[User101]

This morning she called to say Happy Birthday. For some reason, I told her about the baby. Her response?

1. Did you try it? No, I accidentally fell on your son's penis and caught pregnant.

2. I thought you weren't going to do that anymore? Because we said before we thought we were done.

3. Are you happy? You would have had to hear the tone. This one ticked me off more than anything else.

4. Well... you know we support you. Really? I couldn't tell.

We've told a few people at church and they have been so sweet and lovely. I know four is twice the normal number, but good heavens. We have lovely, intelligent, sweet, darling children. It would be wrong of us not to reproduce.

But seriously, I'm upset about this. I still have to tell my dad and stepmom.

 

[MommytoTwo]

How rude. I hope you can stay away from her... she sounds like a toxic person.

 

[mclisa]

DH and I decided that we make beautiful girls so why shouldn't we make more?

We haven't said anything to the parents yet. I think all will be supportive. Just some eyebrows raised.

 

[MoMommy]

I'm sorry. My stupid MIL, whom I despise, is the same way. I let DH tell her, and I haven't spoken with her since she's found out.

I can't understand why anyone wouldn't be excited about a new baby. My own parents were jumping around, exclaiming and hugging us excitedly - the perfect reaction!

Hopefully your MIL will come around.

 

[neetling]

I didn't get rave reviews from my family either. It certainly puts a damper on things doesn't it?

My response has been "WOW! I'll be sure to remember that for the baby book."

I typically get a stammered apology when they realize they've been called on their asshat behaviour.

 

[crunchymomof2]

My parents never said anything negative but you could tell it was like uh...you dont need another right now. They made a joke about sterilizing my dh. His parents were very excited mil is getting ready to start crocheting things.

 

[starbound25]

I'm right there with you, my mother and sister are both mad at me for having another baby, whatever, they dont live your life, you know whats best for you

 

[Lucky Charm]

Ignore it.

I,for one, am happy that you are!!

 

[Anglyn]

My mom is the same way. You think I'd be use to the negativity. With my first ds, my mil said, "Well, we're not happy about this" and fil said nothing at all, just turned his back and went to bed. And this after I had made xh drive me all the way out to their home to tell them because I was just SO exicted!

My mother badgered me all the way through my last pregnancy about how we didnt need another. And while she's trying this time, since I had a talk with her about it, instead of outright complaining, she just finds ways to get little digs in. And she does it every time we speak. We can have half an hour of pleasant conversation but then she'll make some parting shot....

Seriously, ignore her! We will all be happy for each other right here!

 

[Velvet005]

I understand except my MIL was the opposite w/ ds. She thought I was going to give him to her after I gave birth to him and visit on the weekends. Well, not really but that is how she acted.

We told the In-laws today. Their response was that they were happy. Then they told us after we should not have anymore after this one.

: Then my FIL proceeded to say (with seriousness) "After Tish has this baby you should tell them to go ahead and tie her tubes while she's in there"

I told them I plan to have this baby vaginally as I did w/ ds. I also told them dh could get a vasectamy if he wants but I will not get my tubes tied. I am appauled that they suggested such really.

When I told them I plan to give birth as I did last time, MIL said "You may want to have a C-Sec because of your arm" Well, she said this because I developed Parsonage Turner Syndrome after the birth of ds. My right arm went paralyzed. It was caused by the stress of giving birth. I think it was because I had an epi and I couldn't feel and I over strained while pushing. I am not having an epi this time. While the condition was frightening and painful (most painful experience in my life) I am not scared to give birth again.

I told them I would only have C- Sec if my life or my baby's life were in danger and there was no other option. .

 

[crunchy_mama]

ouch. We have yet to tell the in-laws for this reason. I just don't want to hear any commentary. There opinion matters not to me.

 

[User101]

Your responses made me tear up a little. Thank you all. Now I have to return a phone call from my stepmother. Wish me luck!

 

[UltimateSerj]

this is why i am scared to tell my MIL!
last month i was talking about us waning another baby and everything out of her mouth was negative and her trying to "talk us out of it" i was like umm no WE OUR GOING TO HAVE ANOTHER BABY! i think that she just doesn't want to have to spend more money at christmas or something!!! or since she only had 3 we should stop too, actually she was rude about us having another baby Before sammy! oh well its not her life!!!
but i am sure she will be DISAPOINTED and not happy at all for us when we do tell her