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dd is 14 months.<br><br>
*my house is a disaster. i'm a disorganized mess with clutter everywhere, even after being obsessive about clutter a few months ago (i know, it's constant work). we have to move in a month. household maintence is overwhelming for me.<br><br>
*i need to get my hair cut before we leave for christmas but i have no desire or energy to mess with getting an appointment and going. and i just want to wear comfy clothes all the time.<br><br>
*i feel like my life revolves around nursing, naking, and feeding other people. at the end of the day i feel like i've done everything and nothing at all, all at the same time.<br><br>
*i am tired a lot, and only want to do the bare minimum with anything.<br>
i guess it doesn't help that i'm getting over being sick for the past 4 days...<br><br>
she's my second child, and i was like this with my first 2. my hair looked worse with him, lol.<br><br>
please tell me it's not just me...or is it?<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent">
 

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I could have written your post. My son is 27 months old, and I do work outside the home. But, When I pick him up from dyacare at 3:00, I have no desire to tidy the house, do laundry , cook a meal, wash a toilet.... thank god my husband helps to pick up the slack on the weekend, so we at least do have clean clothes.<br><br>
But the hair appointment...I can totally relate, I was just thinking about it today as my bangs fell into my eyes. Oh, and God forbid someone just "pop-in" to our home to say hello, I think I would die of shame.<br><br>
Some people recommend "Fly Lady". it is a website that helps you to get decluttered and clean the home. My problem is that I feel like doing nothing except going to work, and playing with my son after school. Oh and I'm pregnant with #2, so I feel even less energy to do anything.<br>
You are not alone!!!
 

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I have an 8mo and am despairing at the backseat my life has taken also. But, I have a plan.... and a few recommendations.<br><br>
I'm reading "Secrets of the Baby Whisperer", by Tracey Hogg. Baby has started nightwaking often and my life is a little out of balance. Baby Whisperer emphasizes listening to your baby and helping them with routines (notice, I said routines, not a schedule!) The routine incorporates meeting baby's needs and desires in a gentle way and incorporating time for yourself to recharge.<br><br>
Another recommendation is www getorganizednow dot com. I was a forum moderator for that site and loved it. (I've just been too busy with baby to continue). The site is great for getting tips on how to organize your life in a way that you can live with.<br><br>
And, my quick tip: set a timer for 15 minutes and do something (clean a counter, read mail, throw in a load of laundry). After the timer goes of, STOP, whether you've finished or not!!!! You'll be amazed at what you can accomplish in a small amount of time. And, by stopping in 15 minutes, you don't have pressure to continue.<br><br>
HTH!
 

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My son is 12 months old and I can also totally relate to how you feel about haircuts!! I feel great when I get one but I have to do it when my husband can come with me because ds is too squirmy! But on his days off there are so many other things that need doing, or that we want to do together, that hair becomes a low priority, and then I put it off more because my hair looks so messy I'm embarrassed to go to the salon!<br><br>
Flylady is extremely helpful for me. The system helps so much because I no longer have to spend all morning deciding what to clean first, or making a 'to do' list. There are times when I don't do everything, but it does make a tremendous difference- completing little tasks create momentum and before you know it the home is actually tidy! Which makes me much happier- when things are a disaster I feel like doing nothing which makes me feel like I accomplish absolutely nothing.<br><br>
Some days are better than others. Remembering that 'this too shall pass' as I see how fast babies grow up helps me feel better about this messier, less organized and less energetic time.
 

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Yeah, about 14 months we SLOOOOOWLY started getting our house in order. It took some time but now we have a system and the house and laundry get done.<br><br>
BUT, even BEFORE our ds was born, we always had a clutter house, sooo, it does get cluttered sometimes! :LOL
 

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I really thought my kids were the hardest when they were 1. They were totally mobile and had NO sense! My house was always a mess, I was always a mess and my DH's job just kept moving us around. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked"><br><br>
It's not just you.
 

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Thank goodness I'm not alone!!!!! It is constantly a struggle to keep the level of "controled chaos" manageable. Flylady was too much for me. I still try to do things 15minutes at a time, but with an active toddler, just as I declutter, it is all over the floor again. :LOL<br><br>
Some days I wonder why I bother- but I know that he won't be little forever and I will long for these days.
 
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