I had an odd moment today when I was talking to co-workers and it came out that I don't feel the need to micro-manage my teenagers or give them a bunch of rules. It was awkward, and the reason why is because I just forgot that feeling that my 17 and 19 year olds are young women who are perfectly capable of making decisions that are in their own best interest isn't a mainstream view. I don't have agendas for my kids -- I'm fine with them having their own dreams and goals (after all, it's their lives). I don't feel the need to keep them from growing up. I accept and embrace it.