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and it barks all the time. This is the letter my mom wrote....and sent.<br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><b>CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR NEW DOG. BUT THE BARKING HAS TO STOP SOON. IF NOT, IT WILL BECOME A POLICE MATTER AND THAT WILL ENTAIL NOISE ORDINANCE TICKETS.<br><br>
THE DOG IS CONTROLLING YOU. IT BARKS UNTIL YOU APPEAR. PERHAPS YOU THINK LETTING IT “BARK IT OUT” WILL WORK, BUT YOUR NEIGHBORS DON’T AGREE. IT IS VERY DISRUPTIVE AND WILL ONLY GET WORSE WHEN WE OPEN OUR WINDOWS.<br><br>
SIGNED,<br>
Your neighbors within the barking range</b><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biglaugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="laugh">up "Your dog is controlling you" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/ROTFLMAO.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rotflmao"> I swear, it makes me want to pee my pants!!!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Glad your mom takes the "anti-CIO" stance with dog ownership too!
 

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That's too funny!
 

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Bark it out! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biglaugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="laugh">:
 

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That is hysterical. We had the same situation before we moved. You could look up some non-painful bark prevention devices and print them out and mail them to them. That was my plan before we moved.
 

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funny, but i abhor anonymous nieghbor notes. i think it would have been nicer if she would have left out the part about the laws, cuz then it would only be a cute funny note letting them know. but if i had gotten that note and it was my first knowledge that it was bugging people ( yes yes i know, barking dog invariably bothers people and i wouldnt let my dog do that in the first place)<br><br>
i would feel like all of my neighbors had talked about me and were feeling hostile toward me, and it would just really really make me avoid ever going outside anymore, etc. so maybe it solves the dog problem but then it creates a sad/awkward neighbor situation that might not be resolvable since the note is anonymous. you never know what else is going on in that persons life. or she could have just signed it as herself.<br><br>
anyway i like the bark it out joke though, its funny!
 

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As the owner of a dog that some times barks, I think you are going down the wrong path. First, all caps is the same as screaming, and screaming never helps anything. Second, they already know the dogs barks, so you aren't telling them anything new. Third, not signing the note is completly gutless. If you have something to say, say it nicely and own up to it. Fourth, they just got the dog, so they are still trying to figure out what the heck they got themselves into!<br><br>
If you want to do something constructive, get some real information about barking and pass it along to them nicely. Assume that they really are doing the best they can. And leaving notes without signing them just makes people dislike ALL their neighbors.
 

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As the recent recipient of an anonymous neighbor complaint about having my car parked on the street when a snowstorm made it impossible to navigate my steep driveway I have to disagree completely with your mother's letter. There is nothing neighborly about an unsigned complaint complete with a threat of police involvement. The unsigned note I recieved caused me so much stress that I vomited. It also destroyed any hope I had for belonging to this neighborhood and being part of a community. It made me angry and hurt that my neighbors couldn't just knock on my door and talk to me like, well, a neighbor. It certainly didn't make me want to be neighborly and accomodating and resolve the problem. In fact it made me want to paint my house flourescent orange and get guinea hens. Nasty, unsigned notes are cowardly and hurtful.
 

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But if they already know their dog barks all night and they do not do anything about it they must not care or they would bring their dog in.<br><br>
I had this problem with my neighbors dogs, two puppies that she left out night and day they cried all the time. Drove me nuts. I asked her why she wouldn't bring the dogs in so they didn't bark all night and her reply was they were puppies and would tear up the house while they slept. I mentioned a kennel and she said she tried that but then their barking echoed and kept her and her kids up at least outside they couldn't hear them as bad.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/headscratch.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="headscratch"> so that left everyone else to hear them instead.there were also several other issues with these dogs<br>
At least your letting them know that it's bothering people and I think that is a step. although I agree it would be better to say it to their face. I understand why people don't always want to do this though you never know who will flip or over something small and little situations can escalate.
 

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I recently left an anonymous letter with a neighbor because their 2 new dogs were barking all day long while they were at work. I honestly didn't know if they knew their dogs barked while they were gone. I kept it anonymous because we've had noise issues with them in the past (loud parties, loud music) and they've been very unreceptive and I was afraid of retaliation. I kept it very polite and informative though ("I'm not sure if you're aware that your dogs bark during the day...blah, blah, blah").<br><br>
So far they're been much, much better about keeping their dogs inside. I am so glad that I kept it polite and not threatening.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">: Well, I for one am VERY much anti-BIO.
 

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jeca--but you did talk to her face to face even though she didnt really work with you---i think your approach was much more nighborly.<br><br>
my original reponse above contained my story of me reciving an anonymous neighbor note, but i erased it. but now that others have posted, i just want to say i got one that was regarding my dead lawn in the heat of august. it was nasty, and it appeared on my door on the same day i had just gone to get an MRI to make sure i didnt have MS or brain damage or something, and a bunch of other stressful stuff was going on, too. that note DID make me hate all my neighbors, and we moved 5 months later, partially because i no longer felt good there, and we had lived there happily for 5 years. i was extremely upset by the note and it made me fantasize about spraypainting my lawn florecent green and passing a flier through the whole nieghborhood that said "is that better???!!!"<br><br>
instead i spent $100 we didnt have reviving the lawn, and then the lawn died a natural autumn death a month later. so dumb. our effing IMPORTANT LAWN was dead because of lack of money for watering AND because my then DH wouldnt mow the yard and i was having extreme visual migraines triggered by the bright sunlight, which included temp. blindess. so i let it die so we wouldnt have to think about it, since summer was almost over anyway and all the grass was trying to die everywhere anyway. its super arid here, and might i add that lawns are rediculous in arid climates. but why am i explaining to you, LOL. see, even 3 years later i am still all up in arms over that note. i wish the nieghbor had talked to me.
 

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You're right - they do know the dogs bark and they are doing nothing about it. All the note says is that if they don't do something about it, there are laws that can be enforced. We also do not know of the letter writer's previous interaction with the dog owner - could be a big contributing factor to the tone of the letter.<br><br>
Jenn
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Glad your mom takes the "anti-CIO" stance with dog ownership too!</div>
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Agreed.<br><br>
That is soooooo cool! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I think I may have to copy/send this "form" letter to a few of our neighbors.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I kept it anonymous because we've had noise issues with them in the past (loud parties, loud music) and they've been very unreceptive and I was afraid of retaliation.</div>
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This is a very good point. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
From personal experience, I've noticed face-to-face contact with said dog's owner usually doesn't go over well. People tend to get <i>very</i> defensive when it comes to confronting them about their pets behavior.
 

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You must live next to my brother! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Would going over there and talking to them have been a better idea?? Maybe, maybe not. Some people get very hostile(I could imagine my brother just putting the dog out more and at times when others maybe sleeping, enjoying their yard etc.). Some might be receptive by some might not. Sadly these days I find that if I don't know the neighbor in question I wouldn't go to his/her front door w/a problem.
 

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We got an anonymous neighbor note about our grass being too tall. It did need mowing and we realized that, but it really wasn't all that tall. We got the note the day I came home from a week stay in the hospital after having dd. Dh had taken the MCAT the day before, and dd was still in the NICU. It would have been much better had someone knocked on our door or left a note that said "Gee, I've noticed your lawn needs mowing. Usually, y'all are really on top of things. Do you need some help with things?" At that point, we could have explained and maybe gotten some help, instead of being threatened by neighbors anonymously with a fine. I REALLY dislike anonymous neighbor notes.<br><br>
FWIW, we have always spoken to our neighbors in person whenever we have had a concern. I really think it makes for better neighbors to show them that respect.<br><br>
I do think that being anti-BIO is hilarious, though! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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You are 100% in the right here. I don't care what their issues are with the dog, it's NOT the neighborhoods problem & I WILL NOT sit by and listen to a dog bark constantly while it's being "trained." No. Shut it up or I WILL call the police, I've done it before. THEY got a dog, not everyone on the street.
 

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Our neighbors mowed our insanely overgrown lawn while DD was in the NICU. We thought it was a wonderful gesture until we got a note (we know who did it and had bought them a thank you note and just hadn't made it over there yet) telling us that they got fed up with our lawn being out of control and took care of it themselves...and then it asked if our lawn mower was broken or something... we have a pretty close-knit neighborhood - they knew we were in the NICU at least 3 times a day (half hour from our home).<br><br>
not the same as a barking dog but I was quite a bit hurt by the note. But on the other hand I can totally see myself leaving an anon. note for some of my neighbors about their dogs...people can get really defensive about their animals.
 

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Without speaking to them, how do you know that they are doing "nothing" about it? We have 2 dogs, the first one seldom barked. The second used to bark ALL the time. We tried all sorts of things -- we talked to our vet, we worked with a trainer, we tried all the ideas in evey book we could find. While we were doing all that, the only sure way to get the dog to stop barking would have been to shoot it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> .<br><br>
I'm sure taking it to a shelter would have been a death sentence because no one wants a dog that barks all the time.<br><br>
Eventually, we got a shock collar and our dog now gets an electric shook when it barks. We really didn't want to do this, and it really bothers my kids, but we exhausted all other options first.<br><br>
If you don't talk to someone, you really don't have a clue if they are trying to deal with the problem. You just add more crap and negativity to the world. You add more stress to someone's life when they obviously have more going on than they currently know how to solve.
 
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