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<p>I do not have a diagnosis for myself but my son is autistic with spd. I believe I have spd as well as an auditory processing issue.</p>
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<p>The problem is that noise bothers me. Every noise. Bags crinkling, the tv, etc. My phone is always on vibrate because I can hear it anywhere and the ringer being up hurts my ears.</p>
<p>My son is a sensory seeker whereas I am an avoider.</p>
<p>He screams. A lot. Shrilly.</p>
<p>He screamed in my ear earlier, very high pitched, it made my stomach turn and my ears ring. It infuriates me.</p>
<p>How can I encourage him to stop screaming? I've tried the "inside voice" thing, doesn't work. Any attempt at shushing him or covering his mouth or anything results in him screaming louder and longer.</p>
<p>What can I do???</p>
 

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<p>1. how old is he and how much time can he spend away from you (preschool or something?)</p>
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<p>2. what do you do for your own sensory diet? For my DD with intense sensory issues, getting her sensory needs met makes everything else much easier for her. For example, swimming laps for an hour help her cope with life much better. she is also very sensitive to sounds, but getting whole body sensory input helps.</p>
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<p>3. ear plugs. seriously. if you know he is OK, wearing noise canceling headphones for short periods of time might be a sanity saver.</p>
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<p>4. have you thought about working with an OT to get a dx and find out what could be done to help you?</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Linda on the move</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1296176/spd-mama-needs-help-with-asd-spd-son#post_16239340"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>1. how old is he and how much time can he spend away from you (preschool or something?)</p>
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<p>2. what do you do for your own sensory diet? For my DD with intense sensory issues, getting her sensory needs met makes everything else much easier for her. For example, swimming laps for an hour help her cope with life much better. she is also very sensitive to sounds, but getting whole body sensory input helps.</p>
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<p>3. ear plugs. seriously. if you know he is OK, wearing noise canceling headphones for short periods of time might be a sanity saver.</p>
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<p>4. have you thought about working with an OT to get a dx and find out what could be done to help you?</p>
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1. He's 2..he goes to ABA therapy 4 days a week for 1.5 hours a day which does help.</p>
<p>2. I don't really do anything for myself...I take baths at night, water seems to ground me.</p>
<p>3. That is a good idea, definitely looking into that, thanks.</p>
<p>4. Is there much that they can do for an adult?</p>
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<p>Thank you!</p>
 

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<p>Depending on where he's at developmentally, you could try the Incredible 5 Point Scale.  In a nutshell:</p>
<p>5 - screaming in an emergency</p>
<p>4 - playing loudly on the playground</p>
<p>3 - normal speaking voice</p>
<p>2 - whispering</p>
<p>1 - silent</p>
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<p>There are worksheets and guidance in this book:</p>
<p><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=motheringhud-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FIncredible-Assisting-Understanding-Interactions-Controlling%2Fdp%2F1931282528%2Fref%3Dsr_1_1%3Fie%3DUTF8%26qid%3D1296871039%26sr%3D8-1" rel="norewrite" target="_blank">http://www.amazon.com/Incredible-Assisting-Understanding-Interactions-Controlling/dp/1931282528/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1296871039&sr=8-1</a></p>
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<p>The technique is straightforward: introduce the concept (without the book you could simply draw an inverted triangle or a up-down rectangle with 5 sections).  If he knows his numbers, number 1 at the bottom and 5 at the top.  If he knows his colours, colour the top a bright colour and the bottom a pale colour.  You could simplify it and have only 3 levels.</p>
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<p>I agree with Linda's suggestions.  You could also seek advice from an OT about a sensory diet for you to help manage over-sensitivity to make it more comfortable for you.</p>
 

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Yes, figuring out your own sensory diet will help you.<br><br>
It might help you a lot.
 

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I am the exact same way. I manage my anxiety and that helps with my over sensitivity. When I am dealing with ANY anxiety I am off the wall sensitive and have a hard time being around people or even my kids because of the noise. When I'm not anxiety ridden I can tolerate a large amount of noise without issue. I also have a safe room in my house. My office is my kid-free zone that I can go into to help unwind and separate from the noise. Its also my ubber organized space in the house. Visual noise is just as hard as auditory noise for many and I find I can handle one or the other but not both together. I also have an ipod and ear buds that I wear when things get to be too much, or I can crank my own music. Predictable noise with a pattern is ok for me, so music is good. This gives my brain something to focus on, white noise. This way I can "ignore" the chaotic noise of the kids and still be alert to them.
 

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<p>I would get food allergy and sensitivity testing done as well as a blood test for strep - you may have that in your gut.  Stool Analysis would be a great option too, many who address yeast overgrowth issues and/or strep in the gut find that issue resolves:)</p>
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<p>Your kiddo could be having similar issues but it is causing him to be louder than loud because he is not processing the noise level the same as you or I.  Have you done any medical testing on your son? We did with our son and it was a wealth of information. </p>
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<p>How about headphones or soft earplugs., while you are in the house to deal with his noise levels?</p>
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<p>Warrior Mom to Nick and 3 other Amazing kids!</p>
 

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<p>Thanks so much for the ideas! I am definitely going back on meds for my anxiety which I hope will help as well. :)</p>
 
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