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I used to be so against this! I didn't want people (or myself) labeling my baby so to speak, only getting certain color outfits, thinking of it a very specific way. However with my second I found out just on a whim b/c we already had a boy and while I wasn't necessarily hoping for a girl, I was just dying to know.<br>
Now I want to know again so badly, and I can't even figure out why!? It doesn't matter and part of me really wants another boy (have two!), but would welcome a girl. Why can't I just wait if it's not important!!!??? AARRGGGG.
 

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You're not alone mama! I am going to try to find out on Monday. I am going nuts. I just must know ASAP each time. It is still a surprise for me at that point and I am not a person who loves surprises. I also have two boys and go back and forth on whether I "want" a boy or a girl. I guess I'll take either. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Anyway, I am just dying to know. If this baby is hiding the goods I will FREAK out!
 

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I have never found out the sex with any of them. I am not doing it again this time but I have to say there are days when I am soooo tempted. Since I am not getting a routine u/s it would be a major production for me to go and get one just to find out the sex so that makes it a lot easier. If i was going to be getting an u/s anyway I would find it so hard not to find out. I wouldn't want the tech knowing and not me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
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I'm fine with waiting but if I were on my 3rd, after two of the same gender... I think I'd really want to mentally prepare myself, especially if I thought it would be my last babe. On my other dd forum it seems like moms who have two boys really need to mentally prepare themselves if they aren't having a girl. Heck - this is an aside but my MIL was so traumatized that DH (3rd child and 3rd boy) wasn't a girl that she partially dressed him in girl clothes, even doing his hair for the first couple of years- way too weird for me.
 

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We did! Well, sort of. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> The ultrasound tech today said she couldn't see anything that would indicate a boy, and was pretty certain the baby was a girl! I know they can't ever tell you they are sure about something, so I'm going to go ahead and figure babyWebbis is a she!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I have never found out the sex with any of them. I am not doing it again this time but I have to say there are days when I am soooo tempted. Since I am not getting a routine u/s it would be a major production for me to go and get one just to find out the sex so that makes it a lot easier. If i was going to be getting an u/s anyway I would find it so hard not to find out. I wouldn't want the tech knowing and not me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
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I am getting an ultrasound and don't really want to know the gender but it steams me up to think that the tech would know and I wouldn't. How dare they!
 

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I'm having the u/s, but I don't want to find out the gender. I did find out with my other 2 babies, and now I have both a boy and a girl, so I want to experience the surprise factor! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I almost wish I weren't having the u/s* because that makes it awkward. With ds, the moment the scan went "down there" I knew he was a boy. His legs were spread and his little boy part was sticking up like a flagpole! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> So I'll have to not look unless the tech says I can, which will seem strange. I'm a little bugged by the fact that the tech will know and I won't, but not as much as I would have been with my first. That was a big reason for finding out the first time -- I had to know *everything* the doctor knew!<br><br>
(*I want the u/s for the major organ checks, especially since we are not planning a hospital delivery. I know they don't catch everything, but I'll just feel more at ease knowing that the baby's intestines are on the inside where they're supposed to be, the heart looks OK, all the limbs are there, etc. )
 

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I will be having my "routine" anatomy scan on the 24th and I will be finding out the sex so long as baby cooperates. I feel like the birth day will bring enough surprises of it's own, I want to know what sex I'm carrying. It'll help me personally feel like it's really a baby and not simply a fetus.
 

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You know, that doesn't really bother me. Just b/c I don't think the tech really cares and while they might look, they probably forget two minutes later. My midwife said they definitely don't write it down or anything. So it's not like other people know after the fact. I'm not really gunning for a girl, but the suspense still really kills me more each time.<br><br>
I can't remember how much the surprise really meant to me after the first delivery. You're sort of so preoccupied with the whole baby thing, that the gender was almost irrelevent at that time. Although with ds2, I felt like that mid-pregnancy suprise kept me going a little longer in a way. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I am getting an ultrasound and don't really want to know the gender but it steams me up to think that the tech would know and I wouldn't. How dare they!</div>
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We're planning on finding out the gender - if baby cooperates. We have such a hard time choosing names that we need to at least narrow it down to boy names and girl names, lol.
 

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We'll have an u/s in about 4 weeks but will NOT find out the gender. Both of my boys were surprises, and I can guarantee this one will be a surprise no matter what it is! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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After sitting on the fence for a week about whether to have the u/s at all b/c we didn't want to know the sex and everything else seemed fine, we had it just yesterday. The tech was very cool and told us when to turn away. She never indicated one way or the other if she could figure it out.
 

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I found out the first time, and didn't the 2nd time. So I feel that now, with the 3rd time, I can truly make an educated decision about which I prefer <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> . I admit I am dying of curiosity, but DP definitely did not want to know. And, I also admit that I loved finding out when the baby was delivered. It was so exciting!
 

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If baby cooperates, we will definitely find out! Neither of us are good at waiting. In fact, DH says we aren't leaving the ultrasound room until we know the gender. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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we got an ultrasound but did not find out.<br><br>
we totally heart surprises!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">In fact, DH says we aren't leaving the ultrasound room until we know the gender. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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Me neither! I think I'm going to eat a king size candy bar and drink a pint of OJ before I go in to make sure baby is awake! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Me neither! I think I'm going to eat a king size candy bar and drink a pint of OJ before I go in to make sure baby is awake! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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LOL!!!
 
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