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I need help with getting more sleep. My dd2 is 20mo and sleeps her crib in the room down the hall. She has been waking 2-5x a night since birth to nurse. I get out of bed walk down the hall and nurse her, then walk back to my bed. I tried cosleeping with her on and off throughtout her life, but well, she just doesn't do it. She climbs out of bed at 3:30 am and hits me, pulls hair, screams if the nipple isn't in her mouth, etc. I just can't sleep with her. So, the getting out of bed to nurse her has been the routine. However, I am feeling a little, shall we say, crazy. I have been really forgetful, mean, and a very bad driver lately, and I know it is from the sleep(or lack thereof). I have been trying the "Pantley Pulloff method" in the No cry sleep solution book, but she woke p evern more the last two nights of doing it. I think she knows what I am trying to do and is rebelling by waking up even more. Okay maybe shes not capable of that, but she did wake up 6 times last night. My dh is sooo busy and exhausted that I feel guilty asking him to help. He has medical problems as it is. And letting her cry even a short time is not an option because we live in a an apartment and the neighbors get pissed. I feel so awful and so trapped. She is just so intense and sensitive and smart. She doesn't want to give it up , and she gets really pissed when I try to make her. I have been thinking about quitting bf-ing altoghether b/c it is just downright dangerous fo rme to be in this state. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br>
Suggestions please. Has anyone ever had relatives come from out of state to help with nightweaning? I don't know really think she would take comforting from my mom simply b/c she doesn't know her well, but I am desperate here.
 

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I feel for you on the lack of sleep! It sounds like you've really reached a point where it's dangerous/detrimental for you and your lo to not be getting more sleep. I haven't nightweaned yet so I can't speak from experience. The only thing I thought of is have you tried explaining to her why you can't nurse her so much at night and how you really love her but you need more sleep to be the best mommy you can be? It doesn't sound like a magic cure, but maybe it would help a little? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Thanks for the reply. Last night was a little better. She woke up three times during the night. I nursed her once, and the other two times I just told her I loved her and rubbed her back. She settled down pretty quickly surprisingly. I think before I was saying to her "no you can't nurse right now", and that was setting her off. But I didn't even mention it last night, and it somehow seemed she didn't even need it, what she needed was jst some reassusrance that I was there for her. I hope it works tonight again. and that she finds that the patting isn't worth waking up for eventually.
 
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