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Yeah that is how a call from a friend started! My friend who says the only reason people breastfeed is because its cheaper than formula...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
We went to the mall and were walking through and she wanted to stop for her DD at the play area. My 5 mo was needing to nurse so I pulled out a blanket and (OH NO!!) I covered up.....and not for the sake of anyone else but b/c my DS has a difficult time latching on with too much action going on so once he's on I pull it off.<br><br>
Well she actually told me when she called me later that she once thought I was one of those crazy lactivist mommies and was worried I'd get on her case...but now that she saw me cover up....she realizes I'm not....<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
I was floored and quite honestly pissed beyond belief...But now I wonder...does that mean that I"m not a lactivist? I always thought I was...<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bawling.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bawl">
 

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Hugs. I'm sorry your friend was hurtful.<br><br>
I feel like this issue of "can you be a true lactivist if you use a nursing cover" has been debated time and time again, and frankly, who cares. You were nursing your babe. In public. The cover was for your babe's comfort, not for passers-by.<br><br>
Yes, you're still a lactivist. And to heck with the people who claim you aren't.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Hugs. I'm sorry your friend was hurtful.<br><br>
I feel like this issue of "can you be a true lactivist if you use a nursing cover" has been debated time and time again, and frankly, who cares. You were nursing your babe. In public. The cover was for your babe's comfort, not for passers-by.<br><br>
Yes, you're still a lactivist. And to heck with the people who claim you aren't.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Mary thank you!! See that is how I felt...I just needed the thumbs up from someone who actually thinks the way I do...Off to nurse my boy and cuddle!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/winner.jpg" style="border:0px solid;" title="BFSymbol">
 

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Maybe it's not a bold statment for NIP but you still work toward people breastfeeding, supporting, informing, standing up for, and all that right? And I'll guess the cover is for your own sense of modesty and your child's concentration, not somebody else's misinformed discomfort.
 

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you don't have to show boob to be a lactivist! a good friend of mine ff due to a breast redux and she's an excellent lactivist!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Yes....please turn in your membership card and decoder ring.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Whatever- I'm a formula feeding lactivist. You do what you need to do.
 

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Seriously, I would define a lactivist as someone who supports breastfeeding, whether they cover up or not. I have covered up before, but I don't always, and, more importantly, I don't expect others to, and would support their right to bf however they are most successful/comfortable.<br>
I think you're still a lactivist.
 

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I consider myself a lactivist... I never use a blanket but I do attempt to avoid flashing my boobs.<br><br>
IMO, one isn't required to nurse with both breasts exposed to be a "lactivist". Other people can say what they want, but I consider myself a lactivist and you may consider yourself one as well. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/moon.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="moon">
 

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You don't even have to breastfeed to be a lactivist, IMO. I know a woman who tried breastfeeding, got some really bad advice and ended up stopping nursing at about 2 weeks. Since then she's learned so much about breastfeeding and what went wrong, and she's on a mission to keep that from happening to other women. She's one of the most hardcore lactivists I know.<br><br>
Covering doesn't make you not a lactivist, any more than shaving your legs means you're not a feminist. The two aren't related at all. Your friend is a moron.
 

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My dh is a 'lactivist' and he rarely breastfeeds in public <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">.<br><br>
If you are a believer in breastfeeding rights, feel those who can breastfeed should and are willing to voice these things, I think you're a lactivist. Just the act of NIPing, covered or no, is a statement and a step towards normalizing breastfeeding. I personally think that any NIP is a bold statment, even bolder than not nursing. Placing that cover over your shoulder clearly advertises what you're doing.
 

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Oh you all have had me in stitches!! My even got a kick out of it asking where I hid my decoder ring!! I do support breastfeeding, and actually only cover to get DS to latch if I keep it on he gets so mad...I think it reminds him of bedtime or soemthing...<br>
My mom FF me and my sis b/c she came from that training that woman just didn't breastfeed but now is a super lactivist b/c of me.<br><br>
Crazy thought...I should create a decoder ring for my DH he'd enjoy that...since he loves to sport his, "I play w/ my babys food tee" everwhere we go together!!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Yeah that is how a call from a friend started! My friend who says the only reason people breastfeed is because its cheaper than formula...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
We went to the mall and were walking through and she wanted to stop for her DD at the play area. My 5 mo was needing to nurse so I pulled out a blanket and (OH NO!!) I covered up.....and not for the sake of anyone else but b/c my DS has a difficult time latching on with too much action going on so once he's on I pull it off.<br><br>
Well she actually told me when she called me later that she once thought I was one of those crazy lactivist mommies and was worried I'd get on her case...but now that she saw me cover up....she realizes I'm not....<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
I was floored and quite honestly pissed beyond belief...But now I wonder...does that mean that I"m not a lactivist? I always thought I was...<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bawling.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bawl"></div>
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Don't let her mess with your head. You're still very clearly a lactivist. You have nothing to prove.
 

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Pshaw. You nursed the way that was most comfortable for you and your little one, end of story. There is no right or wrong way to NIP.
 

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You were meeting the needs of your babe, and that's the whole point! Sometimes I will need to find a private, quieter location when in public b/c DS gets so distracted. He needs to nurse but is compelled to always see what's going on around him!
 

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who cares if it was a bold statement or not? i was never at my leasure to think real hard about making bold statements when my DS was hungry and couldn't focus. i make the bold statements, he just enjoyed the milk. you do plenty in plenty other ways and duh! you were nursing in public.<br><br>
i'm getting so excited about nursing again <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I remember reading a story in LLL's magazine about a woman who couldn't wait to have her baby and breastfeed him everywhere in public without a cover and without shame. When her baby arrived, he had a different idea. He absolutely refused to nurse in public, and she found herself having to take him to her car to nurse. She was embarrassed and disappointed, but finally realized that what was important was listening to her baby and giving him what he needed.<br><br>
If what your baby needs is a cover, then covering up is the right thing to do. A lactivist puts her baby's needs first--isn't that the whole point?
 

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Tell your friend, "Oh, you're mistaken. I use a cover for *my* comfort, not anyone else's. Actually, I find that it draws more attention to what I'm doing, anyway, even though I'm comfortably covered. I am definitely a lactivist."
 

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You ladies rock!!!
 

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Oh please, you were doing what worked for you and your babe. Just as we don't FORCE them to nurse we also don't make it more difficult for them to nurse. I consider my stepdad a lactivist...and you know he never tried to nurse a baby...but he sure was gung ho about babies being given the good stuff <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 
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