so lets talk showers...

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SleepyMamaBear

Discussion Starter · Mar 29, 2006

ok i CANT be the only SAHM in the world that doesnt get a shower everyday. or even hardly twice a week (if i am LUCKY).
so for those of you that DO get a sower in everyday, how do you do it?
and for those of us that dont... well lets sit our stinky selves here and wait for advice...

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artgoddess

· #2 · Mar 29, 2006

First I started showering with DS in the bathroom with me. He'd play on the floor and I'd put up the toilet paper and had locks on the cabinets etc... Then he would lean in the tub and splash the water while I showered. Now I get a shower everyday with company, my 2 year old. It's nice on the weekends to take a HOT shower when DP is home. But even then, he tries to muscle his way in, my kid loves to shower.

mariposita

· #3 · Mar 29, 2006

i shower probably twice a week, but i try and take a bath once a day. the water soothes me a lot and i usually have one or both of my boys playing in the tub with me. or sometimes i'll have my baby in a swing next to the tub. i'll interact with him while i get clean.

MommyMine

· #4 · Mar 29, 2006

Well...I am embarrased to admit....

When YDS wasn't napping I didn't get a shower until after one when they both went down and when YDS wasn't even taking a noon nap there was no showers for mom at all.

But now that YDS is taking a morning nap I get him down and then I *gasp* plug ods into the tv to watch World Tree on PBS while I shower. I just gotta do it. Sometimes he will shower with me and that is fine but I prefer to do it alone.

Stayathomemommy

· #5 · Mar 29, 2006

a friend and i were talking the other day and she had the same problem. i honestly dont understand why you cant get a shower in if you want one. there insnt a time of day that couldnt just jump in the shower if i needed too. most the time the three kiddos want to all get in so i shower first and in relaxing hot water then they get in and i plug the bath and let them have their time. but sometimes i dont want them showering and i just lock the doors to the house so no one can get out while i am in there and get my shower. if your children are under 2 then get them a toy and books and have them sit in the bathroom with you. if they are older then they should be fine to watch a movie or play independently for 10 minutes while you shower. My friend who asked me the same question said that in her childrens 5 years she has never showered unless it was early morning, or after their bedtime. I think its a shame to feel like you cant take a shower when your kids are awake. i would feel very confined if i didnt have the freedom to clean myself.

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Dreaming

· #6 · Mar 29, 2006

Now that we have 2 kids I always wait for DH to get home before I shower.
Not safe to do otherwise ATM.
Prior to DS being born, I just made sure that DD's area was child proofed and jumped in.
She wandered in and out of the bathroom and all was good.
You could also try a movie

: to distract the little person.

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Shiloh

· #7 · Mar 29, 2006

I used to put the carseat in the bathroom strap them in give them a toy keep the shower open a bit.

Or have it at night, or before dh leaves in the morning (that one works well as often you can con them into dressing kids, changing bums while you take the 5 mintue shower.

I also shower/bathe with kids in the bath...

Kerrie

· #8 · Mar 29, 2006

I shower daily - at night after DH gets home and my older 2 are in bed. It's my 'me' time.

VickV

· #9 · Mar 29, 2006

I usually shower every other day by leaving DD watching Classical Baby in her exersaucer. I put the monitor out there so I'll be able to hear if she cries, and just shower fast. Sometimes I just wait until DH gets home from work and shower then. I live for the weekends - then I get a long hot shower and get to blast some of mommy's music

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alegna

· #10 · Mar 29, 2006

I take a bath at night. DH gets play time.

-Angela

SleepyMamaBear

Discussion Starter · #11 · Mar 29, 2006

first Addy is 20 months old. and has recently decided she HATES showers. not to mention the only shower we have is a cubicle shower, NO TUB!. well there is a tub in the house, but the caulking is rotted out and the board behind the shower wall thingy is rotting and black and nasty, and i wouldnt bathe myself or my child in there ever. she has a HUGE toddler sized tub that she bathes in and enjoys that. but really thats her time with Daddy.

also. i would NEVER put my child on a bathroom floor. ugh ewww. does anyone have the actual number of different germs that are found there? i dont have it on hand but YUCK. also. whose kid doesnt get into the toilet when left to their own devices?
funny thing is i am a germaphobe. but that doesnt pertain to my body, cause i know my body isnt germy, its just stinky from sweat etc.

it would be 100 times different if we had our own place with our own bathroom with a tub. but we dont, we share living space with ALOT of people most of whom are PIGS, and i really DO mean piggish in behavior.

also. i am not the type or person to leave my dd alone for 15 minutes at a time, even if she is entertained by a movie or her father, cause well, while i love him and he is an OK dad, most of the time they end up sitting in the bathroom bugging me anyways cause he has no clue what to do with her.

so really i feel SO stuck.

also a PP sounded pretty haughty in her (what i took as) flaunting her ability to hop in the shower on a whim.
thats NOT what i was looking for. i really am looking for tips. thanks.

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mmace

· #12 · Mar 29, 2006

I'm a single mom of three. I shower in the morning before I get the kids up to get them ready for school. I'm pretty quick anyway, so it doesn't bother me for the most part. I do love to sink into a hot bubble bath at night, so once a week or so I'll do that either after the little ones are in bed or my oldest keeps everyone occupied for me. Now that is luxurious!

waiting2exhale

· #13 · Mar 29, 2006

well depending on how old your child is... you could put him/her in the tub with you... just plug up the drain so its like taking a bath for them...

and unless you are going somewhere fancy... I wouldnt worry too much because you have too much else on your mind...

artgoddess

· #14 · Mar 29, 2006

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Originally Posted by AddysMama

also. i am not the type or person to leave my dd alone for 15 minutes at a time, even if she is entertained by a movie or her father, cause well, while i love him and he is an OK dad, most of the time they end up sitting in the bathroom bugging me anyways cause he has no clue what to do with her.

I don't want to sound haughty. But I really think you need to address the fact that her father can't take care of her on his own for 15 minutes. That's more of a problem than taking a sponge bath to get clean, IMO.

SleepyMamaBear

Discussion Starter · #15 · Mar 29, 2006

i dont have a usable tub!!! not an option. see my post ^ up there

SleepyMamaBear

Discussion Starter · #16 · Mar 29, 2006

artgoddess said:
Quote:

Originally Posted by AddysMama

also. i am not the type or person to leave my dd alone for 15 minutes at a time, even if she is entertained by a movie or her father, cause well, while i love him and he is an OK dad, most of the time they end up sitting in the bathroom bugging me anyways cause he has no clue what to do with her.
QUOTE] I don't want to sound haughty. But I really think you need to address the fact that her father can't take care of her on his own for 15 minutes. That's more of a problem than taking a sponge bath to get clean, IMO.

its not that he CANT. its that he doesnt "GET" her. and thats understandable, he is home and awake maybe 4 hours a day, he doesnt get to spend much time with her. but this isnt a debate about what my husband should and shouldnt do. this thread was started in hopes of finding some real, good, useable advice.
and hopefully hear that i am NOT the only one that doesnt get to shower daily.
guess i am.

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artgoddess

· #17 · Mar 29, 2006

Quote:

Originally Posted by AddysMama
this thread was started in hopes of finding some real, good, useable advice.
and hopefully hear that i am NOT the only one that doesnt get to shower daily.
guess i am.

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hmmm, I think you did get many suggestions. Maybe they weren't what you were looking for, but you did get many suggestions. You also heard from women who don't shower daily, sorry if we offended you by not reading your mind, next time tell us up front what you want to hear, okay?

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hetaera

· #18 · Mar 29, 2006

My son is just over 1, and I barely get to take showers... but when I cant stand it anymore... I have a babygate that goes in the bathroom door and we have a long hallway that I close all the doors (except the bathroom of course) then I block off the end of the hallway with my coffee table and put a huge couch cushion under it so he cant crawl under...
and give him some toys...
The toys he just throws in the bathroom, and stands there and we 'talk' because I keep a close watch on him and play peekaboo around the curtain... haha.
I would let him come in the bathroom with me, but he is wierdly fascinate with the potty and would probably try to eat it... yikes.

Creative yes, relaxing no... but at least Im not smelly!

bri276

· #19 · Mar 29, 2006

I don't shower daily but if I REALLY wanted to I could. today for example I put dd in her exersaucer (how un-AP of me!) lol and let her play for 10 minutes. it is extremely rare that I do something like that though, it was because I had someone coming over.
normally I try to do it while she's napping, but she takes such short and sparse naps that many times I'd prefer to make myself something to eat or watch tv or talk on the phone instead of showering, because showering is more like a chore than something I enjoy. once in a while, usually when it's been a few days since the last shower, I'll have DH watch her when he comes home so I can do it. my DH isn't the greatest at paying attention and interacting either but I know she is safe and happy with him anyways, even if she's not being read to or played with, she's far from being neglected, 15 minutes won't hurt her.

Christine&men

· #20 · Mar 29, 2006

Childproof, childproof, childproof the bath. No nick-nacks, all bottles behind locked doors, toilet seat bolted down (well, not bolted down, but there is something/ a thingy to be had in places like babies'r us/home depot/lowes that sticks to the cover as well as the actual bowl), toilet paper hidden. And then enjoy the company of your toddler while you take a shower. If my husband does not go to work crazy early I'll shower before him, or if I did not get one in the morning, bath at night, or (heaven forbid) I simply wash for a day... That's what I do, what can I say

Almost forgot, yes, some water will end up on the wrong side of the shower (as: in the room), sorry...

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