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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I hate when things come out sounding all wrong like that <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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Hey, we've all said stupid things sometimes. I'm pretty sure I'm possessed sometimes with the stupid things that come out of my mouth that sure to god weren't in my head before I said them! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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I doubt this will help any, but if the mom did hear you, she's just as likely to be offended at the fact you were there to look at the kid's head, never mind the words you used. But I'd be shocked if she didn't say something if she did hear you.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I doubt this will help any, but if the mom did hear you, she's just as likely to be offended at the fact you were there to look at the kid's head, never mind the words you used. But I'd be shocked if she didn't say something if she did hear you.</div>
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I get it, I am a terrible person. People said her head was adorable and I wanted to see the adorableness. I think I am going to have to quit my job now. I just can't handle this <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
I am very upset so I am going to go to bed, I think.
 

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BunnyFlakes, I think you need to take a big deep breath and try to calm down a little bit. Maybe going to bed is a good idea, you need some distance from this. I totally understand that you feel terrible and I would too and trust me, I've said random, I didn't mean it that way and now I sound like an [email protected]@ things! But, this is absolutely NO REASON TO QUIT YOUR JOB! Your boss has even reassured you of that! If this mother didn't hear it, then just do your best to let it go. If she did, the best thing you can do is apologize, say it came out totally wrong and you are very sorry. Once you do that, it's done, if she wants to be upset it's on her, what else could you do? The likely scenario is that she's also done something stupid (who hasn't!?!) and will forgive and move on. I have found that it is much, much better to face things like this head on even though it's REALLY hard! Otherwise, I obsess and fret about it for months and months. Seriously, a super uncomfortable 2 minute conversation is so much better than tormenting yourself for months. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I hope you feel better tomorrow!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">BunnyFlakes, I think you need to take a big deep breath and try to calm down a little bit. Maybe going to bed is a good idea, you need some distance from this. I totally understand that you feel terrible and I would too and trust me, I've said random, I didn't mean it that way and now I sound like an [email protected]@ things! But, this is absolutely NO REASON TO QUIT YOUR JOB! Your boss has even reassured you of that! If this mother didn't hear it, then just do your best to let it go. If she did, the best thing you can do is apologize, say it came out totally wrong and you are very sorry. Once you do that, it's done, if she wants to be upset it's on her, what else could you do? The likely scenario is that she's also done something stupid (who hasn't!?!) and will forgive and move on. I have found that it is much, much better to face things like this head on even though it's REALLY hard! Otherwise, I obsess and fret about it for months and months. Seriously, a super uncomfortable 2 minute conversation is so much better than tormenting yourself for months. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I hope you feel better tomorrow!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"></div>
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Thank you. I am under a lot of stress right now with leaving my H and the divorce and the injury that I have to fill out worker's comp papers for, etc. I just feel very overwhelmed right now and sick all the time. I feel that I could throw up at the drop of a hat. And right now I feel like the scum of the earth and it is really nice that all of my coworkers can laugh at me about it but I feel bad enough as it is. I don't like being kicked when I am already down.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I get it, I am a terrible person. People said her head was adorable and I wanted to see the adorableness. I think I am going to have to quit my job now. I just can't handle this <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
I am very upset so I am going to go to bed, I think.</div>
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No you aren't. I'm sorry if I made you feel worse.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">No you aren't. I'm sorry if I made you feel worse.</div>
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I felt like you kicked me while I was down. But that is fine, I deserved it.<br><br>
This not the first time I meant to say one thing but something else flew out. I want to be able to tell everyone I meet up front about how I went blind and how there is probably something wrong with my brain. About how I go to the neurologist every so many months and that maybe I am not really a bad person, maybe there is just something wrong with my brain. I don't know. I do know that this happens a lot but generally only makes it hard for me to live around people.<br><br>
I feel that I have officially nagated everything good I have tried to do. All of the blankets I donated, my work at the shelter, etc. I feel like it is all pointless because maybe my husband is right. Maybe there isn't a neurological problem and that perhaps I really am just a bitch and a bad person. But I cry so much when this happens to me, that I feel that I can't really be bad. I don't know. I don't know if I really care at this point. I feel very low and like I want to run away.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> You are not a bad person sweetie. You have been through a lot and are still healing. I know how you feel. I constantly feel like I do or say the wrong thing and I really have good intentions. It is a hard road, this whole road to recovery and healing...and you have been through so much physically I can't imagine all that you have been through. PM me anytime you want to talk. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> BTW you have already accomplished soo much. You left your abusive STBX, you have made big strides in losing weight and exercising, you got your divorce started, you are paying off your medical bills, you are a great teacher, a great friend and a talented hooker. You have your whole life ahead of you and I know you will have a bright future. I really do understand how many struggles there are to overcome after being in an abusive relationship. I have always looked up to you for strength. You are amazingly funny, smart and kind. I am so so glad you are my friend Jaime. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> When I am feeling down and like all my hard work is for nothing I try to think of my future self 5 years down the road when I have my degree, am financially independent from my parents, am happy and healthy, etc. Things will not always feel this hard. Keep your eye on the prize and keep going. Things will just get better and better for you sweetie.
 

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Thank you everyone, I feel better now. I just feel so stupid like, how on earth do you intend to say one thing and blurt out another?<br><br>
It happened one other time in front of a middle school class I was teaching <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Only they thought it was hilarious and I only embarassed myself and did not hurt anyone.<br><br>
I figure if she was going to complain she would have. She walked past the lead teacher and did not mention anything.<br><br>
I just feel like a jerk <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag"> Please know that I was not making fun of anyone, believe me, I get made fun of at least 4 times a week! I just wanted to see the cuteness. Poor choice of words. Although I argue that it WAS NOT my choice of words when I opened my mouth.<br><br>
I still feel pretty sick about it and did not eat much yesterday. And of course everyone at work knows because the gossip mill goes pretty fast. That sucks for me. Oh well, gives them something else to talk about other than the domestic violence thing!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I feel that I have officially nagated everything good I have tried to do. All of the blankets I donated, my work at the shelter, etc.</div>
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Mistakes don't negate good deeds <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">. Your donations still helped people.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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He's not right. I'm pretty sure I know his type. And probably HE doesn't even believe it. He just said it because he knew it would hurt you. Maybe he wanted it to be true.<br><br>
If the mom hasn't said anything to anyone (the other teacher, the principal), I'd assume she didn't hear it. No harm, no foul (is that spelled right? It looks wrong). The rumor mill will die down. Jeesh. Don't people have anything better to talk about?
 

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Okay she must not have heard me, everything is fine.<br><br>
Although I guess my boss found it really, really funny. I am finally able to laugh about it myself. At the time I was traumatized. But hey, at least I am legendary <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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What was it that you said? I didn't see the original post. I am sure it is not as bad as you think. I am sure at one time or another all of us have had foot in our mouth moments.
 
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