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Dh had to go to another city to receive an award for excellence <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"> So when he came home yesterday and started to pack is when it struck me. I'm as well educated as he is. I worked as hard as he did pre-kids. I thought I'd have a career as much as he does before becoming a SAHP. I enjoy this role most days but sometimes it pinches, like yesterday. He didn't really even want to go and here I was envying him for it. After all, once he got there he'd have a whole day of planned activities (they're going to a play, touring around, then getting ready for a blacktie dinner/award ceremony), coworkers who appreciate all he does, a spot in the limelight when he receivess the award etc. And here I am with just another day spent cleaning bums, getting food on the table even if I'm not hungry, mediating disputes, naptime, you know the rigmarole. With 2 young 'uns it's not like I'm getting any "thank you, person, for taking care of all our needs and loving us. We appreciate you." or anything. I'm sad. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Will I ever be content with my life again?<br><br>
Just a vent more than anything else. Could use some virtual hugs right now <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/disappointed.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="disappointed">
 

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Here's a hug.<br><br>
I just think anything you do day in, day out gets to be a grind. He gets perks like the occasional trip and award, and even though you deal with the bum-wiping--you probably also get some perks he envies--making your own schedule, parenting your way, spending more time in your home...<br><br>
But some days it just doesn't feel like it. Hope something good happens to turn your day around.
 

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I still work (from home) but I miss out on all the parts of work I actually liked (I loved business meetings <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> call me weird), co-worker interaction, recognition lunches, just the occasional 'pat on the back' that you never get WAH or SAH. I love staying home with DS & some days (like when we're having a blast at the park or the zoo on a sunny afternoon) I am sooo happy I chose to do this -- and other days I watch DH go off and feel a twinge of envy & wonder if I will ever get that satisfaction of working at a job I love again.<br><br>
Anyway, so I think I understand how you feel <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Maybe doing something really fun with the kids today will cheer you up & remind you of why you chose to be a SAHM?
 

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Wookie, just wanted to send some sympathy your way. I totally get it. My husband just went away to a conference, and there was of course fun activities planned, and he likes the socializing, etc. He works so hard and definitely deserves some R&R -- and this wasn't even a vacation, it really was another work function, albeit a more social one. I was fine until the 3rd day, when I completely melted down and was a big, crying mess on the phone to him. The next day I was kind of embarrassed about it all. For me, I think it has to do with feeling left behind, left alone.<br><br>
I hope you're feeling better. You are definitely not alone in this one.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Dh had to go to another city to receive an award for excellence <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"> So when he came home yesterday and started to pack is when it struck me. I'm as well educated as he is. I worked as hard as he did pre-kids. I thought I'd have a career as much as he does before becoming a SAHP. I enjoy this role most days but sometimes it pinches, like yesterday. He didn't really even want to go and here I was envying him for it. After all, once he got there he'd have a whole day of planned activities (they're going to a play, touring around, then getting ready for a blacktie dinner/award ceremony), coworkers who appreciate all he does, a spot in the limelight when he receivess the award etc. And here I am with just another day spent cleaning bums, getting food on the table even if I'm not hungry, mediating disputes, naptime, you know the rigmarole. With 2 young 'uns it's not like I'm getting any "thank you, person, for taking care of all our needs and loving us. We appreciate you." or anything. I'm sad. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Will I ever be content with my life again?<br><br>
Just a vent more than anything else. Could use some virtual hugs right now <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/disappointed.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="disappointed"></div>
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What you are doing is invaluable, important, and has a lasting impact.<br><br>
I get treated differently because I do not work. It is really annoying. I have been in your shoes and I understand how thankless staying home is. What you do is, however, extremely important! I just want you to remember that.<br><br>
I appreciate what you are doing. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">
 

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Hugs!<br><br>
Is there any way you could volunteer in the field you were educated in,or a new area that interests you? This might help.<br><br>
I finished college like dh too,but so much time passed I couldn't even get into my area of study now if I wanted too.<br><br>
Hoping you feel better soon.
 

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This thread is a week old now and I've had better days since then but just wanted to thank everyone for the hugs. you girls ROCK! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 
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