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I don't even know where to begin, I am so tired and frustrated and now actually considering some form of modified CIO.<br><br>
DS is almost 11 months and his sleeping/napping situation is getting worse. He went from waking up 2-3 times a night to waking every 2 hours to waking every hour. Then this past week, he and I have had a bad cold that threw sleep into an even worse spiral. He hasn't been napping during the day (unless I kill money, gas, and the environment by driving around; or walking around for 1.5 hours in the stroller; or lying down with him) and nighttime has become awful. He's clearly tired but can't unwind no matter what we do in the late afternoon/evening to wind things down. He keeps standing up in our bed banging the wall with his soother, hitting us to wake up and play, or thrashing about.<br><br>
We used to have a combo crib sleeping and co-sleeping thing that was working...except for the frequent wakings. But, now he won't even consider the crib. The 3 or so hours a night he would sleep in the crib was literally the only time I had to myself and now that it's gone, I didn't realize how much of a sanity-saver that time was.<br><br>
My marriage is suffering...or pretty much falling apart. My DH is working insane hours. We have no routine left in the house. We're not eating meals together. I feel as though keeping a consistent nap/sleep/meals schedule is super-important right now...especially since things seem to be getting worse but DH doesn't feel it's too bad if we miss his bedtime.<br><br>
UGG...I realize I'm throwing a whole lot of issues in the mix right now but I'm at my wits end. My nipples are sore, my body aches, I have constant headaches, I'm afraid to start a conversation with my DH b/c I don't want it to turn into an argument, I feel and look like crap, my patience is gone.<br><br>
As I type, DS is screaming in DH's arms right now, I'm in tears at the keyboard and I'm close to freaking out...again. What now???!!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bawling.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bawl">
 

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Everything is worse when you're sleep deprived. Both of mine went into hideous sleep phases at 8-10 months that only got worse until I did something. My first, I used Dr. Jay Gordon's night weaning thing not to night wean her (at a year) but just to slow her down some. She did start sleeping much better then and I eventually used it to night wean her (at 19 months) as well. My 2nd is still in it, and she's much more challenging because she won't cosleep. I feel your pain though-it's really hard.
 

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Just a hug and to let you know this sounds pretty normal to me, based on what we went through with DD. I know explanations don't always help, but maybe it's teething? Is he walking yet?<br><br>
Hang in there, mama! If your son is this upset, something is obviously going on. Even the CIO people say it's best not to try sleep training when there are other issues.
 

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My son has ALWAYS been a resistant sleeper... I remember around a year being particularly horrible. I spent a lot of time in tears. I'm sorry your husband isn't more supportive, because that is what got me through it. If you can't get any consistency from your husband, is there any way you can make a consistant schedule and routine without him? Between my work schedule, a joint-custody schedule, and my husband's school schedule, it seemed like every night was a different configuration of people (children and adults). We just tried to be as consistent as possible with what we had to work with.<br><br>
I also SWEAR, with no scientific evidence whatsoever except what I know about nutrition, that when my son has a high-protein lunch, he has a MUCH harder time settling down for a nap. I try to give him most of his protein when he wakes up (breakfast and snacks) rather than the meal(s) right before nap/bedtimes. He usually gets a pretty complex-carb-filled lunch...<br><br>
There were also occasions when we hired a babysitter and went out for a late dinner or a movie at bedtime. A lot of kids will go to sleep for a caregiver in ways that they won't for you.<br><br>
We used to dread bedtime... seriously, we would start getting depressed halfway through dinner b/c we knew bedtime and the inevitable was around the corner...<br><br>
I wish I had more advice, but I have LOTS and LOTS of sympathy...
 

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I just had to reply. Your situation sounds almost exactly like mine. My DD (13 mo.) Used to do great in her crib for a few hours until I was ready to go to sleep, and I cherished that time to relax and spend time with DH.Now if I'm lucky enough to even get her down to sleep at a reasonable hour, she wakes every hour in her crib and even if I think I've rocked & nursed her to sleep, she always wakes the minute she feels the crib. Same with her nap, she might nap for 1/2 hour or so in her crib, but wakes and then has to sleep on me if I want her to sleep longer. I think maybe it has to do with separation anxiety? Being more aware of the crib? I don't know, but I sure hope it's a phase! Just want you to know that we're going through the same thing. Hang in there, hope it gets better for you soon!
 

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Big hugs to you mama.<br><br>
My DS has always been a wakeful baby, but from 7 through 11 months we had record wakings from 1.5 hours down to every 45 minutes or less.<br><br>
I tried night weaning at 12 months but I gave up because I don't think he's ready, so now at 13 months we're back to nursing all night, but since I'm just going with it and trying not to change things, it's actually not "that" bad. If I had to guess, he still wakes anywhere between 6 or 8 times while he's in bed for about 10 hours or so - that's actually a good night for us.<br><br>
Hang in there - you are not alone and trust that it will eventually pass. All these mamas keep saying it will get better eventually. I'm counting on just a little more sleep in another year or so!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
Try not to count how many times he wakes and don't look at the clock, really it helps.
 

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I hear you. the schedule thing has never been something I have gotten down, however, I still try to have a bed time ritual that happens no matter what time it is. cuz with 4 kids life happens. We do dinner and a bath or shower (we still manage to flake on this part, but we are getting better), then the first three songs of "One giant leap" (over and over) we now call it one giant loop). He hangs out in his jumper while that is going on and usually jumps and spins himself to sleep. Works for his naps too: He was spinning when I started this now he is passed out leaning back like he is starting at the ceiling. He used to need to be rocked to sleep or walked to sleep but he is seeming to fight that more and more lately.<br><br>
I do find that if I try to put him down to sleep before 7:30 our night is terrible and I spend the next 4 hours going back and forth to the bedroom every time he wakes up and once I am there he freaks if I try to leave. He<br><br>
He still wakes up alot at night sometimes its not so bad other nights it is terrible. I usually have a sleep deprived break down about once a month where I yell at my DH saying "I haven't slept since the 2nd trimester" and on and on. once I get a decent nap I feel much better about the night time arrangements, but after a long stretch of sleep dep I am a freak.<br><br>
So I feel your pain and though I am sure you are sick of hearing it (I usually am) this time is so short and soon Your LO wont be so little
 
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