My AIL is having a baby, she has already decided to FF from day one because she's 'not comfortable'
ANYWAY, my other AIL calls today and says they are starting to plan her baby shower (she's due in August) and says they are all going to put $$ on a Wal-Mart card for her, do I want to give some $$.
Here is the rest of the conversation-
Me- "Oh, I don't know. I think I'll just get her something from DH and I since UIL and DH are so close." (DH and UIL were raised like brothers, DH was adopted by his grandparents)
AIL- "Yeah, we're all getting her gifts to, but this gift card is so she can buy diapers and FORMULA once the baby is born."
Me- "Ummm, I don't think we can afford to do both."
AIL- "Well just contribute to the card then, she needs the money for FORMULA more than clothes. *hahah*"
Me- "Ummm...I think I'll just get her a present from DH and I."
AIL- "So you're not going to give in on the gift card?"
Me- "Probably not."
AIL- "Well, this is supposed to be from all of us, can't you just give $5?"
Me- "I'd rather not, I'd rather just give her a present and leave it at that."
AIL- "Well, then we won't put your name on the card."
Me- "Thats fine."
Grrr, I CANNOT in good concience give to a card like that, not that she's going to spend on formula. Just...ick...I'll support her as a mother, but I WILL NOT financially support her making what I feel is a BAD decision. Am I being unreasonable? Should I just give $5 to the stupid gift card and keep my mouth shut, or buy her an outfit and a copy of "So That's What They're For"?