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After 2 weeks of concentrated effort and a week of not so concentrated effort, we have had 2-3 semi successes on the potty. Dd just seems unconcerned. She pees in her panties, then tells me she needs to use the potty. Or, she sits on the potty for a while then, minutes later, pees in her panties (or on the floor if she's not wearing anything.<br><br>
It's just getting so tiring and frustrating for me (dd couldn't care less). I'm wondering if I'm wasting my time, if she's just not ready or if maybe I need to keep going for a few more weeks and she'll suddenly "get it."<br><br>
She rarely poops in her undies or on the floor. She'll wait until I put a dipe on her (like, for an outing or at bedtime). If she doesn't wear a diaper all day, she'll sometimes not poop at all that day.<br><br>
So, what should I do? Does this sound like a child who's ready to potty train? Or am I wasting my time? BTW, dd is 2 1/2 and I'm 7 1/2 mo pregnant, so I'm also concerned about regression once the baby's here (if we indeed ever get to a point where there's somewhere to regress to...).<br><br>
peace, Beth
 

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I would say let it go for now. I learned the hard way with dd that the more I pushed her, or even strongly encouraged her, the less she was interested in doing it. Finally left her alone and she potty trained all on her own. Esp. with the new baby coming soon I would say wait until she adjusts to that change. In the mean time you can read her potty books and have her pretend play to put her dolls on the potty, but don't mention anything about her having to follow suit.<br><br>
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I agree with USAmma<br>
Let it go for now.<br>
If I encouraged....my son completely refused. Once he decided for himself, he trained himself and was done. Many kids do regress with a baby.....it may be easier for everyone to wait for awhile & try again when she's more ready.
 

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I say keep up with it. It sounds like your dd is going through a stage that Kailey was going through a few months ago. We went from cloth diapers right to panties. Sure she had accidents, but we just kept up with it and didn't make a fuss when she did have accidents. Now, after about, oh 3 months it just clicked for her. She now goes potty by herself whenever she needs to go, even poo!!! This has just happened over the last 4 days and we have not had a pee or poo accident in the time!<br><br>
So, I now it is frustrating, but one day it will happen.
 

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I third the "let it go" recommendation. Why go through so much struggle and stress only to possibly find yourself back at square one in a few months when your new baby arrives?<br><br>
2-1/2 can still be a bit young, anyway. It sounds as though she's just not ready.
 

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Definitely let it go!! Your dd doesn't sound ready and it just sounds tiring, frustrating, and stressful for you. Since there is a big chance she would regress with the new baby, why go through all that struggle? Relax, put the diapers back on, have your baby, get through the postpartum wonderful-yet-crazy time, and THEN see if your dd is at a more accepting stage.<br><br>
Thats my two cents, anyway!
 

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I'll have to disagree with the majority here. I don't see where it has to be stressful, because it wasn't for us. But, I felt that once I put panties on Kailey that it would be inconsistent and would lead to confussion for Kailey if we went back to diapers.<br><br>
I didn't have a problem with changing multiple accidents at all, and she wasn't stress about having them <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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With all due respect, what works for one family doesn't necessarily work for another. Ds potty-trained himself at 20 months - no work for me, no frustration, nothing. I recognize that such isn't the case for most people.<br><br>
Beth has said she's tired and frustrated with her daughter's lack of response to her efforts. The fact that her daughter isn't responding, in itself, would be enough for me to suggest that she isn't ready. Combined with mom's frustration and the good possibility of her little girl reverting after the baby is born - it doesn't really make much sense to carry on. I think the phrase "pick your battles" was coined just for situations like this.<br><br><b></b>
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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">But, I felt that once I put panties on Kailey that it would be inconsistent and would lead to confussion for Kailey if we went back to diapers.</td>
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Could be, but it doesn't sound like her daughter gives a lick what she's wearing - she's just flat out not interested in using the potty.<br><br>
Good luck to you, Beth - seems that this is probably a time for you all to be relaxing, not stressing about something that will happen in time.
 

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I would agree with let it go. If it's causing you both frustration now, think of how much more frustrating it will be if she does get it, only to regress when new baby is here.<br><br>
With my dd, she trained at about 2 1/2 (ds was about 6 mos by then) and I would give her the option of panties or a diaper. I told her if she wanted panties, she needed to go in the potty, if she didn't want to use the potty, she could wear a diaper. If she had an accident, I would ask her if she wanted panties back on or if she wanted a diaper. She really only had a handful of accidents and most were my fault (forgetting to have her go before we leave the house for example). She night trained a few months after that- we used pull ups for that and called them 'diaper panties' meaning if she had an accident, it was no big deal- she wouldn't get it all over herself, but she should try to wake up if she needed to go at night. Once we did that, she only wet at night a handful of times, but when she was in diapers she woke up wet every morning.
 

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I would agree to let it go. Kids train at different times, and when they are ready, they most likely will train quickly. I was too busy to train my first, but she trained quickly when I took away her diapers at 31 months. I never did any preparation- probably should have, but it worked out. She never showed any interest in using a potty before that.<br><br>
My ds on the other hand, told me take his diaper off and climbed on the potty. He has been peeing the potty every morning- he's 19 months. He is nowhere near trained but wants to sit on the potty- I used the same diaper for almost awhole day because it was dry and I put him on the potty after his nap and when he drank. Today he wants to pee on the floor, though.
 

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Although it took Kailey three months to learn the potty, I wouldn't have had it any other way. She took her time, and it all clicked when the time was right. In our case, she loved her panties and wanted to learn.<br><br>
I do agree however, after rereading the OP and following "let it go" replies, ,that if it is a cause for frustration and no one is interested or happy, then letting it go would be the best choice for your family(from my perspective anyway).<br><br>
Good luck to you, and like I tell everyone who thought being in panties after 18 months was to late "they aren't going to be heading off to college in diapers, so don't worry about it."<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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