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The fence thread got me thinking. We get along with all of our nearest neighbors and now I'm wondering if this is odd.<br><br>
Our newest neighbors have lived across the street only 6 months. We've met and have talked several times. Last weekend, they came over to let us know that it's prom night and their daughter was having friends over after prom and that they wanted to get in the hot tub and have a camp fire. She said that they shouldn't disturb anyone, but if they got too loud, to please let them know. I thought that was very nice to let us know. I offered to let them use some of our firewood if they needed it (we have a wood-burning stove). We didn't hear a peep out of them until I heard them all drive off at around 5am.<br><br>
To our north, we have a very nice gay couple that are quiet and always the first to ask if we need help. We've run down each others' garbage cans on windy days, they tilled our garden once, I bake for them, and they offer haul things off for us when they are going to the dump once a year. We fly our kite in their yard and they'll often just wander over on summer evenings to share a beer with us. We have a lot in common, so our conversations are always lively.<br><br>
To the southwest, our neighbors, an older couple our age, but childless, have become some of our best friends. They introduced themselves when they moved in. They have a dog and was asking what we would like them to do in regards to fencing. Our fence is about 2 feet inside our property line. I told them to just attach their fence to our corner because it was ridiculous to pay for all that extra fencing when ours works just fine for their dog. We borrow things from each other, they rake our leaves in the fall, we fix their computer for them. We have keys to each others' houses. We celebrate holidays together and eat dinner together regularly.<br><br>
We're friendly with all the other near neighbors and we help each other out, but are not as close to them.<br><br>
Now we do have neighbors about 1.5 blocks away that are not good neighbors. They inherited the house from their grandmother. They are cited by the city every other month for the garbage in their yard, broken down cars all over their yard, and they have been investigated several times by CPS and at one point had their kids taken away. The husband was arrested for shooting his dog in the head. I suspect there is drug activity. The police are there once every couple of weeks. They are literally *THE* exception to the rule around here. We don't associate with them.<br><br>
Other than that, though, our neighborhood (and it's an old-fashioned neighborhood, not a subdivision) is really nice. I don't think anyone would put up a fence without at least talking ahead of time out of politeness. Conversely, I don't think anyone would be offended by their neighbors putting up a fence.<br><br>
Does anyone else live in this kind of neighborhood?
 

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My immediate neighbors are kind of like that. We know all of their names and some of them have helped my DH work on projects like a busted pipe. If we wanted to put up a bigger fence we would ask them first.<br><br>
On the other hand we had some anonymous neighbor (apparently down the street several houses) make up false complaints about our chickens and cause a huge deal...so I guess we have a bit of both sorts of neighbor relationships!
 

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we live in a condo complex. so, our neighborhood is cozy.<br><br>
we are blessed with wonderful neighbors on all sides. the woman across the street was a pediatric nurse and physician's assistant and wants to babysit both our skin kid and our fur kid. she watched our dog while i was in the hospital having the baby.<br><br>
and we've got literally 10 neighbors who will watch our little guy if we need them and i'd trust all of them. we have 6 or so who'd watch the dog with no issues. some of those overlap!<br><br>
my husband and i often comment about how lucky we are to have such good neighbors.<br><br>
my only complaint is one of them drives way faster than necessary.
 

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We have nice neighbors in that they're quiet and will wave when they see you drive or walk by. But since a few of the long time neighbors moved away over the past couple of years it's not quite a cozy as it once was. There's still kids playing at the end of the court by our house but not as much as in the past. Though this has a lot to do with the fact that the kids are older and thus in school or busy with after school stuff. But the annual Fourth of July block party has fallen by the wayside. I'm thinking about trying to resurrect it this year but I'm not sure. We already host the annual Christmas party, which is always a lot of fun. But I'm not sure if I want to host the Fourth of July one too, even though it'll be outside. We'll see.
 

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I live in the country, but down a lane with several other neighbors. There's only one who I do not get along with at all. He's a horrible horrible person and I doubt I ever will at this point. Dh does talk to him sometimes, but I won't.<br><br>
His son (whom he doesn't speak to), his daughter in law and their two sons are also our neighbors. I've had many issues with the kids and the mom. I mostly ignore them and they ignore us mostly so it's not a big deal.<br><br>
The rest of our neighbors are great. There is one rental house that people move in and out of constantly, but at the moment, the tenants are great. They mostly are, but we have some interesting ones.
 

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I used to live in a neighborhood like that. I really miss it. We were on great terms with all of our neighbors, the kids would all play together, we'd have neighborhood bonfires, all that good stuff. That was in a 1960s suburban neighborhood (subdivision?).<br><br>
Now we live in the country, and we all kind of keep to ourselves. When we moved in 3 years ago, the neighbors were very friendly. They offered us produce from their garden, we gave them eggs, that sort of thing. But in the last year or two, we don't interact much. I've had problems with a couple of neighbor dogs harassing our chickens, which resulted in the neighbors kind of pulling back, even though I tried to be really diplomatic about the dog issues. We still wave and say hi occasionally, but it's not as friendly as our suburban neighborhood was.
 

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we live in an apt in an area that is mostly student housing.<br><br>
so, due to age and lifestyle differences, we are not "close" with our neighbors. we have a good relationship with quite a few, overall. that is to say that we have no problem with them being students in any way (parties, etc), and they are respectful of our family needs (most parties end by midnight, and if one or more people are getting too loud, the other students police them by saying "those people have a baby! shut up!" and moving them along). the only problem that we have with them is trash.<br><br>
we live up a footpath, and either way you go it's a fair distance to get trash to a spot where it will be picked up. we use small bags (we don't produce much trash really), and it's easy to carry. they use HUGE black bags, and those are hard to carry. so, they pile them up outside.<br><br>
when it piles up pretty badly, we offer to help take it out at the next trash day, and if they decline and it's not gone, then we send a note to the landlord who gently reminds them. it's usually gone within a couple of days of that.<br><br>
the garden area of our apartment is sort of the "front yard" of our downstairs neighbor. we have an agreement from the landlord that we can garden, but i also asked their permission. they were ok with it, and we set up a schedule wherein they can use the space as an extension of their house and we can be in there and garden and feel like it is "our" space. it has worked out nicely so far.<br><br>
also, there is a small garden/park near our house that is not all that clean and nice, and a lot of folks meet there and get drunk--kids on the weekends, and some men on thursdays during their break. i introduced myself to those men in the second week, and provided them with a trash bag. they were very respectful and since then, the park has been unusually clean. i'm working with the city council to turn it into a bit more of a functional, pleasurable garden, but we shall see how that goes. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> the kids have also been keeping it much cleaner, so that helps. we do trash pick up on our way to and from places if we see a bit of trash here and there.<br><br>
so i would say it's good. it's not a neighborhood the way that you describe it, but everyone is respectful.
 

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My neighbors are all friendly, but we aren't close. Mostly, that's due to language barriers, though. (My spanish is not great, and though most seem to speak at least some english, it's high school foreign lanuguage class English <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">). We have a new neighbor fixing up the house next door who we've chatted with because his son is the same age as my son and they've played a few times.<br><br>
I've never really lived in a neighborhood where people were super close, though. And it would never occur to me that it would be in any way considered impolite to not tell a neighbor I was going to do something like build a fence on my property. I wouldn't avaoid mentioning it, but it wouldn't be on my radar to even let people know about something like that.
 

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Most of our neighbors are great. We live in a rural subdivision, most of the houses are around 20-30 years old. We get along great with the older couple across that street, they are selling their house and we all are bummed about it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> We snowblow for each other, move trash cans, DD1 went out front yesterday when we got home and when I went looking for her, she over over there helping him load up a trailer. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> The neighbors on one side are very quiet and keep to themselves, we don't speak to them, but they don't speak to anyone. The neighbors on the other side are nice, we've helped them out in the pas with their computers, etc... but he is a little pissy right now because DH shoveled some of our snow off our roof in a unused corner of his yard over the winter. Not really intentional but with well over 100 inches of snow, we ran out of places to put it and the fence and all boundaries were well covered by many feet of snow. I do agree DH should of asked if he realized the pile was was not on our side. Or maybe he is just jealous because we did shovel and he didn't and it weight of the snow actually busted his entire deck. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"><br><br>
Most of our street is very friendly, just a few odd balls sprinkled here and there. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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My parents raised me to always be a good neighbor. You never know when you will need them or they will need you. So I have always tried to remain friendly with my neighbors. Now that I live with my parents again, I am super close to the neighbors. The man next door actually maintained my Dad's garden for him *no easy task, it is HUGE* when my Dad had knee replacement. And now they share garden's so they grow things that compliment each other and said neighbor shares fruit from his many fruit trees.<br><br>
Across the stree is an elderly couple that my Dad drives around in the winter when needed. Also across the street used to live another elderly couple who passed away, and my Dad looked after their house/property after their death while their children tried to sell it- they lived out of state so Dad handled most of the upkeep for them.<br><br>
The neighbors to the left are nice too. They attended their kid's wedding. They do have a fence that my parents put up, because said neighbors have a grouchy dog that likes to nip- he is small but mighty <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> and their yard is a bit, um, overcome with stuff <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> But it doesn't affect their relationship at all.<br><br>
I feel pretty confident that if I needed anything I could rely on pretty much anyone on this street! I like the friendly vibe.<br><br>
When I lived with my husband, I did not know all of my neighbors, but my STBX was "that guy" who was not friendly so that affected it for me. And our neighbors there would park in our driveway <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy"> Which I could never figure out. So I would have to park down the street and walk until I could get them to move. This happened probably 3 times a week and it is any wonder I didn't snap, but for some reason I did not <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> But even still I was at least friendly while I was nagging them for the 100th time to MOVE YOUR CAR ALREADY! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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We live in a friendly neighborhood in a transition area from suburb to country. Most people wave to each other and chat. We help each other out in different ways. I've become closer to some in the neighborhood because we have kids the same age and that's really nice.
 

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We have wonderful neighbors. Everyone is very friendly-its like one big family. We really started to get to know how great they all are when our water line broke. DH was outside digging and within 15 minutes the entire neighborhood was out to help him. They all pitched in and had everything done in a day and a half.
 

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I get along with my neighbors.I give eggs and veggies.One had a GD and I gave some ride ons and cloths. I have not talked to the neighbors in back of me.My only gripe with them is every year they shoot fireworks into my yard,which land in my pond,pool,or on the trampoline and roof.Atleast it is just 1 or 2 days so I just pick up the garbage every July.<br><br>
I make sure my kids are not overly loud.We have had a fire or 2.I don't mention it to others,but I will consider them.In fact I did by placing the pit farther back in the yard,so less smoke gets into the neighboring homes.Same thing with pool and trampoline placement. I even lock up the dogs if they bark to much.I have made a lot of changes to the land since we moved in.Neighbors have taken it in stride.In fact I have see a few gardens and cloths lines pop up.<br><br>
Chit chat with the neighbors,but otherwise we all seem to keep to ourselves.<br>
I was super grateful when one neighbor cleared the snow from my drive a few times.I got the mail/paper for my elderly neighbor every day in winter.It's nice like that,but at the same time limited contact.<br><br>
When we lived at a condo it was nice for a while,but when the kids started picking who they liked and did not like it was difficult for the parents to relate.Also having unwanted adult advances put a strain on things. I prefer the way it is now living on a busy road instead of a neighborhood.
 

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nexxt doot one way has many dogs and no kids but gives me advice about my ds<br><br>
next door other way love their dogs like they are their children.. next to them are drug addicts always coming round for money for 'food ' for their son.... (i give their son food instead) even tho they are drunk, they say their benefits dont come etc..<br><br>
woman across the road has been sectioned but keeps coming back then sectioned again, she has boards at her windows and is not allowed to have workmen round to fix her hous (it now gets done while she is away) because she takes her clothes off...<br><br>
family across the road seem nice, i met her a few weeks ago when she knocked on my door at midnight 35 weeks pg and bleeding and didnt know what to do... she has a healthy little boy now <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I grew up in a neighborhood like that. We were in a rural area so we didn't have many neighbors, but we were really close with the ones that we did have, particularly the elderly couple right next door. My brother used to hang out at their house all the time. They taught him to play cribbage and would let him help out in their grandson's workshop. They used to let use ride our dirtbikes through their driveway, which went in a U shape around the back of their house (I realize now how incredibly tolerant this was of them). They would come hang out with our dog and bring her bones and such, just because she was awesome. After the man died, their grandson moved onto the property full time to watch over his grandmother, and he would watch out for us when we were home alone (when my mom was a single mom and we were latch-key kids). We thought of them as family - my brother especially - and were so sad when we moved.<br><br>
They would not have cared one bit if we put up a fence, and I don't think we would have told them ahead of time. This was in NH, though, which might have something to do with it.
 

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My street seems to be divided. I live on a dead end. The half closer to the dead seems nicer. The other half, not so much.<br>
There is one neighbor that simply doesn't belong. It's a mother with a couple older kids. One doesn't live there. They are both over 18. The mother is hardly ever there. The 'boys' are delinquents (drug dealing; theft.) They are seriously bringing our street down.<br><br>
We did have a wonderful neighbor (with kids). We used to visit and my son would play with her boys. Sadly, she decided to move away because her marriage was over. Ever since she left, the neighborhood doesn't feel as cozy.
 

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My neighbors are all polite but I don't know any of them well. Our houses are fairly spread out so you really don't see other people much. However, when out for a walk everyone says hi and might stop to chat. Ditto driving - most people wave. And my dog has a playmate who stops by on his walk to play in our yard which I just find adorable. His owner asked if this was ok first.<br><br>
I did have 3 people stop by and say hello and bring me baked goods when we moved in - first time that has ever happened to me.<br><br>
My closest neighbor is a little odd and standoffish but he's only there a couple of weeks a year so I don't let it bother me.<br><br>
This is a huge improvement over the crazy people on either side of me at our last house. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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I'm starting to realize how incredibly lucky we are with our neighbors. These are the neighbors that live immediately around us. We know other neighbors that live within a few blocks by sight, but not by name and except for the one house where they trash their yard and shoot their pets, we have a good neighborhood.<br><br>
The one down side is that it's an older, established neighborhood and there are no kids dd's age. It also doesn't have sidewalks and in our case, we live on a VERY busy curve that the teenagers like to speed around. I bought the house when I was single, though, so these were not things I was considering. I liked that it was all old, quiet people. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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My neighbors are very much like the OP describes, including the bad apple ones! We are lucky.
 

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We live on a corner lot, the lot behind us is vacant but maintained by the owner. The house next door to the west is empty and starting to fall in. Across the street we have a family with 2 boys who are my girls' age. They play together and dh and I both speak to the mom but the dad is not friendly. Behind her house is a family with one little girl. I think the mom has agoraphobic issues because she rarely leaves the house and doesn't let her kid out much. I see the little girl sitting in her window gazing longingly into our yard. She got out once and my 4 y.o. crossed the street to play with her, and her mom came flying like a bat out of hell and snatched her kid up. Lots of yelling and crying when the girl gets outside. Next to them is an elderly woman and her mentally ill son. He walks around the neighborhood cussing loudly and is sometimes quite scary. The kids kind of freely roam the side street and play in the vacant lot, and there is a park across the street and we sometimes get random kids my oldest girl knows over here. I'm pretty open and friendly with neighbors if they're not crazy and they are friendly with me.
 
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