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We have one child, a sweet, adorable, wonderful 18 month old girl.
DH and I have been thinking, ok, do we want another? We are absolutely stumped. We feel fully satisfied with our girl, and neither of us feel like there's some missing piece that would need another child to fill. Yet, we both also believe that children are (for us at least) the purpose of life pretty much, and that they are precious and wonderful and all that jazz. So we know that we would love another child should one come to us. Our emotions aren't really guiding us anywhere here, so we thought we'd try some logic.
How/why did you decide to have a second (or third, or fourth, etc.) child, or not?
And, how is the experience of a second different from the first? I mean, do two children take TWICE the time? Or will they (possibly) eventually be able to play with each other and sort of provide different pockets of EXTRA time, lol? I'm reading what I'm writing and I see how naive I am, but I just don't know what else to ask or what to expect.
DH and I have been thinking, ok, do we want another? We are absolutely stumped. We feel fully satisfied with our girl, and neither of us feel like there's some missing piece that would need another child to fill. Yet, we both also believe that children are (for us at least) the purpose of life pretty much, and that they are precious and wonderful and all that jazz. So we know that we would love another child should one come to us. Our emotions aren't really guiding us anywhere here, so we thought we'd try some logic.
How/why did you decide to have a second (or third, or fourth, etc.) child, or not?
And, how is the experience of a second different from the first? I mean, do two children take TWICE the time? Or will they (possibly) eventually be able to play with each other and sort of provide different pockets of EXTRA time, lol? I'm reading what I'm writing and I see how naive I am, but I just don't know what else to ask or what to expect.