Hi social worker mamas -- I have a question for you. If I'm in the wrong place with it, please let me know.<br><br>
My stbx wants to be a social worker, and he's often a very gentle, sincere guy. Bright and all that. He's making the rounds of local social-service agencies and signing up to volunteer, and he's applied to grad school in social work. Unfortunately, he's also got a history of violence, he struggles with a mental illness disability that makes his connections very odd sometimes, and makes him take other people's...existence, I guess...personally, with big swings in how he sees them day to day, and it's all about how he thinks they treat him. He's tried to diagnose me with various mental illnesses and says he's afraid I'm going to hit him. (No, this is not realistic.) Tonight I made the delightful discovery that he was also trying to hook up on dating sites while we were still together and -- I thought -- trying to keep our family together. He's got a photo of dd on his dating profile, a family-moment shot. One of the profiles starts with a list of psych conditions you shouldn't have if you want to date him.<br><br>
He really does come off as OK in person -- maybe a little earnest and vulnerable, says a few weird things, but on the whole he seems like a responsible, quiet, sensitive guy. Still, I think of him trying to counsel and help others, and I'm kind of "um yeah, that might not be best." I'm starting to feel like I should say something to the social-services agency people, but I don't want to muddy waters, and things are touchy anyway with the divorce going on.<br><br>
What do you think? Should I just leave it alone? I have a feeling that saying something may open a can of worms, and that the agency people may figure things out on their own just fine.