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I am having a particularily difficult time with my 14 month old right now and am in need of some help. DS has always been very high strung. From the time he was born he has not transitioned well and has been very sensitive to just about everything. For naps I have to sit with him and hold him as he wakes up if I put him down, he has to sleep with the fan on for noise reduction. He screams the entire time we are in the car, no matter what I do, ect. In addition to this I am unable to go most places as he will scream when we are out of the house. Grocery shopping, trips to Target, and eating out are done only when absolutly necessary. I have given up my fitness club membership as he would literally scream the entire time he was in the clubs child care. Inaddtion to all of this he has a horrible temper. If DS is upset by something he will sream, bite, throw whatever is in his reach, and pinch until he is happy, which is often several mintes. If I try to pick him up and comfort him he will pinch nursies and bite my shoulder until he is put down.
On the flip side, most of the time he is a wonderful loving babe that loves to cuddle and nurse and be held. I would say he is in mine or dh arm's 75% of the day. IT's the other 25% of the day that makes me feel like a failure and that I need help with him. Last night as I nursed him to sleep I cried and wondered if he gets so inconsolable now what am I going to do when he is 3 or 13.
It's just so different for us as we are calm and easy going people and our dd is too. I'm sorry to say but I always thought that high strung kids where made by high stung people. But now I realize that anyone can be that way, it's just the way you are.
Here is where I need help, I have been tring to focus on the possitives each day and writing down may cute, loving, things that he does so I can reflect on them when under stress. Another thing I have been tring to do is to avoid leaving the house if there is the remote chance that he is or will become tried or hungry while out as I know this makes things worse. I would also like to here from those of you that had similar expericences with your "high maintance" babies and very yound children. I am also intrested in knowing if they outgrew it and how you handled it.
Thanks ahead of time
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On the flip side, most of the time he is a wonderful loving babe that loves to cuddle and nurse and be held. I would say he is in mine or dh arm's 75% of the day. IT's the other 25% of the day that makes me feel like a failure and that I need help with him. Last night as I nursed him to sleep I cried and wondered if he gets so inconsolable now what am I going to do when he is 3 or 13.
It's just so different for us as we are calm and easy going people and our dd is too. I'm sorry to say but I always thought that high strung kids where made by high stung people. But now I realize that anyone can be that way, it's just the way you are.
Here is where I need help, I have been tring to focus on the possitives each day and writing down may cute, loving, things that he does so I can reflect on them when under stress. Another thing I have been tring to do is to avoid leaving the house if there is the remote chance that he is or will become tried or hungry while out as I know this makes things worse. I would also like to here from those of you that had similar expericences with your "high maintance" babies and very yound children. I am also intrested in knowing if they outgrew it and how you handled it.
Thanks ahead of time
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Big hug to you!
Out of left field, I know, but have you thought about a food sensitivity or allergy, especially dairy? My DD has also been very high maintenance, but now that I've eliminated eggs and dairy, it's like she's a different baby. I swear - she is so much more easy-going. Worth a try?
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Out of left field, I know, but have you thought about a food sensitivity or allergy, especially dairy? My DD has also been very high maintenance, but now that I've eliminated eggs and dairy, it's like she's a different baby. I swear - she is so much more easy-going. Worth a try?
I don't have anything to say but this sounds like my dd as a baby!
my oldest was very easygoing so it came as quite a shock!
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