Wow! I'm so sorry that you had to go through all that with him!
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Those are not unreasonable requests! I think I would be looking for a new ob. I hope everything works out the way you want it to!
So mad at OB I could puke! (updated)
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LeeAnn.. I was exactly where you were at a little over a month ago. Except my battle was for a natural, vaginal birth. Everything I wanted was a big "NO" from my doctor, she wouldn't even listen and I walked out of there so upset. I know it's hard to believe that you can find a doctor out there that will suit your needs but it's possible. I switched because this one is also my last and dammit I just want a birth that I am in control of.. and I actually found a doctor that would listen. Don't give up hope on having the birth you want mama.. look into the Finding Your Tribe area here and see if someone in your area has had similar circumstances. Sometimes you get some really good advice.
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You should be in control of what is happening to your body and unless the doctor can give you a good reason why not then argue it.. also look into your laws on the things he/she said no to because of the law. It's quite possible that it's just their "policy" (I hate that sort of blanket excuse) and it will be hard to get them to see it your way. Anyway.. I'm rambling but know that we are here to support you and help you in whatever way we can.
Another idea call some midwives in your area and see if they can't give you a reference to a sympathetic OB. Good luck!
Another idea call some midwives in your area and see if they can't give you a reference to a sympathetic OB. Good luck!
I would look for a new OB. From personal experience of enduring a pregnancy with an OB that I never felt comfortable with and then when it came to the birth was a disaster. Never again. This was my first pregnancy, and it ended with him saying that I needed to hurry up or his wife was going to be mad at him for being late for dinner. He finished up with taking the baby out with forceps while I was deathly afraid the whole time envisioning my child paralyzed for the rest of their life. I ended up in the hospital 3 days later due to tearing and an infection where my fever went up to 104 and I was halucinating. I wish I had fired him on the spot. He was also upset with my baby's doctor who was the one who admitted me the second time and thought I didn't need to be in the hospital (this was right before I got very very sick with my uterine infection.) I ended up very, very sick and had I not been in the hospital at the time it could have been a lot worse.
I am sorry to ramble. My point is that you need to get a doctor that will do your wishes when it comes to the time of the birth a lot of doctors just take over and due whatever they want to make it easier for them.
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I am sorry to ramble. My point is that you need to get a doctor that will do your wishes when it comes to the time of the birth a lot of doctors just take over and due whatever they want to make it easier for them.
Thanks everyone. He even said that none of my requests were unreasonable, which made me even that much more upset. I will post in FYT and see if anyone can help or point me in the right direction. I also like the advice of calling some midwives in my area to see if they can point me in the right direction. I'm just already stressed out as it is, and this is just one more thing on top of it. Oh, and I also gained 13 pounds in the last month, even with watching everything I eat and getting excersize! Argh! Thanks again.
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PLEASE RUN AS FAR AWAY FROM THIS OB AS POSSIBLE!!!!!
I just had my big question meeting with my OB yesterday and i was told that being there for the epi depends on the anesthesiologist preferance,
my arms will not be strapped down (she said they only strap the arms down when it's an emergency with general)
I could see the birth via having someone hold a mirror if i would like and there is room for them to stand next to the docs without getting in the way
Cath is ALWAYS done AFTER the Epi!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! that is just total crap!!
please find a new OB this guy SUCKS and i promise there is someone better out there for you! or you could come to syracuse and i'll refer you to my OB....she is wonderful!
Originally Posted by EarthMommy80 1. I asked that DH be present with me at all times, even during the administring of anesthesia- NO 3. Catheter after epi- NO, can you believe that?!!! There's only so much time once anesthesia is administered!!! 4. Don't want arms strapped down- NO, I will put my hands in the incision or some crap, what the hell!!!! 5. Would like the option of seeing birth- NO, can't lower screen because it is a steril area! WTF?? |
PLEASE RUN AS FAR AWAY FROM THIS OB AS POSSIBLE!!!!!
I just had my big question meeting with my OB yesterday and i was told that being there for the epi depends on the anesthesiologist preferance,
my arms will not be strapped down (she said they only strap the arms down when it's an emergency with general)
I could see the birth via having someone hold a mirror if i would like and there is room for them to stand next to the docs without getting in the way
Cath is ALWAYS done AFTER the Epi!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! that is just total crap!!
please find a new OB this guy SUCKS and i promise there is someone better out there for you! or you could come to syracuse and i'll refer you to my OB....she is wonderful!
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I would find a new OB ASAP... he's being totally unreasonable
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love and peace.
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love and peace.
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Find an OB that will let you do what you want!! It's your baby and money!
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Sounds like you're on your way to remedying this but really if this jerk is making you feel unreasonable, and it sounds like he is, really keep in mind that you are not, you have the right to have your birth the way you want to and he is only being manipulative because he can. Oh the times I've talked to mums who were convinced that that they had to do what the doctor said or they/the baby would die when it just wasn't true.
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Just get out
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Just get out
Yeah, so I have made a bunch of phone calls today, and nothing looks promising. There is no way of doing a VBA2C at any of the near by hospitals, and no one wants to take me on as a new patient, even after I agree that the c-section is necessary. I just don't know what to do! Now I'm just upset about the whole thing all over again. I mean common, if he would at least agree to the catheter after the epi and allowing pictures, I would just say fine! But I can't agree to let this be just another surgery, why doesn't anyone get it?
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