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I've had boo on something of a schedule. Because it worked for us, blah blah blah. I was starting to feel really defensive about it. Like it wasnt 'good enough' to nurse him on schedule or something... Anyways, we've been travelling a bit, camping a bit, boo's been teething on some molars and has been really needing to nurse more. So i ditched the nursing routine that we were using. I figured if i was feeling defensive about not nursing on cue that maybe i should try out nursing on cue again and see what happens...<br><br>
And now, he's napping twice a day again, or if he doesnt nap twice he's a crankmonster. And a lot of the time he's really cranky anyways. I have no idea when he's going to be awake or when he's going to need to sleep. He's also nightwaking a LOT and nursing constantly thru the night. I dont doubt that the nightwaking is related to teething, but i was really liking sleeping thru the night. This is what happened before i started using a nursing routine...boo would get really sleepy and tired and fussy all the time. When we got into a routine where he only nursed before and just after sleep, he was a lot happier.<br><br>
It's also impossible to plan a trip into town (we live 1/2 hour away from anything). I tried taking him to toddler time at the library this week and it was a complete disaster. He needed to nurse and nap as soon as we got there. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">: So we left. I booked a photo session for his 2 year portraits, and i'm thinking that we'll probably end up having to cancel bc it's impossible to catch him in a good mood anymore.<br><br>
I want our routine back!! I want my happy boy back!! This totally sucks. I've tried delaying nursing to get us back on our old routine and it's impossible. He just wants to nurse all the time. I want to be able to hang out with him and DO stuff. And all he wants to do is breastfeed!
 

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Why would you feel bad about nursing a toddler on a schedule? Nursing a toddler is so different from nursing an infant. The nursing relationship should be negotiable if necessary at this point.
 

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I know and i absolutely agree with what you're saying, dodo...i always seem to do things the hard way though. Maybe when these darn molars are done we can get back to normal again.
 

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YMMV, but I have found, a baby/toddler can set their own schedule. Often it changes as the child grows. Just when it all seems to be set and you are used to it, it changes.<br><br>
Sometimes you can put off a nursing a this age. Certainly in a few more months you can.<br><br>
Teeth are a bitch! BTDT!!! This may have nothing to do with nursing or scheduling and just be pain and exhaustion. Poor lil guy.<br><br>
Often eating table foods is too painful when teething hard, so nursing increases.<br><br>
One thing I swore by was a routine for activites, not for nursing. Get up, eat, nurse, get dressed, go out somewhere. Groc shopping, for a walk, LLL mtg, playground, bookstore, friend's house, etc. Don't forget to bring a snack.<br><br>
Then, nap. In bed (1st kid) or sometimes car (when I had more than one kid).<br><br>
Lunch.<br><br>
Another activity, whether around the house/yard or out again. Water play, or dry rice in a big tub to play with was very popular, use like a sandbox, with toys. Set up on flr over tablecloth. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/reading.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="reading"><b>Playful Learning</b> very helpful for more ideas.<br><br>
If another nap happens after this, snack after nap.<br><br>
Dinner.<br><br>
Music, dancing, etc.<br><br>
Bedtime routine is most impt. Never throw kid into bed. Bath, pjs, snack, teeth brushing, stories, songs, slinging, rocking, nursing...This takes about an hour.
 

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Well, that's what we did today, and it actually turned out okay. It looked a little more like playland, shopping, library, more shopping, etc... but it wasnt as horrible as i thought it might be. Boo fell asleep in the car on the way home and had a couple of quick milks partway thru the morning and was fine (ie not cranky).<br><br>
He's starting to gain a bit more interest in food again. Not much, but a bit, so i'm hopeful that we're done with teething again for a while.
 
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