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I've posted on here before about problems with sleep deprivation because DS (12mo) wakes up on avg 4,5 times a night and usually nurses quite a long time before he sleeps (I have a very hard time sleeping while he's nursing). I've had a lot of "mishaps" over the last few months, like leaving the stove on, burning the egg carton cuz i left it on the stove and turned the wrong one on, and most recently spilling boiling water all over my hands and splattering it on my face <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">. I feel very out of it, and just can't get a handle on day to day tasks anymore.<br>
I hate to sound like such a downer - I'm usually quite positive (not to toot my own horn). I tried a few things with DS to get him to sleep more, like a co-sleeper, leaving him with DH etc etc. Nothing seems to work. Against all my instincts I even tried to nightwean, but it broke my heart and I backpeddled.<br>
The thing that bothers me the most is that I actually yelled twice at DS recently. I felt like such crud after that. I can't believe I yelled at a one year old. The poor thing is such a pleasant baby, he's just very active and I just can't keep up anymore.<br>
This week was even more fun, I got sick, now DS is sick, and now I feel like I'm getting mastitis, because usually nursing DS when he's sick wreaks havoc on my nipples (can't quite figure that one out).<br>
Man this is a depressing post <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">. Yuck.<br>
I just NEVER wanna yell at DS like that again. He didn't do anything wrong, I just felt like too many things were going on at the same time and I just couldn't cope.<br>
Well I feel better already, just writing it out.<br>
Thanks for listening.
 

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Unfortunately there is no real answer for sleep deprivation. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I so feel your pain. I am one of those people who really needs good quality sleep to be civil and coherent. (Here I am saying this at quarter to 11 when I really should be in bed already. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">: )<br><br>
The only advice I have other than the usual is to try and see a naturopath if you can to talk about supplements. My ND put me on some very good quality multi vites, plus heavy metal-free fish oil for brain function, and a super high dose liquid B complex. The B complex especially helped with my energy levels. That along with napping with your babe and making sure you are doing something just for you should really help. I find that even if I am physically tired, if I have something that's just for me - a yoga class, scheduled time at a coffee shop with a non parenting related book, etc. - it really refreshes me mentally and spiritually. Hang in there, it does get better. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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The ND is the way to go, not only can it help you put homeopathy can help young ones sleep. Our ND helps us a great deal, the biggest thing was learning that most babes figure sleep out around 15months. Your DS is almost there<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> I feel for you, I suffer, or should I say those around me, when I am deprived of sleep. Hang in there<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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Interesting idea with the ND. I sorta don't have enough $$ right now, but I could try to scrounge out some in a few weeks <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">. I think it's well worth it. Would you mind my asking what your ND suggested for your DC?<br>
I'm REALLY bad with naps. I try to take them with him but the whole time I'm in this half dazed sleep and I wake up with a headache. Plus, I can't stop thinking of all the things I have to do.<br>
Definitely need to re-prioritize stuff in my life. I'm one of those ppl who likes everything done before the morning is over and THEN and only then can I relax. DS doesn't necessarily agree with that mentality <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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Oooo, have to try that. I'm taking flax oil, maybe I should switch to fish? Does fish oil help more? I remember reading about how fish oil is superior, but after hearing how stinky it is, I couldn't get myself to buy it.
 

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I had a really hard time with dd around 12 months, as she had so much going on that her sleep comfort/constancy went out the window -- growth spurts, developmental milestones, teething, etc. There wasn't any one magic bullet that kept me sane through it, but dh and I developed a few strategies that helped keep me on the safer, kinder side of parenting. I made sure to take my vitamins *every day* and drink more water. DH started getting up with dd most days and taking care of breakfast and getting her dressed before he left for work, so I could get at least 15-30 minutes of uninterrupted rest, if not sleep, before starting my day. (I'm the same as you -- I need to get something done in the morning before I feel like I can take a break, and I don't nap well during the day. Sleeping in a little in the morning works better.) DH and I take turns sleeping in on the weekends, so I get one good hour or three once a week.<br><br>
It's all little things, but they add up and hold me over until she hits a good patch.
 

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Before we moved DD to her own bed at 15 months because of primarily my sleep deprevation issues, I started to sleep on the couch a lot! It did help a bit, but I didn't sleep as well overall, so it kind of didn't help for the long-term. It did help for the 2 months that I did it, though... I'm glad because I felt really good about letting her sleep in her own bed at 15 months, but I think I would have felt guilty if she was 13mo. So little time, but she seemed SO much more mature and she was quite ok with it for the most part.<br><br>
Can you rest more/nap when DS naps? I know people always say to do this, but I had a REALLY hard time with it. I mean, I had to give myself SPECIAL persmission to sleep during the day and that didn't even work sometimes. But if you're really having a hard time functioning (which is sounds like you are!), then make sure to sleep when he sleeps!<br><br>
Do you know what your iron levels look like? Low iron can increase the fuzzy brain issues it sounds like you have. Also, it would increase your fatigue... can you have it checked?<br><br>
Low water intake can also increase fatigue and cause mental slowness and forgetfulness. Do you drink about 1/2 your weight in ounces (less about 20% which you should get from food and other sources)?<br><br>
Good lucK!!!!<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Here are the supplements I was prescribed:<br><br>
Maternal Symmetry by Vitanica ( a prenatal since we were TTC but they make regular and lactation blends as well).<br><br>
ProDHA Strawberry by Nordic Naturals (fish oil capsules with strawberry flavor so they don't taste bad <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">)<br><br>
Liquid B Complex by Genestra/Seroyal (unfortuantely only available to professionals)<br><br>
My ND has had me on various other things as needed, homeopathic PMS support, special vitamin blends for high stress, thyroid imbalance, etc. NDs can be very pricey but in my case it was well worth it. If you are up for it, I think it can't hurt to ask around about sliding scale fees and payment plans. Let us know how it goes. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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a pp said that her dh gets up with her baby while she gets a bit of uninterrupted sleep. my dh does this too... ds wakes up, nurses, and starts his "singing," the sign that he's NOT going back to sleep. i nudge dh as i start ds on boob 2, and he gets up and gets dressed, then takes ds downstairs.<br><br>
they have worked out a really sweet routine... dh gets coffee (ds gets to push the "butty" to turn on the machine while dh holds him up), they share a biscotti, and hang out in the living room reading books, sometimes drawing or doing puzzles.<br><br>
i usually get a a good hour of deep sleep in, which makes a HUGE difference in how i can handle the rest of the day. since i'm usually up for at least an hour, cumulative, with ds throughout the night, we figure it's a fair trade for dh to get up a bit earlier than me (do i love my dh? oh yes i do!).<br><br>
even though i know i'm not getting ENOUGH sleep, it's at least getting me through this early toddler time. it took some negotiating with dh, and some time for him to get used to doing it, but now he really loves having this special time with ds. and ds is usually quite happy to go out with him, saying "daddy! daddy! bye bye mama!" as he wraps his arms around daddy's neck. if i wasn't so danged tired, i'd be sad he was so happy to leave me in the mornings!<br><br>
also, i do try to let dh have a morning off once in a while... usually on the weekends. then he can sleep another four hours if he wants, and somehow that's enough to carry him through the rest of the week.<br><br>
good luck, mama! this, too, will pass... i promise!<br><br>
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Along with the vitamins, which is a FABULOUS idea, I would look at really just concentrate on sleep and rest. Let everything else just go to heck if need be and rest. Sleep when babe sleeps, take any help you can get. If someone can watch ds for a while so you can at least rest. Try some relaxation cd's to listen to while you nurse. They can be very refreshing, putting you in a meditative state so you think you are awake but you aren't quite. (you are aware of what's happening around you). Try the new age section at a local music store. I found a specific one during pregnancy to bring down my blood pressure. It worked amzingly well.<br><br>
What you concentrate on comes to you so if you concentrate on sleeping, relaxing and resting you will have these things. If you keep thinking about not sleeping you won't. You will definitley find this works. Dh can bring home dinner if need be and stop at the store so you can just relax. Sometimes just giving yourself permission to do so is all you need.<br><br>
I also personally beleive that a day of PBS kids sprout, noggin or baby einstein isn't going to cause permanent damage. That kind of TV can really be relaxing for you and stimulating in a new way for your child.<br><br>
I recently went through 2 months of what you are talking about. I couldn't wait for my mom to come to visit so I could rest. It took a long time to even begin to rest I was so wound up.
 

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Thank you all for the support!<br>
I realized after reading all your responses that I really am not taking care of myself in other ways. I used to be very good but ever since DS was born I sorta stopped eating well, stopped with the vitamins, exercise and water. Sometimes by the end of the day, I feel so parched because I forgot to drink water, and then I remember something else I have to do, and forget to drink some water again!<br>
I'm going to try a new routine starting tonite, I'm going to go to bed earlier. Try to wake up a bit earlier than DS(cuz I don't sleep well after 5 am-ish anyways), get my cooking/cleaning done, and make breakfast for DS. Then DH is going to take DS and they are both going to eat breakfast together and I'll go rest for a bit. And the rest of the day is work free so I can really enjoy time with DS and maybe actually...gasp...take a nap with him!<br>
Wish me luck!<br>
Oh and Jen, thanks for all of the supplement info...I gotta get the strawberry DHA...sounds good <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">.
 
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