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OMG! Why do people make such a big deal that I am not taking dd trick or treating. I loved trick or treating as a kid and dd will too - but at 16 months I think she would have much more fun staying at home, carving a jack o lantern with mom, watching the Pooh halloween movie and handing out candy so she can see all the kids in their costumes!<br><br>
Am I worng? Am I depriving dd because she isn't trick or treating? It's not like she eats candy and we don't have a neighbors that we know that will be thrilled to see her dress up...so whats the big deal. Am I really a party pooper?
 

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DD's going this year. I'll only let her hit a few houses. But, I probably wouldn't even be letting her go if she didn't have a big brother.<br><br>
She didn't go last year at...about 18 months, actually. I don't see any reason for it.
 

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IMO, 16 mos. is too young. She would definitely have more fun doing the activities you mentioned. I would probably take her along if she had older bros. and sis.
 

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You are not a party pooper at all. We're taking DD but only because we're going with her older cousins and this way, I'm fulfilling a family holiday obligation and hoping they don't notice it's not Xmas. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
DH and I figured out that WE are getting candy. DD likes M&Ms - maybe 3 of them and then she wants her veggies back. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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I'm getting the same thing - I think she'd love to sit on our stoop and hand out candy (she loves to share), but toting her from house to house to see strangers give her candy she can't eat (and I shouldn't <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> )...what's the point?
 

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I agree that 16 mos is too young. We didn't start taking dd until she was alomost three. Ds will be going with us, but he'll ride in the stroller, not go door to door for candy. He doesn't even eat candy yet!
 

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I think 16 ms is a little young. We took ds2, but he's 25 mos and was VERY excited about his batman costume. He wants to wear it all day every day. He's so cute! We tell him to show us his super power and he puts his arms in the air, makes woosh noises and acts like he's flying. ROFL!
 

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I hear you - dd is 2.5 and I see no need to go "t or ting" until she knows what it is and asks for it - she isn't even aware that costumes at involved, etc. which isn't what this "holiday" is really about anyhow :))<br>
we will go to a local Waldorf Schools "Magical Journey" tonight, an adventure through the woods with different storyies offered along the way and healthy treats hadned out at each "station" - she wants to wear her "Halloeen Pants" which have pumpkins and black cats on them. she also "carved" her pumpkin using stikers and markers... I've done the t ot ting thing with my borhter for years, the meaning of the day is lost on so many children and it is all about the candy - which then leads to "discussions" about how much they can have each day, etc.<br>
to me it's more about celebrating fall and when she wants to trick or treat we'll do that too...<br>
no worries mama!
 

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Stick to your guns. When my cuties were small we made a bigger deal out of decorating the house and porch and handing out treats. My kids didn't trick or treat door to door until kindergarten or so. Now as big kids, they only go around the block. Some of their buddies trick or treat for miles with the help of a parent and a car. We don't "get it".
 

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I never went as a child and don't plan on taking my children either. Never felt deprived of anything.
 

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Honestly, my 4yo isn't going and never has been. In Halloweens past, we've dressed up and given out candy. But my kids don't eat candy yet, so it's harder with a 4yo this year to give out the candy and not eat it as well. So, we're just turning our porch lights out and skipping it. My kids just like the pumpkins and dressing up at home. This is what feels right to us. You have to do what feels right to you.
 

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I don't think you are depriving your dd of anything.<br>
My ds is 23 mths and I don't see the point in taking him. He has no idea what Halloween is and I really don't want him eating all that candy. Dh has decided to dress him up and take him out this year though.
 

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I dont think you are depriving her of anything. YOu know what she will and wont enjoy.<br>
HOwever in favor of trick or treating at that age. It is my opinion that traditions are something that kids do every year and cannot ever remember not doing them. So I took my kids trick or treating every year. My twins were 3 weeks old the first time they went in their little halloween themed sleepers with their 16 month old brother.<br>
And the pictures from those nights will tell the story to them when they are older even if they dont remember it now.<br>
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I didn't take DS anywhere last year, he was all of about 3 weeks old! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
This year, I am taking him to a few relatives and friends who will appreciate seeing him in a Pooh costume. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> They get to see him, I get the fun of the pictures, and we get limited candy. I don't have a total candy ban, what I've done so far (I've sneaked into my own H. candy stash for the t o ters LOL) is take a piece for myself and give DS a bite, or 1-2 pieces if it's something like the sour patch kids I opened yesterday! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I think a little in moderation is OK, I'd rather teach moderation than have my child sneak and gorge whenever he thinks he can get away with it when he's older.
 

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We live in an apartment. We're dressing up dd and taking her to gramma and grampas. She helped them put up a giant rope spider web on the roof last weekend, and they build a fire in the driveway and have a spooky talking candy bowl where the kids come up and it hollers at them as they take their pick. So it's an event. Might take her to neighbors' houses just to collect compliments on how cute she is. 28 mos. an she's just had her first taste of candy. She got half a tootsie roll as a reward for letting me trim her bangs. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/Sheepish.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Sheepish">: Now she actually says the word candy. oops i forgot the periodic bites of kit kat here and there. Anyway, i think she'll have plenty of fun that way. And of course her candy will mysteriously disappear after the day. A recent b-day party gave her a treat bag FILLED with candy. (The mom has an ADHD kid, and this is what she gives out?! But I digress.) She was so excited about the bag but barely interested in possibly consuming the contents.<br><br>
I wish we had done so well with fast food. I really didn't want my kid to know you could drive up to a building, talk through the window and get yummy/yucky food in a bag. ah well, it was a good idea anyway. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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You're supposed to doll her up and shop her around so everyone can say how cute she is. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"><br>
I think it's too young too.
 

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Dd is going to be 2 in a few days, and we are taking her trick or treating this year. she is so excited, daddy has been prepping her for weeks. :LOL<br><br>
Last year we dressed her up but didn't take her out. We put her in her costume and went out for a breakfast buffet with the family. It was super super cute (little red riding hood - just a simple white and blue dress and a red cape that I made, and she carried a small basket) and it was all done for ME. she could not have cared less. She did seem to enjoy the attention.<br><br>
If my husband wasn't so gung ho for Halloween we'd have probably skipped this year too because I don't think she would know the difference if he hadn't taught her all about it.
 

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16 months is way young! I wouldn't worry about it at all. DS was 2 1/2 last year and he still seemed too young. We went but I don't think he was old enough to have fun with it at all.
 

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Our dd is 14 months and we are not taking her. I won't take her till we decide she can eat the candy- probably at 3 years of age. It's dark and would be scary anyways.
 
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