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My best friend, breastfeeding advocate, and CD using mama is haveing her 8 month old DS circ. tomorrow, and I am just gettting sick thinking about it! When he was born they wanted to do it, but the ped. on call thought something looked funny and didn't want to do it until a eurologist looked at it, to make sure the eurethera was comming out correctly??? Anyway, they kept planning to get it done, and this is the earliest the Eurologist will do the proceedure b/c they have to put him to sleep to do it! He will get a gas mask, to go to sleep, and then get the IVs, ect., and then get cut, and then wake up feeling sore, disoriented, ect. I feel SO horrible for both baby and mom. I kept asking her WHY she wanted to get it done, and she kept spouting all of this junk the Eurologist told her such as:<br><br>
He will thank you when he's older, it makes a better sex life as an adult, and he has several clients who can attest to how much better things were after thier circ, he will get infections and it will be hard to clean if he doesn't get it, if he gets type 2 diabetees, he will have to have it done as an adult (I thin kyou get the picture, I could go on and on, but 99.9% of it is untrue). I can't believe that she is actually listening to this guy!<br><br>
I have 2 girls, so the issue hasn't really become real to me as a parent. I haven't had to actually MAKE that decision, so I feel like I can't exactly empathize, KWIM? I do know, without a doubt, that if I were in her shoes there is NO WAY I would let them take a knife to my son, for NO reason! We were talking today, and she did ask me what I thought, so I told her. I was honest, and told her first that I respected her right to make the decison, as she is his mother, but I thought the Dr. was full of crap, and that keeping a penis clean isn't any harder than keeping a vagina clean, you just have to teach your child how to do it! Come on! I also told her that he probably wouldn't have any infection, and if he did, it wouldn't be anything that a little girl couldn't get if not kept clean, either. He is 8 months old, and perfectly healthy, I am just really getting upset, even to the point of just wanting to cry! It's really hurting me that they are making this decision! I keep telling myself that hey are doing what they think is best for thier child, and that is their right as a parent, but it's making me sick! How do others cope?<br><br>
I'm also worried that she will regret her decision later. Right now she is second thinking about his vaccinations, and has even refused some of them, so I know she will think this thru later, and I hate for her to have to regret this all her life! I told her that if she has ANY doubts, it's not too late to change her mind. The surgery starts at 8:00 in the morning. I'm going to be sick all night worrying about this! We are best friends, and she is the closet one to understanding my views on alot of things. I hate to say to much, but at the same time, I hate to not say anything, and later have her regret it! She is packing her bags to go to the hospital right now, but if anyone has any literature I could print out, I'd love the links!
He will thank you when he's older, it makes a better sex life as an adult, and he has several clients who can attest to how much better things were after thier circ, he will get infections and it will be hard to clean if he doesn't get it, if he gets type 2 diabetees, he will have to have it done as an adult (I thin kyou get the picture, I could go on and on, but 99.9% of it is untrue). I can't believe that she is actually listening to this guy!<br><br>
I have 2 girls, so the issue hasn't really become real to me as a parent. I haven't had to actually MAKE that decision, so I feel like I can't exactly empathize, KWIM? I do know, without a doubt, that if I were in her shoes there is NO WAY I would let them take a knife to my son, for NO reason! We were talking today, and she did ask me what I thought, so I told her. I was honest, and told her first that I respected her right to make the decison, as she is his mother, but I thought the Dr. was full of crap, and that keeping a penis clean isn't any harder than keeping a vagina clean, you just have to teach your child how to do it! Come on! I also told her that he probably wouldn't have any infection, and if he did, it wouldn't be anything that a little girl couldn't get if not kept clean, either. He is 8 months old, and perfectly healthy, I am just really getting upset, even to the point of just wanting to cry! It's really hurting me that they are making this decision! I keep telling myself that hey are doing what they think is best for thier child, and that is their right as a parent, but it's making me sick! How do others cope?<br><br>
I'm also worried that she will regret her decision later. Right now she is second thinking about his vaccinations, and has even refused some of them, so I know she will think this thru later, and I hate for her to have to regret this all her life! I told her that if she has ANY doubts, it's not too late to change her mind. The surgery starts at 8:00 in the morning. I'm going to be sick all night worrying about this! We are best friends, and she is the closet one to understanding my views on alot of things. I hate to say to much, but at the same time, I hate to not say anything, and later have her regret it! She is packing her bags to go to the hospital right now, but if anyone has any literature I could print out, I'd love the links!
uke ). So, remind her that it can always be done, but not undone, and that you don't want her to regret her decision and that's why you're encouraging her to do a bit more research.<br><br>
