgroun day at my BFs house - mostly older toddlers and they all knew I was coming so everyone was making sure their kids were healthy, etc. Wouldn't you know I ended up with a horrible cold afterwards? My BF got it too. Luckily the girls didn't get it, but yeah, that scared me off that stuff for a while anyway.<br><br>
We're going to the ped on Thursday. Whee! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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We just do our thing--we go out to lunch, indoor playspaces, book discussion groups, playdates with friends, libraries, etc etc. I guess it's just a difference in philosophy, but they're just kids and I treat them as such. It's not like they just got out of the hospital...They're 15 months old now, they like to crawl and explore and interact with people and have new experiences. We just got over a major illness which we picked up in a doctor's office, so go figure.<br><br>
You *can* take them places if you want!
 

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I want to build crazy forts in our family room, we have a couple tents and a tunnel, and whatever blankets, sheets and pillows to make it cozy. We'll eat our lunches picnic style. If I'm feeling like it maybe I'll even vacuum the dust bunnies. They help/play with whatever work I am doing, my dd likes her brother's clean underwear on her head.<br><br>
Lots of art projects, wet paper watercoloring, fingerpainting, and drawing, lots of stories/books too. Play in the kitchen with dried beans, bowls, measuring cups. Play in the bath with bubbles, toys that we don't normally have in there. Lots of music and dancing around too,<br><br>
We get out to grocery shop, and often to the library, and some family visits. As the weather has turned a tad warmer, we'll be out for some walks, the park, and sledding.
 

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I agree with BetsyNY, we just get out. :| The indoor play place at our mall can be conquered with a blanket for the little girls to sit on while my older daughter plays. They go to storytime at the library, twice a week, and we hand sanitize afterwards. We let our older daughter go to her church group every week. Leche League and our monthly AP meetings are always a must for my sanity to interact with other Mamas.<br><br>
Everywhere we go, I mainly try to keep them in their stroller, a carrier, or on their own blanket with their own toys. But regardless, they do end up playing with other things and other babies.<br><br>
The two times we've gotten sick this Winter were from Grandma coming to visit and once from my DH bringing home a cold from work.<br><br>
I don't let them chew on grocery carts or lick other kids, but maybe we're just lucky. They are 10 months old and just now getting mobile. We did not choose to do RSV, somewhat of a moot point because insurance wouldn't have covered it anyway.
 

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I'll be much more laid back next winter but since ds just came home in Oct. I'm not as comfortable with lots of exposure. We do go out some but usually to more open places and at times they're typically less crowded. I've really missed church and can't wait to get back.<br><br>
What is it with people, esp. strangers, thinking it's okay to get in the face of a small baby and to touch their face or hands? I can't handle that while trying to wrangle a toddler.
 

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Somehow I've ended up feeling bad about my decision not to put my girls in classes and playgroups, which I didn't expect here. The girls' neonatalogists and Kate's pulmonologist advised us pretty strongly against this stuff during RSV season. I could ignore that, but I've chosen not to, and I guess it works because since they were born they've only had 2 mild colds.<br><br>
We do go out to restaurants, the mall, etc. but not to places where they are going to be mouthing a lot of stuff that other kids have been mouthing. Part of the problem is finding <b>free</b> things to do in the winter, which I guess now that I think of it was a problem long before I had babies.<br><br>
Grandma brought over another bag of new toys today. And judging from the girls' demeanor it's probably safe to say that I'm suffering the cabin fever more than they are.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Somehow I've ended up feeling bad about my decision not to put my girls in classes and playgroups, which I didn't expect here. The girls' neonatalogists and Kate's pulmonologist advised us pretty strongly against this stuff during RSV season. I could ignore that, but I've chosen not to, and I guess it works because since they were born they've only had 2 mild colds.<br><br>
We do go out to restaurants, the mall, etc. but not to places where they are going to be mouthing a lot of stuff that other kids have been mouthing. Part of the problem is finding <b>free</b> things to do in the winter, which I guess now that I think of it was a problem long before I had babies.</div>
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Don't feel bad about making your girl's health a priority. My first was born 6 weeks early but otherwise didn't have any problems (low birth weight, breathing problems or other complications). When winter rolled around about 7 months later we were careful; no nursery, runny-nosed playdates. He only got one little cold so I felt the precautions were worth it. Some friends who had a baby in the NICU around the same time as us had to take their ds back to the hospital b/c of flu. My sister said at church they'd let everyone hold her. It's just not worth my baby's health. So far ds2 has only had a brief fever and a mild cold, both of which he picked up from ds1.<br><br>
About the free stuff, I found it really hard to find free cold weather options for ds1 when he was your girl's age. They aren't really old enough to sit quietly and enjoy a story time and are too young for playgrounds. We mostly just hung out with friends or took walks when warm enough or ran errands.
 

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Why would you feel bad? I was just presenting another solution to the problem. Different strokes for different folks and all that.<br><br>
And I have to say that just because we do go out and do things doesn't mean that health isn't a priority for us. Obviously we use common sense, but we elect to be out in the world, too. That's all. And I know it makes me something of a freak among preemie moms, but it works for us.
 

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Eh, I'm just being oversensitive. (I've made that an art form of late.) <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br><br>
Ah crap, there's a baby crying.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Why would you feel bad? I was just presenting another solution to the problem. Different strokes for different folks and all that.<br><br>
And I have to say that just because we do go out and do things doesn't mean that health isn't a priority for us. Obviously we use common sense, but we elect to be out in the world, too. That's all. And I know it makes me something of a freak among preemie moms, but it works for us.</div>
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I've done the same and get flamed for it frequently<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: . My neonatologist told me the day I was discharged NOT to keep him in a bubble. Go about life as normal, just dont expose him to obvious problems, like the kid in the mall with the runny nose, ect. I have a 2.5 year old son as well, so the doc said if he was going to pick something up it would probably be from him because 2 year olds are germ factorys.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I've done the same and get flamed for it frequently<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: . My neonatologist told me the day I was discharged NOT to keep him in a bubble. Go about life as normal, just dont expose him to obvious problems, like the kid in the mall with the runny nose, ect. I have a 2.5 year old son as well, so the doc said if he was going to pick something up it would probably be from him because 2 year olds are germ factorys.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:</div>
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Yeah, same for us...our neonatologist told us the same thing in almost the exact same words (minus the 2-year-old part). I guess a lot depends on the doctor you have (though I think our pulmonologist was slightly horrified when I told her all the things we do--but she was happy with how they're doing, so she didn't tell us to stop).
 

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We took Sydney out a few times earlier this month. was just so sick of winter. Now she's sick and on 3 different steroids. I'm blaming it on a restaurant table and teething little fingers. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> And feeling like a horrid mommy.<br><br>
So yeah, we'll join the cabin fever club <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Our doctors have also told us that if we need to go out, do so, but now that I've seen how sick she can get, I'm going back to bubble mode. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:
 

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I guess it's the implication that because I don't take my kids to playgroup and Gymboree that I am "living in a bubble" and depriving them of normal childhood experiences that bothers me. We do take them out plenty - shopping, restaurants, the aquarium, etc. We just avoid close contact with other babies, places that everyone is mouthing the same toys. Unfortunately, in the winter, that cuts out a good chunk of activities. We are going to the ped today, so I'll see if he's changed his advice. But honestly what I'm doing has kept them awfully healthy. I was about to put them in Music Together and a friend on another board told me her kids (35-weekers) were sick the entire 10 weeks of the program because they give the kids instruments and they all mouth on them and pass them around. No thanks.
 
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