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The courtesy spaces for pregnant women and parents with infants and small children?<br><br>
I'll admit, I have happily used these parking places while well into both HG pregnancies and when my babies were tiny. I've even used them a few times since Dennis has been in Manitoba and I've been alone with both boys.<br><br>
It kind of irritates me when I see people who are obviously not pregnant (teenage boys) and who do not have children accompanying them use these spots, but then I remind myself that they are courtesy spots, not mandated by law or placard and I chill out.<br><br>
I realize that the pregnancy spots perpetuate the myth that pregnancy is some sort of physical handicap, but honestly, for some of us, it can be.<br><br>
How do you feel about these spots? Should they exist? Should we make use of them? Would you choose not to shop somewhere that didn't have them in favour of a place that did?
 

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When I was pg and had no kids with me it seemed silly ( I was lucky to have very easy pregnancies) But at the grocery store with 3 munchkins in tow I love ggeting a spot near the carts so I can buckle my kids in the seats, put my bags in the car & return the cart without leaving my kids sight.
 

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Yeah, I am actually weird and PREFER walking all over. I will do ANYTHING just for a 30 second outdoor interlude! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I crave the sun & it never gets old...I don't care if I'm taking the trash out, I LOVE it! But, yeah, I can see how it could be a lifesaver for some.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">But at the grocery store with 3 munchkins in tow I love ggeting a spot near the carts so I can buckle my kids in the seats, put my bags in the car & return the cart without leaving my kids sight.</div>
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Where I am, the courtesy spots are usually near the entrance, not the cart returns. I usually can find a spot quite close to a cart return, even if it's far from the store. Not always the best -- walking through a snowy/icy parking lot with three kids isn't exactly easy or fun -- but I prefer the cart convenience to being close to the entrance.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I prefer the cart convenience to being close to the entrance.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nod.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nod"> So do I!
 

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I've never really used them much. There were some in front of the Carter's store when I lived in CT and I'd park in them then but I haven't really since. I don't seem many here in NC. The only time I need the pg spots is in the first trimester when I'm sick as a dog *but* not showing so I don't use them although I know I could.
 

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I don't like them.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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Same here, I park toward the back. It drives me nuts when people sit there for 5 minutes waiting for someone to load their car and leave because they didn't want to park 6 spaces down. Call be a B but if someone is doing that to me I will just go back in the store <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">It kind of irritates me when I see people who are obviously not pregnant (teenage boys) and who do not have children accompanying them use these spots, but then I remind myself that they are courtesy spots, not mandated by law or placard and I chill out.</div>
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I am glad you "check yourself". You most likley wouldn't be aggravated if it was an old person. Or what about me that doesn't have a handicap licenses but taking my 100 y/o aunt and 96 y/o grandfather out? When I am out with them I park as close as possible. When I am with my kids I park closet to a cart corral.<br><br>
I'll admit I had a knee jerk reaction when you mention teenage boys because they can get "picked" on.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">\Or what about me that doesn't have a handicap licenses but taking my 100 y/o aunt and 96 y/o grandfather out?</div>
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THey don't have one? My MIL does and she has a card that hangs in the window for when she goes with someone else.
 

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Honestly, they just piss me off. I love that they're there, but more often than not, they're taken by people who they're not "supposed" to be for. So they're just rage inducing parking spots, in my mind. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
For example, the time we saw somebody loading up their car, preparing to leave a family parking spot (the only available spot within a 5 minute walking radius) at Ikea. We pulled up behind and patiently waited for the spot, knowing that with two toddlers in carseats in the back we more than qualified for the spot. But what should happen? Some ass pulled up beside the car moments before the guy pulled out, and STOLE the parking spot from us. I wouldn't have been so angry (we were tucked behind a row of cars waiting, so maybe he didn't see us), if it wasn't a single man that got out of the car. Clearly not pregnant. Clearly without family. If we didn't have to walk 5 minutes from the parking spot we finally found, I would have said a word or two to him. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
If it had been a regular spot, I probably wouldn't have been AS angry. So while I appreciate the thought that goes behind creating these spots, they really do just serve to make me angry, more often than not. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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When I was pregnant with my twins, I loved the closer parking. And, when I was pregnant with my last, I was high risk, but at the university I went to, there was no close parking. However, I parked in the staff lot right next to the building so I had a short walk.
 

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I still think they're kind of silly, especially the pregnancy ones. I mean, maybe if the pregnancy ones put you really close to the bathroom it would make sense. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I'm one of those that likes to be closer to the cart return than the door. I also tend to just go to the back of the parking lot. I just really have no patience for parking lots.
 

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I don't think I'd see the need to use them regularly or while pregnant but in particular it would have been nice to have some sort of courtesy spots available in the bitter cold and snow of winter when I had a 1-3 month old newborn baby. One instance particularly stands out--dh and I couldn't find a spot at the mall, it was bitter cold. Some teens were pulling out of a close spot and we ere overjoyed but when they saw us waiting they zoomed back in and sat there until we moved on. We pulled into a far-corner spot and they drove past us and mocked us as I struggled to cover ds with enough blankets to keep him snug as we ran for the door. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I don't think I'd see the need to use them regularly or while pregnant but in particular it would have been nice to have some sort of courtesy spots available in the bitter cold and snow of winter when I had a 1-3 month old newborn baby. One instance particularly stands out--dh and I couldn't find a spot at the mall, it was bitter cold. Some teens were pulling out of a close spot and we ere overjoyed but when they saw us waiting they zoomed back in and sat there until we moved on. We pulled into a far-corner spot and they drove past us and mocked us as I struggled to cover ds with enough blankets to keep him snug as we ran for the door. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:</div>
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Why not have DH drop you and baby off at entrance then he can go park the car.
 

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I love them when I need them. Sometimes I wish there was one for "moms who are to tired to carry a 22 lb baby today" though.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I am glad you "check yourself". You most likley wouldn't be aggravated if it was an old person. Or what about me that doesn't have a handicap licenses but taking my 100 y/o aunt and 96 y/o grandfather out? When I am out with them I park as close as possible. When I am with my kids I park closet to a cart corral.<br><br>
I'll admit I had a knee jerk reaction when you mention teenage boys because they can get "picked" on.</div>
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I'm not so much irritated that they're being used by someone for whom they are are not necessarily meant, but that they are meant as a general courtesy for those with special considerations and IMHO should be used by people with special considerations. The only reason I used the teenage boy example was because obviously a teenage boy is not likely to be pregnant and it's pretty visually obvious as to whether or not they have young children accompanying them <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">. I'm not meaning to pick on teenage boys in general. If all goes to plan, I'll be mothering two of them someday.
 

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And ftr, I don't use them often. Generally when the weather is/was messy and I just want to run in to grab a loaf of bread or something. We are generally a "walk and enjoy the weather" type of family, but like a pp said, when it's the dead of winter and you have a tiny baby, it's a different ball game.<br><br>
Also, walking any distance towards the end of both pregnancies was hellacious for me. My HG didn't go away until the boys and their placentas were out of me and just standing up carried with it the risk of nausea and puking. I used to shop at the grocery store that also sold furniture, not because I liked it more (I didn't) but because I'd need to sit down every so often in order to get my groceries selected and purchased.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Why not have DH drop you and baby off at entrance then he can go park the car.</div>
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I don't remember why we couldn't do it that way. There must have been a reason though because we do that all the time (dh dropping us off). But of course if dh was NOT with us that wouldn't have been an option anyway, which is when a courtesy spot would be a huge help and convenience.
 

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I wished we'd had them when I was giganto pregnant and trying to waddle my way from the far back of the ice-covered parking lot.<br><br>
They also have parking spots up in the front in germany for women, they are all well-lit for safety reasons. Kind of a cool idea.
 

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When ds is with me, I like to use them. Not many places around here have them though. The places that do have them end up getting used by people that clearly don't need them (one healthy appearing adult).<br>
Of course, I 'appear' healthy but I have severe asthma... Not enough to get a handicapped parking permit but enough so that I'd want to park closer at times of flare up.
 
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