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DS (6.5mos) is definitely attached in the sense that he loves his momma. He is quite clingy right now though. He has some separation anxiety, but its off and on. When it is on though it is pretty evident. Many times, even when we are home by ourselves, he shows he wants to be right next to me or in the sling - which is just fine. He is sociable and will allow other to hold him usually, but not always. The part that worries me is that he can be playing perfectly fine with Dad and I walk in the room and he starts crying and reaching out for me. So its the crying part that worries me. He doesn't seem just wonderfully (and age-appropriately) independent and stuff. Like the babies that are confident and don't mind if mom walks out of the room for a minute.<br><br>
I hope this makes sense. I want him to develop into a healthy, wonderfully attached, appropriately independent little boy. But the way he reunites with me right now doesn't seem so APish. There are times he completely lights up when he sees me, but many times he starts crying and reaching out for me. I'm a SAHM so with him tons and take him everywhere with me, even into the bathroom. But he has a hard time being away from me, even for a short time with Dad, and an even harder time when I come back into the room. It's sad. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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Hi!! The only advice I have for you is to do a search in this forum and in the toddler forum for seperation anxiety. What your son is doing is normal. There should be no worries about him crying when you come back into the room He is attached to you. This is what happens, he is crying because he is letting you know he isn't happy with you for leaving and wants you to cuddle with him, or something along those lines. He is 6.5 months old I really don't know what you expect as far as independence, my ds was only happy at this age if he was at my feet or in my arms, my dd is 8.5 months old and she is like this. Just a note my ds is now almost three and is very confident and very independent. He is a happy little guy who will just say by by mommy when I leave. He knows and trusts in the fact that I always come back. He expereinced seperation anxiety a couple of times in his life. For months at a time. The last time was right around the time he turned two. This is normal and it just shows that you are doing a very good job of securing his attachment to you. You should be proud that he loves you so much that he gets so emotional whether happy or crying when you walk into the room. It is trying at times but in a couple of years you will look back and go...oh that was so worth it, as he runs off with his friends and leaves you behind, very confidently.
 
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