Soon 2 B Teen mommy, Im proud is that wrong

I am not in a position to respond well right now, but happy sure. proud? no. can anyone be a good mom at 17? sure. does age make a mom? no.
but everything will change, or should. you will have to put baby's needs first, ahead of your own wants. you will be responsible for that baby. actually, the baby is easy, it is when they start to grow up it gets harder.

i had my first at 17. baby, ok. 2 yo, ok. 6 yo? loosing my mind. she turned 15 Sunday. most of the time it is ok, but teens are a challenge. both from being a teen and having 2 now, they sure think they know it all. and they probably do in their little world. but there is so much typical teens don't concider, so they really as a group have no idea.

as a teen myself, since i ran the household i grew up in, i thought i could do it myself on my own, but there were so many things i didn't understand. little nuances to the 'games' people play. how to work the system, etc.

i am proud of how far we have come. bf and i got married. we did the raising of our children on our own. 6 months of state aid, but the rest was us. no living with parents or rent controlled housing, no welfare or food stamps or hand outs from mom or dad. (as my cousin did)

i wish you the best of luck. there are so many resources here i wish i had back then, i hope you take advantage of them.

good luck, and congrats on your baby.

I just wanted to say that my mom was 17 when she had me and she is still my best friend. I love her more than anything and she too was a single parent. I feel loving your child is the most important thing and you are doing that already! Congratulations and good luck!

I love the feeling of the second trimester!! That's where you are, I think. You must be starting to show. It is a proud and wonderful feeling isn't it? I absolutely think you have every reason to be proud. You are growing a child inside you!! It used to be that most women had babies at your age. Only in the past couple of generations has that changed.
One of the most important things to learn as a woman and a mother is to listen to your gut instincts. Don't let people's negativity poison your joy.
I say, stick around here at these boards. Don't even bother with the others. I learned so much as a new mom here and I continue to learn. You will probably especially find it handy (as I did) when you're nursing your newborn all day and night. Those lonely nights can be made a little less so when you pop onto MDC. I'm a single mother as well so I know there are some extra challenges and judgments that come with your situation. Use your feeling of pride to give you strength.
Be proud!! You've chosen a beautiful journey.

Hiya! Just wanted to wish you the very best with your pregnancy. The mamas here are great! Feel free to email me if ya need to talk or have any questions

I was pregnant with my first son at 18, just a few months after getting married. So not exactly the same situation but close in age. I don't think there's anything wrong with being proud. There's no way to go back and change what hapened so I don't know why people have to be mean. My older ds was an accident and I had my dad telling me how I had ruined my life etc, well my step-mom told him to shut up that he needed to be suportive, lol. :LOL There are days when I wish I had been more careful, but I love my son and do the best I can to be a good mommy to him. And there are some advantages to being a young mommy, at least you'll hopefully still remember what it felt like to be a teenager when your son gets there. And I second what other pp's have said, MDC is such a great resource! I really which I had known about AP when my older ds was a baby. I did a lot of stuff that is AP naturally but it still would've been nice. Congrats!

thanks again for the support that so cool your having a nother congradulations september cool yeah i dont know if I said when i was due exacly but im due october 22nd lil holoween baby. Im so happy.

I think that there is nothing wrong with being excited about becoming a mom. It's a great attitude to have, it sounds like you're off to the right kind of start. As far as age, I do think that being a teenage mom is probably harder than being an older mom. That doesn't mean that you cannot be a good mom. It's just harder because I'm sure that most of your friends (that are your age) don't have children and you'll probably lose touch with a lot of friends after your baby is born. And you'll need to find a new support network. Being judged based on your age is sometimes hard. I had my son when I was almost 24 but I look very young so I still hear comment to this day like: "There's no way you're old enough to be his mom" etc... Sometimes that suks, I feel like what they are really saying is "You're too young to be any kind of good mom to that baby"

Just stay positive, ignore the rude comments and do as much research as you can while you're still pregnant. I wish I had found mothering.com when I was pregnant! I didn't join until my son was around 4 mos old.

I reccomend venturing over to the breastfeeding section and reading some posts there, those mamas can offer a lot of support. Breastfeeding is hard in the beginning so you'll need lots of support. But it's by far the best for your baby.

Enjoy your pregnancy mama!! Becoming a mother is the best gift you can ever receive in life.

Sure, you should be happy about having a baby, babies are great. I've never been happier in my life! I am an old mom, too, I didn't have a baby until I was 36. You will be proud beyond belief when you see how amazing it is. I watched so many other people have children and thought I understood, but it's even better than I thought!

I wouldn't say you shouldn't be worried, however! It's tough! I think things are going to be tougher for you than for me, because young moms face a lot of discrimination. It was also helpful to me to have had a lot of time to observe other moms in action. Most importantly, I think teen moms have trouble with healthcare providers and school officials and folks like that. You will need a network of real life support to back you up in your decisions, especially on things like breastfeeding. Young moms as a group tend not to breastfeed I think in large part because they don't get encouragement. Lining up encouragement for this stuff now will really help.

On the other hand, you are probably in a much better place physically to have a successful natural, undrugged childbirth. You will probably have more energy to play with your babe. You will get to see more of your child's life than I will . By the time my boy is 13 I'll be 49, by the time he's high school age I'll be into my 50s. If my kid is as pokey as I was about getting married and having children, I might not get to see them and that would suck. So I envy you that part, so much.

god works in the most mistruse ways and I belive that everthing happens for a reson and there is a reson why I am having a child at my age and there is a reson you are having a child at your age. When It comes to bress feeding I plan to for the first yearm no matter how hard it is its whats best for my baby, and when it comes down to it homestly with school and ever were alls its not there place to judge me. be sides I look much older than I am so that benifits me, when it comes down to people looking at me. I wish you and your child the best of luck and you a long health life. thanks for the feed back.

Kassy Carren