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I am almost 6-weeks pregnant. This is a surprise pregnancy. We weren't TTC, but we weren't TTA, either. I just thought it would never happen on it's own because of the great lengths we had to go to to conceive our twins. So I didn't give a whole lot of thought to the impact of getting PG. Don't get me wrong -- we're happy about this, hoping that this baby sticks around and want a third child, but it is a surprise.<br><br>
In theory, I am open to nursing through this pregnancy and tandem nursing (is it still called tandem if there are 3?), but right now the nursing hurts *so much.* It feels like they're chewing my nipples when they latch on and again when the milk lets down. I've never had pain with nursing before & the extent to which this hurts surprises me. It makes me want to avoid nursing my girls. They typically like to nurse after nap and the past few days I've gone in when they've woken and asked them if they want a popscicle. They get all excited & haven't asked to nurse. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: Seriously, what kind of Mom offers her children frozen juice instead of human milk. I feel like crap about this.<br><br>
I am tossing around the idea of weaning my girls. It breaks my heart to say this. But I am just imagining how much they'll freak out when I am nursing the new baby and want to nurse, too. I think I'd have to keep them as a unit and nurse the new baby by him/herself and that will feel crappy, too. While I don't nurse every single time they ask, I discourage NIP for instance because I can't even get my mind around how I'd tandem 2-year olds at the park, I pretty much nurse on demand, so this will be a huge adjustment. It just seems like it would be easier if they didn't nurse anymore.<br><br>
They're still pretty attached to nursing, though. Especially Fiona. And they're picky eaters, so I've felt like at least they're getting some good nutrition from my milk, KWIM?<br><br>
I'm telling myself that I'm not going to get too worked up about this until my ultrasound on May 10 and we see a heartbeat and have a better idea that this baby will stick around, but I am just really torn up about it.<br><br>
Has anyone else gone through this? How did you think through your decision about whether to nurse your multiples through a subsequent pregancy?
 

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I havent done this, but just wanted to respond and say that you have already done such a tremendous job... nursing twins to age 2 is already such a great accomplishment!!!!!! I know you want what is best for your girls, but that also includes you being happy and healthy. You arent wrong for feeling the way you are. If you feel like continuing to nurse them through your pregnancy is too much for you physically or emotionally, considering your options is not wrong at all. You have already given your girls so much over the last two years and although Im sure it would be a difficult on all of you if you do decide to wean them, you have to do what is best for everyone involved, including yourself and your new baby. I'm not advocating either option, just saying that you really should do what feels right to you. If you choose to continue BFing your girls & the new baby, Im sure you will figure out how to do it. If you choose to wean your twins, I am sure they will be just fine! Either way, just remember that you are such a great mom and have already given so much to your children. They are lucky to have such a wonderful and caring mother!!!!
 

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Three years is a heck of a milestone! I breastfed for the first 2 months of this pregnancy and I can tell you the pain does subside considerably after a while. If the guilt is that bad then keep nursing like you are or cut them back for sanity sake (could they get by with 2-3 nursings a day?). I found by 12 weeks or so my nipples didn't hurt so much. We did decide to wean because I was expecting twins and didn't want to risk PTL, but I'm hoping to unwean him when the twins arrive and continue where we left off until he's ready to self wean. If you are having a singleton then this is of course not an issue and you can nurse as long as the three of you want to. Do whatever feels RIGHT to you. If it's time to wean, you'll know it. Also it's likely that by 20 weeks you'll have nothing but colostrum and they may not want to continue, so be prepared for that possibility as well.
 
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