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I'm so scared of miscarriage. I have never had one. This is my second pregnancy, my first was very rough to say the least (placenta previa, pre-e, ETC) I've been laying around like I did with my first pregnancy to prevent early labor. I've never had a normal pregnancy. This is my first, as far as I know. I'm only 3 weeks along lol. What are the rules? I'm scared to have sex, scared to vaccuum, scared to lift things etc. Please clue me in on what one can due during a normal, healthy pregnancy... as of now, I have no reason to think that this one is not healthy. It's irrational. I also do not want to do anything that would put me in high risk for miscarriage. I do not see the O.B. until June 24th. I mean, do I need to monitor my blood pressures before hand lol. Everytime I use the bathroom to go pee, I have to examine the toilet paper, making sure there is not a spec of blood. I know I'm over reacting. Thanks for any help!
 

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Really I carry on just as I normally would just make sure I don't do anything over the top. Like I clean but I no longer move the furniture around or lift anything heavy. I work out but I don't' do it overboard and I stay away from exercises that require laying on my back (they are ok but it makes me nauseous to lay on my back and I don't want to start throwing up). Ive miscarried twice and both times there was nothing I did or didn't do that caused it, it was just something that happened. Sex is fine, as long as you don't over do it.<br><br>
I wouldn't' worry about your blood pressure unless you have signs its on the rise (like spotty vision, swelling etc) and stop freaking yourself out over every time you pee. I don't even look at the TP, I just throw it in. Otherwise you are going to freak yourself out. Remember stress isn't good for the baby either.<br><br>
Oh make sure to eat healthy and drink plenty of water. Why? No idea, its just what I tell everyone <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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Totes DDC crashing.<br><br>
I know what you mean about examining every piece of TP for specks of blood (I had a miscarriage, then I had an otherwise normal pregnancy with placenta previa). But in a normal pregnancy, it turns out there aren't really very many restrictions. You can do anything you would normally do, unless there is a specific reason not to. You can vacuum, for example (although I would not hesitate to pass that chore on if my partner was enough of a sucker to take it). You can eat anything that doesn't have mercury or a risk of bacterial contamination. You can exercise until and unless your doctor tells you not to. The big risk with lifting is that your ligaments are stretchier while you're pregnant and so you're more likely to pull a muscle.<br><br>
Eat healthy, because you're growing a baby and you'll feel better if you're well nourished. Drink lots of water because you're peeing it out faster than usual, and also sweating like crazy, and it's summer.<br><br>
I was very, very anxious during my third pregnancy. The miscarriage that preceded it was still very fresh in my mind, and the previa stuff was scary. I wound up asking my midwives to refer me to a therapist who had experience with PPD and anxiety during pregnancy, and she helped me a ton. This is definitely something to ask your OB about - and don't feel you have to wait for your appointment either. You can call and ask now.<br><br>
Good luck! I hope you have a nice, dull, normal, healthy pregnancy.
 

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I understand. I also am on healthy pregnancy #1, but pregnancy #2 - my son was born at 28 weeks due to pre-e, and it was pretty scary all around.<br><br>
Remember: right now, you are low risk. You are not high risk yet, at least with regards to pre-e. Over 75% of the time, pre-e stays away for subsequent pregnancies! I know how scary it is, though - I sometimes feel like I am a ticking time bomb, which I think is normal after having personal experience with high-risk pregnancy!<br><br>
The stress, though, is actually more likely to be a problem than the problems I'm worried about, so with that in mind I've been trying to proactively destress. I'm doing yoga every night, walking half an hour every day, and following the Brewer Diet. I'm drinking RRL/nettle teas, and talking to my mw about other herbs for keeping blood pressure low and keeping pregnancies healthy. I'm taking calcium and magnesium and making sure to get lots of vitamin D. It makes me feel good to know that I am doing absolutely everything I can, right from the very start, to give myself and the new baby the best chance I can to have a normal, healthy pregnancy! Knowing this also is really helpful when I do feel worried - it helps me to relax SO much!<br><br>
I hope this helps. Feel free to PM me if you ever want to. Maybe we should start a thread for women with experience with high risk pregnancies in our DDC.
 

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Hmm, what can you do during pregnancy? I just did 85 lb. deadlifts this morning, pull-ups and some kettle bell exercises. I haven't changed anything about my routine yet, since I'm only 4 weeks along.<br><br>
I had a chemical a couple of months ago, but I realize that a miscarriage is far more traumatic, and I have no idea what a high risk pregnancy is like, so I won't pretend to understand where you ladies are coming from. You have my deepest sympathies, and I hope to never know what you've been through (no offense!)<br><br>
Having said that, there are lots of women who have very active, healthy pregnancies that continue their normal lives (with a few very minor tweaks) for their first trimester, more modifications for second, and heavy modifications for third. I'll be quitting supine (laying on my back) exercises and stretches second trimester, I've already cut back my weights to no more than 50% of the maximum I can normally lift, and I'll have to start taking it easier when I run (trying not to get out of breath.)<br><br>
Here is the workout regimine I'll be following, just to give you an example of what can be normal and healthy throughout pregnancy:<br><br><a href="http://www.crossfitmom.com/" target="_blank">http://www.crossfitmom.com/</a><br><br>
Of course, only you know what feels right to your body, and your doctor should be able to help give you more concrete answers about what's definitely off-limits and what's okay. Good luck! I hope your anxiety wanes and you can really enjoy this pregnancy!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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With my first, I didn't know I was pregnant and I was sparring and doing other hard contact fighting until 3 months!<br><br>
I pretty much stick with everything I have done before and just be careful with lifting later on because of injury risks to myself (not that it hurts the babe, kwim?) I run, lift, do karate, etc.<br><br>
I think keeping going with you life will really help (if you are healthy and can do that, of course)-- keeps water retention down and really helped me enjoy my last pregnancy!
 

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Well, I think that the things you are avoiding can be quite healthy for a pregnancy. Excersize is good for blood flow, blood pressure and healthy weight gain. Sex is good for fun, keeping away depression, and it is also excerize.<br><br>
Conversly, the thing that you are doing, worrying, could acutally be harmful to your baby. I am definatly not trying to put you down. But sometimes we put our energy into negative activities without realizing it. You could try talking with someone to work through your worries or perhaps try working through the feelings with art or journaling. Staying positive, staying sexual with your partner, and excersizing can have a really great effect on your pregnancy.
 
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