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Sure, pregnancy and babies are sweet, fun, and beautiful...but I'm just SO tired of nearly every person asking: When are you due? Boy or girl? Is this your first baby? Are you ready? Are you excited/nervous? And it goes on and on and on. (Course then they have to throw in their advice <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: ).<br><br>
Then there's the stupid comments. I'm at work and was rubbing my belly. Some old guy saw me and said, "It will come". I ask..."What will?" He responds, "The baby". I looked at him like "you idiot" and replied, "Yup, I realize that...." And continued giving him a "you're an idiot" kind of look. *grumbles*<br><br>
Had another guy point to my belly, like it was a freak show and ask, "Are you having a baby?!" I respond with attitude, "Nope, I'm having puppies...(you moron, under my breath)..." He scuffed and walked away. Aint that just too bad? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
OH...and my ultimate pet peeve is MEN telling me, "Call me and I'll catch your baby. I've done it x-amount of times with my wife. ha ha ha...." That's NOT funny...and frankly I find it offensive that some guy would be thinking about looking at my hoo-ha and "delivering" my baby. I also feel very defensive when they tell me that *they* could "deliver" MY baby--like I *need* them to heroically (sp?) come to my rescue or something. Ugh! I can do this myself, thank you.<br><br>
So many times I just want to say, "It's really none of your business.." But, that would be just too rude (right?). Or sometimes I feel like playing "dumb preggo" and saying "I don't know" to everything. Or maybe I should just say, "I'm NOT pregnant--this is beer belly". <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
About a year ago, I was at Petsmart and the cashier was preg. She was so beautiful--just a perfect belly. I remember asking her when she was due. She said, "Oh, I don't know about a month or so..." She acted like she didn't care, like she wasn't "into" her pregnancy. Her response shocked me...I mean, who wouldn't know down to the day of when they're "due", right? NOW, I understand...NOW I get it--she was probably to the point of where I am, so tired of everyone sticking their nose in her personal business. I swear, I will never ask another preggo when she's due...or say anything about her being pregnant.<br><br>
Anyone else wanna join in on my vent? What do you tell *strangers* when you're sick to death with all the questions? (Or what would you LIKE to tell them? lol ). Ugh...5 weeks til my "due" date. THEN, I'll have everyone telling me how to raise my child. It'll never end, will it? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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People are always asking me the same questions! It does get irritating. I work in a children's hopsital so it's really bad with the "advice" the nurses like to give me. When people ask me when I'm due, I usually tell them in May. And they look quizzical and ask the specific date and I tell them but then I say, due dates are never accurate and sometimes I get the "Oh, well my baby was born on her due date" to which I answer "well, some babies are but all babies are different." That usually shuts them up. A woman in Wal Mart had the nerve to ask me if I was dilated at all. I told her I didn't know. LOL.
 

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I guess there are two sides to every situation. I've always loved the extra comments that I get from people, maybe not all the advice, but I've been through it enough now to know that people are just trying to add their input. But most of the time people mean well.<br><br>
I think people that tend away from the social side don't like this attention as much in general. I am usually a very private person, but I love answering the questions.<br><br>
If people start a whole conversation about it, I'm always sure to mention the homebirth, which will send people reeling on, which I love, seeing and hearing them stutter about it "Who will be there?" "What if something happens to you/the baby?". Shock value is great.<br><br>
ETA: When I was pregnant with my first(2nd ds) I told my neighbors that we were having a homebirth and they were like "why? well we'll be upstairs if you need pain meds." I don't know why they thought that was appropriate, or what pain meds they have in their house that they felt could help me, but I definitely understand the strange comments.
 

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I hate the "whare are you going to do when (not if) something goes wrong?" questions regarding homebirth. I know that I should just be polite and informative and tell them the probability of something going wrong, how many things we will be able to handle at home, how we can go to the hospital if there is anything we cant handle, etc. But I really just want to tell them to SHUT THE @#$% UP<br><br>
Guess thats pregnancy hormones huh? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I am also getting very VERY tired of all of the questions....I know I should just be nice and enjoy them...but they are the same questions over and over again..and it is getting SO old <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: .<br><br>
I find myself dreading going into places where I know people are going to ask me about it....which is pretty much EVERYWHERE now days <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> . The other kids at my kids school are starting to notice and they are really cute and all..but then they touch my belly and I feel like I should be nice because they are just kids right? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> --but I just want to scream sometimes!<br><br>
One little boy asked me what I was having...I said that it was a baby and he was soo shocked! He said "YOU dont know if it is a boy or a girl!!!!???"...then he paused and said, "You want it to be a boy, girls are annoying"<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ....of course I am also getting the complete opposite response from all of the little girls. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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You sound really inward and stressed about the outside world pushing in on you and your baby. ((((Hugs)))) I am sorry everyone is giving you advice and basking in questions over baby belly. Hope you get the peace you need.
 

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yep. except I keep getting "...so, you're due in what 2 or 3 weeks?" And I have to say "NO, try 2-3 months". Usually people stop there, but yesterday some guy just wouldn't let it rest, "..so you're sure its not twins?"...and on. and on. and on. People keep teling me how its going to be a big baby, but my midwife says my uterus measures a bit on the small side. I think because I'm short waisted the baby has nowhere to go but OUT, and the rest of me is still pretty thin. God, I never thought I'd get so annoyed by all the stupid comments and questions. I've just started to lie to strangers to avoid all the questions, say I'm due much sooner than later...most people just don't see alot of pg women I'm starting to suspect...
 

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Sometimes I think those "it's a girl, due in the Spring" and such t-shirts are a great idea! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Give 'em enough info to keep them from asking tons and tons of annoying questions! Maybe. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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I was complaining to my mom about this yesterday.<br><br>
"What are you having?"<br>
"When are you due?"<br>
"Do you have names picked out?"<br>
"Do you have two in there?"<br>
"You're so small!"<br>
"Are you taking childbirth classes?" *most annoying question ever*<br>
"How do you feel?" *second most annoying question ever*<br>
"Have you been sick?"<br>
"When was the last time you saw the doctor?"<br><br>
I try not to be rude, but I usually give one word answers. I know people mean well, but....it's just so annoying!
 

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I really enjoyed the attention while I was pg, but I did get a teeny bit tired of "when are you due?" and "is it a boy or a girl?" Usually I was fine with it; it tends to be the second thing I ask a pg woman (the first being, "How are you feeling?"), but when it was the tenth time that day, it got a bit boring.<br><br>
But what I really hated was people commenting on my size. In the same day, I could get gaping looks and, "oh my God, you must be having twins!" or "you're so small for your due date!" Saying I looked like I was having twins made me feel like a fat elephant; saying I looked tiny made me feel like my baby was small and unhealthy.<br><br>
Oh, and I don't understand why "How are you feeling?" is annoying. Pregnancy feels different for different people. Some people feel great, some people feel lousy, and being a caring person, that's what I tend to ask about.
 

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Oh God, I know how you feel. With my first baby I liked the attention, well most of it. I was so excited adn its was all I wanted to talk about. I'd tell strangers on the street! However. And I know Ive been guilty of it too, I guess oh, when are you due? and is it a boy or girl? all ways of showing an interest. I had a coworker who refused to tell gender and refused to tell what names they were considering. I thoght she was weird at the time. I get it now.<br><br>
I spent not just nine mos of my last pg, but the time spent ttc him, listening to my entire family tell me we didnt need another baby, tell me they didnt like the name we chose, try and talk me out of the birthing center and into the hospital etc. etc. etc.<br><br>
I went postdates and got asked by at least 12 ppl a day "havent you had that baby yet?" and "Are you still here?" (at work) Um.....well, you see me and my big pg. belly standing here, dont you? Sheesh.<br><br>
This time around, my mom doesnt even say hello when I call, she answers the phone with, "are you in labor?"
 

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With my first I hated ppl rubbing my belly. HATED it. It's still attached!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I had one couple that we were pretty close to and who I always felt very safe with. Beautiful people, really. Anyway, one day the wife touched my belly one time w/ only her fingertip, which I thought was so sweet. She knew I didn't want to be touched and I just totally appreciated that. She didn't maul my stomach and feel me up. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
With my 2nd I was more laid back about it, but still protective. Word had gotten around enough the first time, apparently. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
This time I am in a whole new area and I'm working w/ MANY teenagers. I have a few who just come up and rub my belly (all 15 wks of it, which I feel is still mostly flab <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">) or just put their hands on me. It's very sweet and I'm ok with it this time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> At least once a week someone asks to see my baby belly, which cracks me up. One girl who asks and puts her hand on me is actually a nursing student (I work w/ 2, this one is new) who witnessed her little sister's birth. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Then another is a guy who asked me if he could be present at the birth! I was in shock, to say the least. I love his interest in the whole process, actually. Not sure I'll call him up when the babe is crowning, however. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I decided not to get an ultrasound this time. So I might just get one of those shirts that someone else mentioned that says "due in fall, we don't know" or whatever. FTR, I think it's another boy. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
ETA: I work w/ another girl who is due in June and I never touch her (she doesn't give of a very welcoming vibe about it anyway) and I never ask "What are you having?" I ask "Do you know?" That way if they wanna tell they will and if not they can just say, "Yup." and leave it alone. Or say no and lie. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Yeah, I hate the one "are you excited?" But I hate it always, not just when it applies to pregnancy. No, I am not excited. I am not the kind of person who gets excited about things. Neither is my husband. This question always annoys us.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Anyone else wanna join in on my vent? What do you tell *strangers* when you're sick to death with all the questions? (Or what would you LIKE to tell them? lol ). Ugh...5 weeks til my "due" date. THEN, I'll have everyone telling me how to raise my child. It'll never end, will it?</div>
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I just look at is as an exercise in patience. It is good for my character to smile and answer their questions nicely and enthusiastically. It is not good for me to indulge in feeling annoyed.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Sometimes I think those "it's a girl, due in the Spring" and such t-shirts are a great idea! Give 'em enough info to keep them from asking tons and tons of annoying questions! Maybe.</div>
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I would be afraid that a t-shirt like that would signal that you want to talk about it, and in the end it would be worse.
 

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I'm 39 1/2 weeks....my response now is usually a one word answer as I walk away or silence as I walk away and pretend not to hear or I divert my eyes and hope they don't comment at all. I dread going to work. It's pretty strange how one person can think I am huge, another think I am teeny, and someone else not even know I am pregnant!<br><br>
This is my first so I really dispise questions that have to do with how many kids I plan to have and if I am nervous etc....umm, I don't have any idea what I am getting into so how can I answer that!?<br><br>
Oh well...sometime in the next 3wks he will be here.....
 

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I was 9 days away from delivery (didn't know it at the time, but you get the big-bellied idea <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> ) and went to a HUGE family gathering of my husband's family. I hadn't met most of them EVER so I got the generic rundown for HOURS straignt. I'd gotten a little wearied of the same questions over and over as it was, but that wad just nuts! I really wanted the t-shirt then:<br><br><i>Due mid-December, it's a boy, I feel fine, of course I'm thrilled... now leave me alone.</i>
 

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geesh! i don't think that ppl are trying to be annoying or rude most the time. i know some ppl push boundaries, but most are just trying to give you attention or find something to talk about. they don't realize you've been asked the same question a million times!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">. A woman in Wal Mart had the nerve to ask me if I was dilated at all. I told her I didn't know. LOL.</div>
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that is when you say "i'm not sure, would you like to check?"<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
i rarely got any of those questions last time, people in texas seem to mind their own business.
 

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When people ask when I'm due, I just say, "the end of May". Then they look at me like, "yeah, but WHEN?"<br>
Mostly, I just dread all the "twins" remarks, shock that I'm not due today, comments on how large my tummy is (Honestly, where else could it go but out???)...But I HATE that they (the strangers that subject me to their stares) never talk to me--they speak to my belly! And occassionally, I can't get away from them. I had a lady practically following me into the dressing room to comment on her surprise that I still had so long to go! Arggh! Women are the worst...don't they remember being preg?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">geesh! i don't think that ppl are trying to be annoying or rude most the time. i know some ppl push boundaries, but most are just trying to give you attention or find something to talk about. they don't realize you've been asked the same question a million times!</div>
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I realize people mean well, but especially if a comment comes from a woman who has been pregnant at least once before - they should know what to comment about...and some things are better left unsaid.
 

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I work in a daycare so _everyone_ asks me all the time how I'm doing, and my favourite "How's the baby doing?" My current answer is "meh, still there" while looking at my belly. Really, they know as much as I do about that one! I understand why they ask, but by the end of a nine hour day, I'm just not so polite anymore.
 
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