I've had 4 other children, and never had the issue of peeing just wherever/whenever they feel like it which is why I was worried
. (I'm sorry I should have explained that better). I am considering the idea that he may just have a small bladder but I'm not sure how to tackle that.
I understand bed wetting is normal, my brother wet the bed until he was about 8ish or so, and one of my first cousins it was the same. I have another son who was a bed wetter, giving him drinks before bedtime was a no, we used underwear for overnight, and disappeared, but these accidents only happened when they were sleeping at night. My 5 year old son wets the bed when he's sleeping/a light nap, when we're walking, whenever he feels like it.
I said when you feel like you need to pee you need to go into the bathroom or ask one of us, and we will take you. I asked him if he was afraid, because I remember for one of my other children potty training was an issue because she was afraid of the Monster in the toilet once she had graduated from the potty's. But that's not it. I don't want to yell at him because he's fragile but gahhh. Screaming doesn't help, and it just makes everyone feel bad, and then we all end up crying. He does understand when I talk in the stern voice, when I say, I am not smiling, but then he just presses his head against my stomach and askes for a hug, and I don't know how to resist that...so here I am
Picky eater! That's not so bad, his taste just changes, and he has to have really small portions or else he'll leave it on the table, or he'll collect it (he likes to save things for later and I have designated a spot in the fridge for this but his issue is having it 'near'). I've actually started locking up the kitchen things, he takes an apple and will eat half of it then he will either a.) leave it, or b.) put it under his bed. So! As a solution he gets his apples in slices/cut up (he will eat all or most of it this way) and instead of turning it into those fruit snack things (like dried fruits but I don't know if he'll like it if i make it) and we have designated times when he eats, and then when he goes to walk out of the kitchen I stand in front of the door and I say no go sit back down, sometimes I hold out my hand and say give it to me please. This has become a fight, but we've created a system there. I also lay out more options for him, he's the first kid I've ever had whose been wary when it comes to ice cream! What kid turns down ice cream (this kid). It depends on his mood.
(in the middle of this post my son came up and said, I want to go for a walk. So I have to stop writing this inbetween to take him and the dog out for a walk, maybe we'll come back and take him to the mall if he behaves on this walk) So this post won't be posted until I come back.
After the walk:
Boy was that a trip. When we came home we played a 'feel the colour' game. But things like this going out for a walk and then he wants us to carry him, we only had one accident while we were out today which was improvement.
Water is pretty much the only thing that he does drink. But he really likes milk and can and will get into already made tea or gatorade (I buy a gatorade once every couple of months because of all the walking/biking we have to do.)
When I say to clean it up instead of using the towel he continues to lick it. So I took his hand put it in his and wiped it up, but I think he thought this was 'funny'.
Maybe it is attention, everything he does gets him more attention, but I don't want to ignore him
His most severe consequences are when we put him in his room and close the door. This elicits tantrums unless we keep the door open and he can at least 'see' one of us across the hall.
Oh with putting the water in a bowl and on the floor we have done that, he spills bowls over too, he's a bit of a clutz because he falls a lot. So I'm wondering is he doing it on purpose? Or is he really unable to manage without it spilling? There's not a day that goes home where he doesn't knock something over trying to get what's inside it. HEY! Maybe that's it! But what is that?
Attention wise, I enjoy his company. I don't mind doing work with him in my lap, sometimes I don't get much work done because I end up playing with him. When he's in my lap and tired and I run my fingers through his hair or massage his shoulders/rub his back while I'm reading, he won't touch a thing. When I 'stop' he starts up again. He's....demanding, but I just can't give him attention 24 hrs a day. I know I should...does that make me a bad mom? I can't hold him in my arms from sun up to sun down, I've just got so much work to do.
With the candy wrappers it bothers me because he opens them all up and leaves them out. But the last of the candy is gone (we really don't buy it often but I don't want him to grow up not never having experienced a Snickers bar.) But I am thinking the next time we buy it I'm gonna put it up out of reach in a drawer, and if he wants some take out small pieces that I cut up and he can eat 'that' and if he wants more there's more but no storing (he hordes under his bed, which is why I started the no leaving the kitchen policy. I can understand some of what he does because things like hording or issues I used to have, I'm thinking maybe designating a drawer that's for him personally (where I would check)).
And most definitely not buying candy for a while is an option (this is the first time we've had candy here in a few months and before that it was half a year or so). (Months inbetween).
I have asked him sometimes...Why are you doing __insert action here_? Sometimes I'm exasperated and I think he can sense that and 'this' makes him shrink back/shrug and then avoid me but it doesn't stop it. And I hate 'cornering' him, then he feels trapped. Whenever something spills, he'll say he just wants the milk(drink) not the cup.
Hey! I like the idea of a Timer! I just don't know how to get him to follow it :-/.
Whats a homeschool coop? We do have a homeschooling schedule that's set (we have a schedule for everything) not exactly on the dot, but approximately. We have been working on some games, he's legally blind and I like to play games with him that give him access to Independence(games that are fun and that he learns and doesn't get upset if he can't do...like those video games for learning (my mother used to give me those in my spare time when I was younger) but he can't see those), so we've been teaching him braille through my wife's books (my wife is blind) and alphabets, (Grade 1 Braille), and large print books, and we're playing a new game (educational) called Feel the Colour game (long story). We do other things with music, etc. Just his homeschooling schedule allows us flexibility at the same time he can generally expect it to be around the same day everyday.