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<p>Well, this is awkward! It is now my duty to introduce my own spotlight of the week!  Still, I'm a scorpio and this is my birthday week, so allow me to talk about myself by asking some questions!</p>
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<p><b>* EDD:</b> March 20<br><br><b>* Name:</b> Beastie<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="../discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy"><br><br><b>* Age:</b> 30 in November!<br><br><b>* Location:</b> Midwest<br><br><b>* How long it took to you to get your BFP:</b> We used an anonymous donor from a sperm bank; we got pregnant on our first try, then found out that the fetus had a neural tube defect and terminated at 13 weeks. We waited almost a year, tried again, and got pregnant again on the first try!<br><br><b>* What number child is this for you:</b> 1st.<br><br><b>* Family (partner, other children, and/or furbabies):</b> me, DP, and three dogs.<br><br><b>* Baby's gender (hopes or guesses):</b> No idea! I'd call this the sex, though, since gender happens later...<br><br><b>* Birth plans/preferences:</b> As few interventions as possible, at a local birth center.<br><br><b>* Anything else you'd like to share:</b> I'm queer, and my partner is a female to male (FTM) transsexual. So we look straight, but we're not! This is pretty much a non issue in the pregnancy, but it may come up as we go along.</p>
 

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<p>Not awkward!  And yay for scorpios, I've been celebrating a lot of birthdays lately, my husband and some of my favorite friends are scorps.</p>
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<p>Ok, so questions:</p>
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<p>Fav movies?</p>
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<p>Fav foods to eat or cook?</p>
 

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<p>Thanks for responding, Rockycrop, and for letting me know I'm ok on the awkward front!</p>
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<p>Those are all deceptively hard questions, since I have a chronic difficulty with picking favorites!  So can I keep it broadish? My favorite movies are usually documentaries (I recently watched <em>Babies</em>, which,ok, isn't so unusual around here, but I'll watch pretty much any documentary). </p>
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<p>Favorite books? I teach English, but mostly I teach pretty old literature. So on that front, prose romances? In contemporary lit I like current best sellers usually.  Old favorites are Geek Love and the old John Irving stuff.</p>
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<p>Favorite foods?  Cheese and carbs!  Recently I've also been really craving doughnuts and spanikopita (separately). One weird thing about me is that I don't like chocolate or ice cream. But I make up for thoselost calories with the cheese and carbs.</p>
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<p>And also, I know a million scorpios too!  I wonder why that is...</p>
 

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<p>I chose to introduce myself, so I don't think it's awkward!  ;)</p>
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<p>What age group do you teach?</p>
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<p>How are you feeling at this point in your pregnancy?</p>
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<p>What's something you would like to see or accomplish or do before you're 40?</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Beastie</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1279249/spotlight-of-the-week-10-14-beastie#post_16044847"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border-bottom:0px solid;border-left:0px solid;border-top:0px solid;border-right:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>Recently I've also been really craving doughnuts and spanikopita (separately).  </p>
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Spanikopita, yum! Now you've got me started...</p>
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<p>What kinds of doughnuts?</p>
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<p>Have any Turkey Day foods you just can't live without?<br>
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<p>Thanks for the questions!</p>
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<p>I teach college students, and they're my favorite possible age group-- on the one hand, they are just sorting out who they are and taking accountability for their own lives and educations, but on the other hand they are adults, so I don't have to deal with their parents! Plus, I get to stay in college forever, though now on the other side of the classroom.  I'm in my third year of a tenure track job, and the pressure is incredibly high; one of my big struggles this pregnancy (and through the TTC process) has been the way it's already affecting my research productivity. I'm distracted by my uterus and I don't quite have my head in the game, and that's scary since I've worked hard to get to this place and I'd hate to lose ground.</p>
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<p>At this point in my pregnancy, I'm feeling pretty good!  I'm relieved to be past the first trimester, when I was super sick, and to be looking and feeling more pregnant. I'm starting to think there might just be a baby at the end of this process, and to shift from thinking about just pregnancy stuff to thinking about the reality of a new baby...I've had a lot of fear this pregnancy, because my last pregnancy <em>felt</em> perfectly healthy but wasn't viable (neural tube defect), which made me feel like I couldn't tell based on instinct how things were progressing. I'm getting a little more confident now, though, and am hoping that just continues through the second half of the pregnancy.</p>
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<p>Before I'm 40? I'd like to get tenure, here or somewhere else, and then to enjoy the work benefits from that kind of security-- doing more service work at my university and more activism on and off campus-- those things are hard to manage in these first rough years! I'd also like to manage at least one more kid, though it feels crazy to count my hypothetical future babies before this one is safely earthside.</p>
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<p>Doughnut types? My secret (fairly gross) favorite comes in a box at the grocery store, and is an entenmann's crumb doughnut.  So good!</p>
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<p>I don't have any Thanksgiving favorites, but I do like dark meat, and to make a big mess of eating with my hands!</p>
 

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I've had a lot of fear this pregnancy, because my last pregnancy <em>felt</em> perfectly healthy but wasn't viable (neural tube defect), which made me feel like I couldn't tell based on instinct how things were progressing. I'm getting a little more confident now, though, and am hoping that just continues through the second half of the pregnancy.</div>
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This....exactly.  I miscarried at 9 weeks and felt like things were going along fine, and I have been uncertain about everything with this pregnancy as a result.  The fact that I feel baby quite a bit now makes me more confident, but I don't think I'll feel completely sure about this pregnancy until I have a babe in arms sometime in or around early March!!</p>
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<p>I may have missed it, but are you finding out the baby's sex in advance?  Do you have ideas on names?  Are you able to take a semester (or two, or three; or go on reduced teaching) off post-baby given your tenure track?</p>
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<p>Also, I love enteman's crumb donuts (but haven't had one in years, largely because I have no self control so I don't buy any!), and <em>wish</em> I didn't like ice cream and chocolate (or rather, my hips and butt wishes it!).</p>
 

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<p><strong>Crayfishgirl</strong>, it's good to know that you understand!  I sometimes feel tired of my own hesitancy about the pregnancy, and sad that I'm not more uninhibited in my joy, but it is what it is.  In the meantime, daily movement makes a big big difference for sure. My DP finally felt some movement from the outside in the past week or two, and that is super exciting!</p>
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<p>We're not finding out the sex, and we already had our anatomy scan, so we're now past changing our minds!  I'm getting a pretty strong girl vibe, though.... Of course, given that DP is trans and we know tons of people all over the gender spectrum, we're trying to remember that it's all negotiable anyway!</p>
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<p>We have some ideas on names but we're keeping them top secret for now, so no one talks us out of them!</p>
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<p>As for taking time off, I'm our main income so I'm not willing to take unpaid leave unless I medically have to. I'll take some time (up to six weeks)of paid leave right after the baby comes, and then I'll return just for teaching through the end of the semester (end of April). This might mean coming to campus just for teaching (two classes, a total of maybe 6 hours a week), even if DP has to come too and bring the baby to hang out in my office for breast feeding or visits during class breaks. If I can make it to the end of the semester, I'll be rewarded with almost three months of summer break, which will be my delayed babymoon! And then I'll pause the tenure clock for a year, which won't make up for all the missed research but might help!</p>
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<p>Finally, don't worry, my butt and hips are plenty big without the chocolate and ice cream. In fact, my least favorite pregnancy thing so far are stretchmarks on my butt-- I seem to be carrying most of this baby weight there....</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Beastie</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1279249/spotlight-of-the-week-10-14-beastie#post_16046358"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>Doughnut types? My secret (fairly gross) favorite comes in a box at the grocery store, and is an entenmann's crumb doughnut.  So good!</p>
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<p>My secret gross favorite doughnut is Entenmann's Devil's Food (i.e. not the one with the yellow cake doughnut under the chocolate frosting, but a chocolate doughnut under chocolate frosting).  It's surprisingly difficult to find!  ;)<br>
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<p><strong>Neuromancer!</strong> I know exactly the problem you're talking about!  I'm from NY originally, and there you could only find my crumb doughnut favorite in an Entenmann's multi-pack, and then you'd have only two of the crumbs and then a bunch of other, less-favorite types. Then I lived in CA, and they barely sold Entenmenn's at all. And now I'm in the Midwest, and while there's plenty about living here that I could complain about, they sell whole boxes full of crumb doughnuts only!  I'll keep an eye out and let you know if they do the same with the Devil's Food ones.</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Beastie</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1279249/spotlight-of-the-week-10-14-beastie#post_16047931"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p><strong>Neuromancer!</strong> I know exactly the problem you're talking about!  I'm from NY originally, and there you could only find my crumb doughnut favorite in an Entenmann's multi-pack, and then you'd have only two of the crumbs and then a bunch of other, less-favorite types. Then I lived in CA, and they barely sold Entenmenn's at all. And now I'm in the Midwest, and while there's plenty about living here that I could complain about, they sell whole boxes full of crumb doughnuts only!  I'll keep an eye out and let you know if they do the same with the Devil's Food ones.</p>
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<p>Spotlight crashing to say... those chocolate crumb donuts are my absolute favorite and now on the east coast I can only get them in a 'chocolate lovers multipack' but in the midwest I could get 8. Those were the days...</p>
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<p>So, how about some questions?</p>
<p>What do you teach? </p>
<p>Do you and DP have any fall/winter traditions (Thanksgiving, Xmas, etc.)?</p>
 

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<p>See? There are some major benefits to living in the midwest!  I wonder what marketing logic went into the plan to prevent the coasts from enjoying their favorite doughnuts without suffering through the multipacks...</p>
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<p>I teach English; my specialty is 16 and 17th century literature. So that means a lot of Shakespeare, but also other drama, cheap print, prose, etc.</p>
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<p>Fall/Winter traditions: we just finished celebrating my birthday, which is always low key but involves lots of small gifts at midnight! We're Jewish, so there are lots of fall holidays that come with traditional stuff. In Winter, we mostly just hunker down by the fireplace, but we also make a point of visiting DP's family in Southern CA, which is a great break from the cold. This year I'm also on an interview committee at a conference in January, so I'm planning on a trip to California at 7.5 month pregnant, and then on impressing/traumatizing candidates with my belly while we grill them. What else?  We do celebrate channukah, but it's not a super big deal for us.  Oh, and DP is in recovery and celebrates his sobriety on Christmas day.</p>
 
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