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<p>So, I tend to take things to heart... cry easily, get angry easily, etc...  The past few weeks though I have been a weepy mess!  Over real stuff... a problem with DD and another kid at school... but also over minor things... I couldn't find DD and DH in the store for 10 minutes the other day... but also over silly stuff, really silly stuff... whether DD's doll should stay in the car with me for the day or go back in the house.  Really, why did I want to have the doll in the car all day? </p>
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<p>It's hormones.  I know it's hormones.  And, exhaustion.  But, really this is too much.  I can't take how often my eyes fill with tears, and in public! </p>
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<p>Please, don't be concerned.  I'm not depressed at all.  I'm barely even stressed.  I'm just a big crying baby!</p>
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<p>Anyone else?  Anyone able to tell me it's cyclical and I won't be this way for the remainder of pregnancy and then the 6 weeks post-partum while my body dumps all those hormones?  Please, anyone want to just tell me that?</p>
 

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<p>*hugs* Oh, I'm feeling you on this one. It is my hormones, I know. Still, sleep and food help a lot. Like, don't let yourself get hungry and sleep as much as you need. I've been going to bed earlier. Naps would help too, but I don't like to nap. It's unbelievable how much sleep (or the lack thereof) affects me. Perhaps you're in the same boat? I had to make sleep a necessity instead of a goal. Prenatal yoga with Collette Crawford has been extraordinarily helpful (though the first few times parts of the meditation made me weepy and I don't really believe in mediating on "no mind, no time". Ultimately the dvd has been beneficial). Hope this helps.</p>
 

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<p>I've been dealing with some prenatal depression, so I understand. I spent most of yesterday in tears, it's hard. :(</p>
 

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<p>I can totally relate! </p>
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<p>I actually just starting writing a thread like this yesterday when I lost the thread and didn't feel like retyping it.</p>
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<p>I cry over everything these days, it's crazy!  I went to see Les Miserables for the 5th time (it's always been my favorite!) and I literally cried through about 45 minutes of the first act.  I probably know all the words to all the songs and I know exactly what happens and I was just a mess.</p>
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<p>I work at a college campus and went to a Take Back the Night coffeehouse the other night (sexual violence) and I shouldnt have gone..I just can't handle things like that when I'm pregnant. </p>
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<p>Anything that has to do with babies or children makes me cry..every time I try to have a serious conversation with DH I cry.  I can't handle most TV shows/movies without losing it.</p>
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<p>I remember being this way with DD and even worse postpartum.  I didn't have any depression or anything just tearing up at every little thing, good or bad.  I'm definitely more sensitive in general than before I had kids but the crazy hormone driven crying does get better.</p>
 

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<p>so, i have been feeling rather annoyed and frustrated with 'stuff' recently.  instead of being grateful for so many things that are awesome in my life, i am really just annoyed or let down by details.  i feel bad for having such a bad attitude but yep, that's just where i am at these days.  a big part of it is being in a developing country without decent sanitation and living a different lifestyle.  I miss my house, the grocery store, my washing machine and an indoor bathroom.  thanks for putting words and attention to what you are going through- it feels less intense when it's normal.  love. </p>
 

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<p>Yep. EVERYTHING makes me cry. DH told me he was tired of hearing my tell him he was hurting my feelings... but he's always hurting my feelings, even though I know it wasn't meant to... Hormones... so fun...</p>
 

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<p>I was pretty weepy/emotional for a while, but I seem to be a bit better now.  I'm still more emotional than normal but it is definitely better than it was a few weeks ago.  Maybe it will pass for you too, parsley! </p>
 

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<p><strong>Atomicrocket</strong> - thanks for saying what I wanted to hear! </p>
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<p>Thanks everyone else for commiserating.  I am always sensitive to hormones so at least I *know* why I'm so emotional.  Doesn't make me feel less cranky though. </p>
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<p><strong>Jaysmylilpumpkin</strong> - I've found myself asking DH to stop yelling at inanimate objects (like his computer) even though that is his "work style" because his tone of voice makes me want to cry.  Talk about tip-toeing around me!</p>
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<p><strong>Bluedaisy</strong>- postpartum was brutal for me last time as well.  I can just remember feeling that it was like a hormone dump.  All of a sudden I'd get hot and sweaty and start to cry.  Makes me dread menopause!  I've also totally avoided anything about sexual violence, domestic violence, abducted children, etc... since becoming pregnant with DD (so more than 4 years ago now).  I could barely take that stuff when I wasn't pregnant or had a child.  Now it's fantasy and politics only.  I actually had to sit in my midwives waiting room (shared with an OB practice) with my fingers in my ears and my back to the tv recently as some awful talk show had children relive their experience of abuse.  I was crying by the time my appt. came.  But, everyone else was just sitting and watching the tv!</p>
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<p><strong>RightofPassage</strong> - I'm sorry to hear that you are still struggling.  Have you dealt with depression before?  I know how debilitating and it can be.  I'm happy to talk more if you want to PM me. </p>
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<p><strong>MommyBecky</strong> - Enough sleep would help.  My insomnia has kicked up and (as I've mentioned on other threads) my DD still doesn't sleep through the night and I NEVER nap!  I really should have said that I'm a tired crying baby!  I've totally let the yoga go but I've also found in the past that it really helps me stay centered and calm.  Maybe I'll take some time today to do one of my dvds.  I certainly wouldn't hurt!</p>
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<p><strong>Gunter</strong> - when are you planning to travel back to the U.S.?  It must be hard to be both pregnant and in a foreign place where you have to learn everything anew. </p>
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<p>I am definitely in the same boat. Yesterday DS2 wasn't listening and hit me in the face with an action figure (after I asked him to stop waving it in front of my face) and I just burst into tears. He looked at me like "omg... omg..." and then we cried together. He cried because I cried and I cried because I'm a baby. Even little things are bothering me, like DS1 not listening. Nothing is "cry worthy" but I can't help it and the tears come. Thankfully DH has been patient with me. So you're definitely not crazy. I think it's all of us. </p>
 

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<p>We were unfortunate enought to cross paths with a crazy woman yesterday at the children's museum.  She grabbed my childs leg to try to pull him out from underneath a play car repair shop, saying that it was her son's turn.  I told her that people do not appreciate someone grabbing their child, and she actually started arguing with me.  I was proud of the way I handled the situation because I was so mad that I was shaking, but I did not stoop to her level of instanity in front of the children.  I try to be a good role model for my kids, to be assertive and calm, but I could have dropped that woman with a Karate move and been pleased.  I did, however have to ask her if she was some kind of psycho for actually following me, and had to tell her "shame on you" for arguing with and upsetting a pregnant woman!  I would never, ever dream of doing something like that.  So yes, my emotions were tested big time yesterday!</p>
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<p>I'm not a crier, like at all and not ever in public, and I started crying at work because I thought that I might not get a baby shower! I don't even like baby showers, not my scene at all, but I'm obessed about having one for me! Thankfully, I was on my way out and no one saw (I work in a male dominated company). My sister in law is throwing me a baby shower too, which of course made me cry. She wanted it to be a surprise but my DH told me so I wouldn't work my self up and be upset all the time.  </p>
 

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<p>jai- some lady pulled your kid by the leg?  you handled it well no matter what!  pregnant or not i would have been irate and let it show!  wow.  it's amazing that someone did that to a child.</p>
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<p>mamanoish- my DD hit me in the lip with a toy a couple of weeks ago and even though we were all sitting on the floor with friends and it was an accident, i totally burst into tears and could not stop crying.  it hurt physically and emotionally.  i so hear ya!</p>
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<p>parsley- this is our third trip here and we stay in the same house each time and i work at the same birth center.  but, goodness even the familiarity of walking outside to use the bathroom, an open air kitchen full of flies/mosquitoes, and hand-washing amniotic fluid/blood stained clothes has become enough! for me at this point.  bring me back to my washing machine and indoor cooking and peeing!  ;)  I love the work I get to do here but there are such huge cultural differences that eventually begin to bother me; I can let them go for a while but I am just struggling with stuff right now.  I feel very American with my "get things done" mentality and things move a lot slower here.  we leave next week for a few days rest and fun in korea!  thanks for asking and checking in on me.</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Gunter</strong> <a href="/community/t/1335542/so-emotional#post_16741723"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br><p>jai- some lady pulled your kid by the leg?  you handled it well no matter what!  pregnant or not i would have been irate and let it show!  wow.  it's amazing that someone did that to a child.</p>
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<br><br><p>Yeah, seriously. I would have FLIPPED. Bravo to you for keeping your cool. </p>
 

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<p>OMG, yes! The hormones are OUT OF CONTROL. I finally told DH the other day "I know I'm crazy, I'm insane, I want everything my way, and you need to go along with that or I don't want to be with you for the rest of the pregnancy (or something along those lines). Basically I said I need to get my way and he needs to suffer with me or take a hike! He agreed! He can tell I'm on the verge of losing it pretty much every day.</p>
<p>I know sleep has so much to do with it, but how do you sleep with a toddler who only sleeps 9 hrs/night?? I just can't fall asleep for naps, I have total insomnia issues! It's nice to know I'm not alone, though I would wish this on no one!</p>
 

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<p>Me too! The emotional hormones have really hit me hard the past few weeks to the point of laying on the bathroom floor sobbing on more than one occasion. Financial stress and my husbands unemployment have a lot to do with it. Also the first half of my pregnancy was very difficult and I feel like I have so much catching up to do now that I am feeling better.</p>
<p>I get really emotional over really dumb things too, like the garbage policy changing for our City and the fact that we did not get a compost bin that we were supposed to get from our garbage collectors. I freaked out and this bothered me for weeks until I finally asked my landlord to deal with it, now we have a bin and I could care less, but at the time it was so important.</p>
<p>Thats why I think baby is a girl. I was like this with my first pregnancy, a girl, and not so much with my son.</p>
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<p>Ugh.  I just had my first totally hormonal moment this morning.  My sisters are complaining that my friends are planning the baby shower too much without their input, while at the SAME TIME complaining that they feel like they are being asked to do too much surrounding the baby.  (Like please come visit after it is born and help out for a long weekend?)</p>
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<p>I just wanted to say f*** it all and no baby shower, no family visits, I will just do this whole thing on my own thank you very much.  Walking down the street on the phone with my husband crying while in a suit is not the most attractive look for me. </p>
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<p>I'm just really scared these days of the isolation I am going to feel once the baby comes.  I live 1 hour away from all of my friends on one side and 1 hr from work friends on the other side (hubby and I live in between each of our jobs and commute a long time). Family is 4-10 hours away.  I feel sometimes like having the baby will be like falling off a cliff, where I won't have time to eat, or work out, or sleep, and I'll just be alone in dark March with this creature and no one to visit.  My husband gets a few weeks off, which is wonderful, but I'm scared of what will happen when he has to go back and I still have 2 1/2 months. </p>
 

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<p>i am so guarded about not getting isolated and having things in place to keep things easier post-partum.  have you thought about hiring a post-partum doula to come 2-3 days a week?  even one who is in training may be good company and an extra pair of hand to do laundry, make a meal, hold the babe or sit by the babe while you rest/shower/MDC.  just a thought.</p>
 

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<p>So, it does seem like it was cyclical for me.  Last week I was a wreck... culminating in a horrible weekend visit from in-laws that left me crying for 2 hours straight on Sat. night.  I was a little weepy on Monday but then the rest of this week I've been fine, despite tons of stress at work too.   It makes it easier for me to deal with the weepy periods if I know that there is an end in sight.  I hope some of you are also doing better. </p>
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<p>Your post, TeamGR, really hit home for me.  I'm feeling decidedly unsupported by family.  No one calls to see how I'm doing.  Haven't talked to my dad in weeks (and we usually talk 1x a week and at times a few times a week).  I think I'm in a fight with my sister with whom I never fight.  I'm not sure I have childcare lined up for when the baby is born... haven't asked but also haven't had anyone offer.  And, my charming in-laws suggested "oh it will be so easy this time.  You won't have to worry about work (yeah right!) and you have everything you need".  I got pretty pissed and found myself listing everything I'll still have to do for work, everything we'll have to buy for the baby, and everything I have to do for DD... all at the same time I'm thinking how much I won't want their help!  </p>
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<p>All of this has me thinking about what the time after the baby is born will be like.  What do I actually want to have happen?  What support do we need to make it happen?  What do we NOT need?  I'm thinking I'm going to start another thread to get ideas from people about what works... or not.  I found post-partum so hard last time.  I never took it easy.  I just went on sleep deprived and exhausted.  Family visited but they never helped.  I pushed myself too hard and pulled a muscle that tore out my c-section staples that caused me not to heal for weeks and weeks.  And, I found the hot flashing hormone dumps in the middle of the night brutal.  Ugh it was awful.  I am NOT going to let that happen again. </p>
 

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<p>Parsley, sorry to hear you are feeling unsupported by your family. I read your other thread with the postpartum plan, and it sounds wonderful.  I'm going to start thinking about mine right now. </p>
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<p>I'm really starting to think hard about creating a bubble around myself- just stopping any negative influences in their tracks, and get back to my yoga self- calm, centered, at peace.  Hopefully from that I can start to overcome my real fear of postpartum loneliness and start taking definitive steps- like a postpartum doula or other plans that will be helpful. </p>
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<p>Parsley, I know how you feel.  I am reluctant to ask for help, and it is not openly offered. I am trying not to dwell on the postpartum negatives, and just keep thinking that we can get through this and it will get easier wtih time.  We found out that our baby will need surgery after birth, so trying to stay calm and positive is a major goal for me right now, along with preparation.  We have all of these great women here for support, you will not be alone!</p>
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