I posted this on the should stepparent discipline thread, too. When I first married dh and up until recently, I always put in my opinion and I felt it was respected but since he was the bioparent, I always felt he had the absolute last word. Like my vote counted .9 and his was 1.0, kwim? Lately, however, it is a bit of a problem since there are things that he and dss have always done together that I don't want my ds to be able to do when he is that age like play video games for hours, lots of pizza, etc. I think in the perfect world everything is consistant, but I moved into their house (5 years ago, btw) so of course I didn't start changing things, I respected their routines. Now, ds is almost 2, dss lives with us, and I'm not sure what to do. Any thoughts?