[NaturalMindedMomma]

Ok so recently, my two year old has been through some traumatic things (my ex fiance left and he is the only "daddy" she knows). We also moved, which seemed to be worse than him leaving. I think maybe she realizes it is permanent because we are here and he and his 2 LO's are not.

She used to STTN in a crib. I would put her in it at around 8-10 pm with books and she would read until she fell asleep and not wake (or very rarely). Now she wants to sleep with mom and I am having hard time with the transition. I am at my parents and only in a full bed, I also am pregnant and will have the baby in a cosleeper come August. Maybe I just need some moral support. I know my baby needs me and I enjoy the snuggles, but I'm sore and tired.

 

[~minnow~]

That's rough. Your willingness to sleep with her even though it's hard on you is awesome! And it will get easier. Either you'll learn to sleep together, or she'll adjust back to sleeping on her own (maybe on a little mattress on the floor next to you? For the time being?) I know how hard it is when you are tired yourself, and being pregnant makes it so much harder.

Any way you can do something relaxing for yourself during the day to offset the soreness and tiredness of night time? Perhaps you can get a massage now and then? Sometimes apprentice massage therapists offer cheap rates to pregnant women so they can practice their techniques.

 

[NaturalMindedMomma]

Thanks... I'm trying and I love her so much I just dont want her to be in any pain. She is content to be with me.

I'm assuming when I transition her to her own room again, she will be ok, it just has to be on her terms. As for me, since I am out of work, I get some nice naps and hot baths so I am OK. My mom tries to help as much as possible during the day with playing and lifting.

As long as she is happy, it makes me happy.

 

[mamarootoo]

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Originally Posted by ~minnow~ That's rough. Your willingness to sleep with her even though it's hard on you is awesome! And it will get easier. Either you'll learn to sleep together, or she'll adjust back to sleeping on her own (maybe on a little mattress on the floor next to you? For the time being?) I know how hard it is when you are tired yourself, and being pregnant makes it so much harder. Any way you can do something relaxing for yourself during the day to offset the soreness and tiredness of night time? Perhaps you can get a massage now and then? Sometimes apprentice massage therapists offer cheap rates to pregnant women so they can practice their techniques.

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i think that it would probably end up being harder on you to try an force (that's the wrong word... i just can't think of another way to say it... pregnancy brain ) your DD back into independent sleeping. it could lead to more night waking, and more insecurity during the day.
the more you meet her needs now, the more secure she'll feel. that will be best for everyone involved... especially since you have a new LO on the way!

i am so sorry you're going through this. you're doing the hardest work of motherhood right now. doing what's best for your DD, even though it's so hard on you.