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I'm a cd mama and I usually let 14 mo dd go coverless at home. So I have a pretty good idea of her potty habbits. Just to save myself the trouble of washing a few diapers I've started putting dd on the potty if she wakes up dry from her naps. We read a story or two and more often than not she'll pee. Well twice now I taken the next step and put her on the potty when I hear her start to poop and both times she's happily cooperated and gone in the potty.<br><br>
Now all my sposie mama friends say that you shouldn't even start to think about PT untill 2 1/5 yo or more. I have two close friends that say 3 is the ideal age for pt. they say that trying sooner just makes the whole process take longer. I don't really think I'm trying to pt, in my mind i'm doing part time ec (if there is such thing?)<br><br>
So my question for ya'll is should I continue with erratic EC, or will this just make eventual potty training take longer?<br><br>
Anyway, I'd just like to hear your impressions of this situation and would welcome any thoughts and ideas.
 

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As long as you aren't forcing her, just giving her the opportunity to go potty, I think you're fine. I don't see how that will make her wait to potty train longer. I think elimination communication is a good name for it because it's all about your dd communicating your needs to you and you listening. It's not like you're strapping her to the potty and forcing her to go (which is what they used to do in the bad old days, which is what gave infant potty training a bad name).<br><br>
I would say just do what you and your dd are comfortable with, which will help her get in touch with her elimination needs and get her used to the potty. Even if her potty training takes just as long as your friends' kids, you've saved some diapers :LOL and given your dd the chance to stay dry and comfy as well as figure out her body and her needs. It's all good! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hippie.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hippie">
 

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Thanks for the reasurance Jane,<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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I think that this is what my sposie friends are imagining when I try to explain the whole EC concept.<br><br>
In my mind I'm just looking for ways to keep my dd comfy and dry. I just bought beautiful new XL wool covers for goodness sake <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">, so I have no interest in forcing early PT, but at the same time I don't want to miss an oppurtunity by ignoring dd's potty signals just because she's "too young".
 

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Well, I don't have much experience with ec and the older baby, but I do the same as you with my 5-month old and I certainly wouldn't say I'm trying to potty train her. Full time ec didn't work for us, but when she wakes up dry from a nap or if I think she's got to go I put her on her little potty and she sits there all happy as can be and will generally go. So far today she's poo'd three times (yes, it's only 11am, gotta love an ebf baby), twice in the potty and once in a diaper, and that's worked for both of us. I also have a friend who's on her second baby that poops in the potty from around their first birthday on with no ill effects. Her first day potty trained around 2.5 yrs old and is still not quite dry at nights at 3.5. Her second is only just a year now.<br><br>
Oh and on a similar note, my first is an extremely neat child who doesn't like messes and she potty trained herself just after her second birthday. I certainly wouldn't have wanted to force her into diapers for another year just because someone else thought she wasn't ready. She would have probably thrived on ec'ing had I heard of it when she was an infant. As long as you are listening to what your baby is telling you, you should be fine. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I have to agree. I don't see how gently offering the potty would make it harder to potty train her in the future. I do think that forcing the baby on the potty would set you back though, that must be what your friends are thinking. I vote let her use the potty when you can and she wants to. No pressure = no harm.
 

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I think your spousie friends are way off here. It's perfectly fine to do part time EC and to be in tune with what your child needs. DD did poops in the potty only from about 4 or 5 months old. She was in panties full time by 20 months old. Your point here is being in tune with them, not potty training per se. But being in tune will help them potty train.<br><br>
but let's assume for a minute that your potty training process is drawn out a couple of months. Is that worse than another full year or two in diapers? They can't pull their own panties down at 2 years old like they can at 3. But they can tell *you* to pull them down for the potty and that's just as good.<br><br>
Just ignore your spousie friends and tell them you're not potty training . . .because you're not - you're just helping your child to feel clean and tuning into her natural, very obvious signals!
 

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I've just got to laugh at the notion that having potty training "take longer" is some kind of a big awful drawback.<br><br>
My EC baby has pooped mostly in the pot since she was 6 months old, and can go all day, sometimes all night dry. BUT at 21 months she still has an accident once in a while. That means I've been "potty training" her for 15 months so far.<br><br>
During that 15 months I've had to change fewer than 1 poopy diaper per week, I only wash one load of diapers per week. DD has had no diaper rashes at all. We have been able to take her camping and on several long trips without filling my suitcase with diapers (when we are on the road I usualy just wash out the occasional wet diaper in the sink). One time the Dr. needed a urine sample and I caught one with no need for a baby catheter (eek!)<br><br>
I'd say the fact that it is taking a long time for her to be 100% potty reliable is no drawback at all, considering the advantages.<br><br>
--AmyB
 

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Thanks again for this refreshing perspective. The wrap it up and forget about it mentality of sposie mamas just drives me nuts!
 
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