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This is a spin-off from another thread. I didn't want to ask on the original thread b/c it was support only.<br><br>
If a child was removed in handcuffs from the public school your child attended, do you have a right to know the details of the situation?<br><br>
Your child is not in the same grade level (ie. 5th grader taken, your child preschool) and would not have direct contact with the student taken from the school.<br><br>
Do you feel the school officials should give details to someone other than the parents of the child taken away? Do you feel the rights of the juvenile should be protected and the details kept internal?
 

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Hmm, that's a tough question. If what the child did or was suspected to do was something that would threaten the safety of other children in the school, then yes, I think the other parents should be told the general nature of what was done/said/suspected and updated on how the situation is being handled.<br><br>
If it was something like drugs being found on the child or anything that didn't threaten other children's safety, then no, I don't think the other parents should get to know the details. The school should inform all parents that the reason for the student's removal was not a threat to the other children, though.
 

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This is really a hard question - I really think it would depend on the nature of the crime - if there really HAD been a crime. If it was something that would have no impact on my child, then no, none of my business.
 

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I could see getting a FYI about the situation if my child was in the same room. I don't think any details about the actual situation should be given to parents. Maybe just a head's up...there was an issue and the child was removed.
 

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Thing is though, how would you KNOW that it had no impact on your child or their education without the details?<br><br><br>
If YOUR child was taken in handcuffs, how would you feel if other parents had intimate knowledge of the details?
 

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I have to agree it depends on the reason.. I think if it was a safety concern then the parents should be informed, no one needs to know names and honestly it would be better coming from the school then learning about it from your child because at least then you'd be getting actual facts not hearsay.
 

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I guess this is where you would have to trust the school to tell whatever details are absolutely necessary for the safety of the other kids. I really am not sure. I don't see where the details of the situation should be given out to someone who asks just b/c they have contacts at the school. Whatever information given to one parent should be given to all parents.<br><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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See, this is my thing. I wouldn't want officials from the school talking about details about my child with anyone that didn't have the absolute need to know. I am fairly certain most schools have policies against releasing information about a child to anyone other than the parents.
 

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After thinking more about this and reading everyone's responses, I think a letter should be sent out to ALL parents, stating that either (a) a child (no name) was removed from a classroom by authorities because of a threat to other's safety. The issue has been taken care of, and there is no further cause for concern, or (b) a child (no name) was removed from a classroom by authorities, but there was never a threat to any other child's safety.
 

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Yes, they can give out a brief report of the incident without giving out the child's name and grade so I think if it was something potentially dangerous others have a right to know.
 

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If people are acting in loco parentis to my child, I have a right to know everything that goes on in that setting. Whether or not it is my business is for me to decide. They don't have to give the child's name, but they could say something like "There was a fight between two sixth-graders that necessitated police intervention. No one else was hurt." Or whatever the case may be. But I would still probably want to know more. Yes, the other child should have some privacy, but something like that would seriously influence me not to return my child to that school. And my ability to protect my child, whether from a potentially violent peer or, as would be my more likely concern, from overzealous enforcement officials, supersedes the school's right to cover its butt in the name of privacy.
 

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I live in a small town. Whenever somebody was taken out of the school in handcuffs (usually drugs) the entire town knew about it and why it happened within an hour anyway.
 
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