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I don't know what it is. I've only had one (okay, one spread out into two sessions - long story <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">) appointment with a doc, that was at the beginning of pregnancy (about 5 weeks) and only because I was nervous about not having had a pap in 3 years and made the appt prior to knowing about the pregnancy.<br>
I'm 15 weeks, and really hadn't planned on seeing a midwife until around 20 weeks. But I just have this feeling that something is really wrong with this pregnancy, and I think I'll have to see her sooner. When I stretch my mid-section, I feel as though my insides are going to come off of my skin . . . I've been feeling like this for a while. I haven't been able to get a "read" on the baby as well, although my almost-4 yo assures me that <i>she</i> (my next was supposed to be a <i>he</i>) is fine and they talk daily. My almost-2 yo has stepped on my belly a couple of times (before I could prevent it) from above (like, standing on it, both of us upright), and I experienced wrenching pain that had me doubled over.<br>
I found myself wishing yesterday that the pregnancy would just end already, just to get it over with . . . this surprised me, but I just feel so strongly that the pregnancy isn't going to last, I guess. I'm even considering getting an ultrasound, just to see.<br><br>
Sorry for my whining. I know it's quite possible that nothing is wrong, but I just had to get this out and I didn't know where else to do so.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">. That doesn't sound like whining to me! Wrenching pain seems like reason enough to be concerned. Add to it your feeling that something is wrong... I think you're being totally reasonable.<br><br>
Your post worries me. It sounds like maybe you should go to the emergency room. Am I misreading how bad this is?<br><br>
Either way, I hope you get some answers and some relief soon. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">.
 

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I don't have anything useful to say, though I couldn't read your post and not respond. What you're going through sounds very scary. I think it may be wise to listen to yourself and see a midwife.
 

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I would go to the Emergency room if I was experiencing horrible abdominal pain. It could be a number of things, even non pregnancy related. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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No, it's def not bad enough to go to the ER - it's very sporadic, and only if I move in certain ways, and then only sometimes, kwim? Not life threatening, just <i>not right</i> Plus it's been happening for weeks. The stepping on belly thing - once was this am, the other time was about 3 weeks ago.<br><br>
Thanks for the concern. I'll be contacting the mw shortly. Perhaps I'll feel a little less worried if she can find a hb, although I'd really planned to avoid doppler as well, and I'm pretty sure it's too early for a fetoscope.
 

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Could it just be round ligament pain?? I know it's hard to really describe your pain to other people. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
Oh- I don't know if this will be comforting at all but since the moment I concieved DS2 I thought for sure that my pregnancy was doomed. Something just didn't feel right. At all.<br><br>
He's now 18 months and completely fine. I think sometimes the worry can just get to us. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I think you should consider taking action you're comfortable with to try to get some resolution ... see your mw, use a doppler, get an u/s, etc. Whatever you are comfortable with. I am a huge believer in intuition and communication with the baby, etc. That said, it is possible to sometimes get a wrong read, or to <i>interpret</i> a feeling incorrectly. The intuitive healer/homeopath we see once told me that my dd only needed 6 hours of sleep per night <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: (I was complaining about sleep problems). (To be perfectly clear, she was saying that this is what my dd's body/spirit was saying it needed.) She couldn't have been more wrong -- my dd routinely sleeps 12 hours/night and sometimes takes naps <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">. There is NO WAY she could survive on 6 hours of sleep in a 24 hour period. This is a woman that I trust inherently, and she has helped me and my daughter tremendously. And even she isn't foolproof <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug">.<br><br>
I find it reassuring that your dd is still able to connect with the baby, because I believe that children are much more in tune with their intuition than we are (although it's obviously a skill that adults can cultivate). As for the he/she thing, my healer said most children being born now are very "balanced" from a gender perspective (I was telling her I was sure my baby was a boy, but kept picking up strong healing, female energy from it). So she said it's common to get a "mixed read" on the sex, and she doesn't even bother trying to predict it anymore.<br><br>
That said, you've certainly been experiencing some strange sensations, and your intuition should not be dismissed out of hand. As we have seen this week, all too sadly, it is definitely possible to lose a baby at this point.<br><br>
I hope your fears are for naught, but since it sounds like you're worrying, I do think it might be a good idea to take some steps to get more information. I prefer to avoid doppler, but in your case I might decide to use it just long enough to hear a hb, and then stop. I think there is no real chance of hearing a heartbeat with a fetoscope at this stage.<br><br>
Lots of <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s mama. Please keep us posted.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I agree with PPs, follow your gut and do what you can to get some reassurance. I hope all is well.
 

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Follow your intuition. If you want a check (doppler, u/s etc) get one. [if you don't, don't...]<br><br>
hang in there!<br><br>
-Angela
 

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I think you should follow your gut. If getting an ultrasound or doppler will relieve your mind, do it! Don't hesitate if you feel something is wrong.
 

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Your intuition is there for a reason, and I would listen. However, I don't see any immediate danger as long as your pain doesn't become constant and severe, kwim? The answer will probably be the same in 5 weeks as it is now. It just depends on how you're feeling right now. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I hope it's nothing, but it sounds like you have a good grasp on your body. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> you are in my thoughts
 

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Aww thanks <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
I'm fine, just been doing a lot of thinking. Feeling a bit less worried/confused. Shanana, I think you kind of hit the nail on the head. My interpretation of what was to come was off. This baby isn't the boy I saw when I was pg with dd2 - he <i>was</i> supposed to be my next, but I think he chose not to come because he has strong objections to being baptized Catholic and, unfortunately, I'm not strong enough to stand up to the family yet <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> And because I expected it to be him, I was too closed off to anything else.<br>
I'm actually an intuitive healer as well, but have found that this pregnancy has shut me off entirely, which has been quite distressing. My previous pregnancies were quite the opposite - I was much more psychically aware.<br>
I've contacted my healer, although she's gone for the next while, and am waiting to hear back from her. I haven't contacted the mw yet, but will soon enough. If I were to lose the pregnancy, I'd want to do it home alone anyway (barring life-threatening circumstances).<br>
I'm also now pretty convinced the placenta's anterior, not quite sure why . . . dd1's was.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I'm glad to hear you're feeling better about things. That's interesting what you were saying about the boy choosing not to come yet. I had a loss a few months before getting pregnant with dd, and during this pregnancy I've occasionally gotten the feeling that I'm carrying the same baby again. Like s/he (okay, I <i>really</i> think it's a he, but am afraid to commit 100% <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">) realized early in the first pregnancy that I had some serious lessons to learn, and dd needed to come first. Because, boy, have I learned some lessons with her (especially about pregnancy/birth). This baby is all about faith and trust -- in me, my body, my baby. I was very much not ready for that 3 years ago.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm actually an intuitive healer as well, but have found that this pregnancy has shut me off entirely, which has been quite distressing. My previous pregnancies were quite the opposite - I was much more psychically aware.</div>
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Everything holds lessons for us <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">. I was incredibly connected to this baby before conception, but as soon as I found out I was pregnant I felt like that connection was lost. When the first trimester ickies hit a week or two later, all thoughts of the baby went out the window <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">. It was all about survival, and I found it completely impossible to connect. Now that I'm feeling better, I feel more connected, but it still lacks the strength that was present before conception ... it's strangely more distant and muted, although the baby is physically so close <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug">.<br><br>
Anyway, I'm glad to hear that you're feeling better about things <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">.
 

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I had a similar experience when I was pregnant with dd. I used to read tarot (still do now, but only very rarely) and was doing so regularly when I conceived dd. My ability to read cards went completely out the window when I was pregnant with her. In general, I found her vibration so forceful that I was unable to intuit anything and, in many cases, even get close to my own instincts. This is very unlike me (I tend to make decisions on my inutition because I hear it so strongly). Knowing her now, I'm not surprised that this happened, but at the time it was very distressing.<br><br>
I'm glad to hear that you are feeling better about things, I hope that it continues. I've been thinking about you.
 

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I feel for your worry mama. I felt similarly with # 2 I think it is because you already know how amazing a child is and because you already have a deep attachment and responsibility for one this new baby may seem all that more to worry about. SO much to go wrong ( although not likely) so much to think about. I don't know if I make any sence it is hard to put it into words. Anyway go get an ultrasound because worry and unknowing is not good for you or baby. Do it for you not a midwife.
 
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