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Anyone else have a spirted child? Emily is VERY and I think Lauren is turning out to be one as well. I just want to know how many other mom's are out there dealing with the same thing?!?!?
 

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Didn't you read my post<br><br>
on the verge of a nervous breakdown?<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I think so <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Compared to the ultra calm, reserved DS...DD is like a tornado! She is amazing in her resolve to do it her way.
 

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In every sense of the word. Dd is definately "more" in most aspects than other children her same age. She is a little fireball. I'm hopping from the time she wakes until I manage to get her to take a nap (happen less often these days) and then she's up again exploring her world and creating an extrordinary imaginary one. She's full of questions and wonder and I really don't see that level of enthusiasm in other children. When we go to playgroup I see her as a leader in the play often dragging more reluctant children along to explore the ins and outs of the park. She draws people in and children and adults alike are attracted to her. I wish I had half of her energy and a fraction of her enthusiasm. It can be exhausting for the parents for sure. On the flip side, she can get extremely frustrated, locked in and single-minded. Each day brings it's own set of challenges and joys. I personally feel blessed to be the parent of a spirited child (even if that means we have to skip the trip to the store because she refuses to wear clothes.)
 

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Spirited twins. Save me! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Actually, they are just on the verge of spunky/spirited, but as a pair they go right off the charts. They are both extremely persistent, and DS is very intense. Off the charts on those aspects, and DD is not fond of sleep. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Did I mention that DS bites everyone in his path. He just has a bite hanging around in his mouth a lot of the time, and I basically can't be more than arm's length away from him EVER. ARGH!<br><br>
I've been reading the book and it's helpful, though a lot of the stuff is hard to do before 2 (mine are 18 months). We can't do too much talking, although I started reading it a few months ago and it's already more applicable. I have really gotten a lot out of the suggestion of water to calm down the intensity. That's helping (though messy!).<br><br>
Anyway, I'm with ya all. I hear about what people "accomplish" during the day with one or with two laid-back babies and I simply can't imagine it. I figure if we're all alive and fed at the end of the day I've done a good job. If no one has a bruise from being bitten, it's a banner day. Sigh.<br><br>
Hugs to everyone else with a spirited/spunky kid or kids!<br><br>
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I hear ya! I feel like this too...lol. My 2-year old DS is very spirited, and it is challenging to say the least. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Yes, my dd is very spirited <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br>
Finding that book was SOOOOOO-O validating, because she takes after her daddy....and my Mom (who raised 3 babies) kept saying that she had never seen behaviors like her...that she had never seen tantrums like hers....had never seen a child like her. And I know she blamed my parenting at least a little bit <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">:<br>
Her favorite comment seemed to be: "If she is like this now, what will she be like as a teen?!" And I was beginning to wonder the same myself <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"><br>
I found the book to be very helpful...if for no other reason than understanding *why she does what she does, so I can be more compassionate. The truth is, I LOVE her personality, and the amazing characteristics of spirited children are just as numerous as the frustrating (extremely frustrating) characteristics. And I wouldn't choose to eliminating her frustrating characteristics if it meant she would also lose those traits that make her so insightful, clever, and precocious.
 

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Oh yeah sunnmama, my Grandmother says that about DD. "I have never seen a child so stubborn/get so mad/throw such a fit!" "i have never seen a child like her!" And she admits she had one very spirited dd (out of 3). This is her great grandchild....you would have thought after 3 kids, 8 grand kids and 3 great grand kids she would have at least seen something like my little angel before :LOL thank G-D i have an older child, so they can't blame it on my parenting....they know it's just part of who DD is <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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My parents and IL's adore dd, but other moms sometimes give me shine about her. She never hurts other kids or is really rowdy - it's mostly just about her will.<br><br>
But I really got flack from other moms in my playgroup because she didn't sleep through the night until 2.5, breastfed longer than any of the other kids, wouldn't sit in a stroller, insisted that her socks be on perfectly - you know. I try hard not to complain about her, but when a mama whose kid slept through the night at THREE MONTHS starts to lecture you on your parenting, it's hard to know what to say.<br><br>
My favorite: a condescending remark from a mama we no longer hang out with that teaching your kid to sleep through the night is JUST like teaching them any other skill. Her child bites, pushes, and pulls hair and has since he had teeth and could grab at another kid's head. He's even bitten other mamas - one right on the fanny. She can't/won't teach him to stop, but boy, does he sleep...<br><br>
I'd rather have dd than any kid I know!<br><br>
(I'm not slamming kids who bite or their mamas. It's tough, I know. I am slamming people who think they are perfect and their kid is perfect despite ample evidence that they're actually just as imperfect as everybody else!)
 

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WOW all great replys and your children are SO much like my Emily. She is SO spirted but at the same time she is SO full of questions and she just seems "ahead of herself" I LOVE watching her learn but at the same time she can't sit still long enough for me to teach her something<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">:
 

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My husbandis at the "how to raise a spirted child" course tonight. it is an 8 week long course and I think this is going to be SO great. I am not going as Lauren STILL eats off me all the time and will NOT take a bottle! Another one who knows what she wants!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Chiming in here- my ds2 is 15months and very spirited. I don't get much done during the day. He's happiest when we are DOING something, and loves to go places all day long; hates just being in the house. He's constantly curious and into everything.<br><br>
He also wakes up 2 times at night and hates sleep, lol. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
DH always says that he's like this because he's so smart, his brain won't turn off, lol!
 

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"DH always says that he's like this because he's so smart, his brain won't turn off, lol!"<br><br>
I can sooo relate to the spirited child who resists sleep and<br>
stays in constant motion. Dd will be 3 in Dec. and she gets more and more active the more tired she gets. I really do think your dh is right. They are so busy taking in their world that they fear they might miss something if they take a break to rest/sleep. When she finally does fall asleep she falls hard though. There isn't any waking up in the night anymore. If I can get her to recognize the tired signals her body is sending her and finally get her settled down she stays out the whole night.
 
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