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What are you most looking forward to about meeting your new little one? What aspect of your life are you most looking forward to sharing with him/ her/ it/ them?
 

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I am just so excited to actually have the baby at home and for it to not leave my sight (except for a much needed shower). I had problems with ds 'cause the hospital wouldn't "let" me see him for over 8 hours. So there were issues with breastfeeding as well, so I am looking forward to a less stressful start with that. I can't wait to see what it is, what it looks like and how different it is from it's siblings. I really wonder if a more mellow birth at home will have an affect on the baby's personality the first few days...Overall I am just getting really excited over it all because it's just going to start different and hopefully better than the others.
 

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It sounds like things after delivery of your son weren't too good...but how about your labor? Was it ok? Are there things that you plan on doing differently when you are in labor this time? What are you doing to prepare for the labor?
 

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are your dc excited about their new sibling? will they be present at your homebirth?
 

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What do your kids think about another baby in the house? How is this pregnancy different or similar to your previous pregnancies? Will this be your last baby?
 

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I am most afraid of having a flashback (sexually abused as a child) and/or having a panic attack during labor like I did with my last labor, and people not actively making me feel safe or helping me when I need it.<br>
I am most worried about Money and having to go back to work before I am ready after the baby is born. We originally planned to have this baby after we were a bit more financially secure...<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div>Originally Posted by <strong>lovetobemama</strong> <a href="/community/forum/post/9087412"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a></div>
<div style="font-style:italic;">It sounds like things after delivery of your son weren't too good...but how about your labor? Was it ok? Are there things that you plan on doing differently when you are in labor this time? What are you doing to prepare for the labor?</div>
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My labor at home was awesome, it was so easy and fun. But then we went to the hospital and everything went downhill. I wasn't too happy to be there and I made a comment about wishing I had had a homebirth in front of the nurse and I also wasn't very cooperative about laying down flat for her to check me. Then she checked me very roughly without any warnings, soft touchs nothing. It just freaked me out, sent me into a flashback and a panic attack that didn't stop til I have ds out. It didn't help that the ob wouldn't take his hands out of me or leave in a squatting position or let me doing anything that would help calm me down. Nobody on my "team" knew how to help me because my reaction was soooo unexpected by everyone. Anyway, between that and them being jerks about letting me see ds, I had problems bonding with ds and suicidal PPD. Not fun. But now ds is my buddha baby and it eased out dramatically but it was rough there for awhile.<br>
I am hoping that a homebirth will take away alot of the stressers that I had at the hospital and with knowledge that what happened last time could happen again we are talking extensively with the mw about what happened and with each other trying to come up with tools to help me.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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My dd is very excited about another baby, ds is clueless. He's the baby right now so it might be a bit of adjustment for him but he'll totally dig being a big brother. I am leaving the option to them both, we will have a friend for each of them so they could go either way. DD though really wants to see it, she watches Baby Story with me (with me yelling at the TV when they are doing/saying something stupid, ie episiotimies help prevent tears<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ). I think she'll be really cool. DS is a wild card at this point.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">What do your kids think about another baby in the house? How is this pregnancy different or similar to your previous pregnancies? Will this be your last baby?</div>
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DD can't wait to help out with the baby, DS is neutral and I think pretending it's not happening<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> This pregnancy is kicking my butt, I was sick horribly (thankfully not vomiting) every day all day til just in the last week or so (I am now 18 weeks<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jaw.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="dropjaw"> ) but am still exhausted and nauseous periodically. I am also experiencing the tight belly feeling since around 8 weeks, and it can take my breath away sometimes, I think it's stress related. The other 2 were so easy, so I wonder what this baby has in store for me?<br><br>
So far the consensus is that this is the last baby. I think dh is already getting ready to set up an appointment for a vasectomy (sorry for the spelling). I am pretty sure I am done. I don't feel like there is another baby waiting out there for me to have 'em, but we'll wait and see. I personally wouldn't rule it out.
 

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Are you planning to cosleep? Do you still have the older two in bed with you, if so?
 

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oh goodness. i just wanted to give you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s reading about your hospital experience with your ds. i'm so sorry that you had to go through that and for the PPD that followed. i think it is AWESOME that you have taken that experience and used to it to make THIS birth experience better.<br><br>
so, what do you yell at "a baby story"? i have a few choice phrases. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> from me too<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
what do you do for work? how long have you been there/in that field? do you like it? why or why not?
 

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I am planning on co-sleeping. With the other 2 they stayed with us in bed until about 2, then moved into their own bed in our room about then. They are now in their own room in bunk beds<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biggrinbounce.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bgbounce"> Still have issues with dd about not sleeping on occassion but otherwise it is working really well. I couldn't imagine not co-sleeping, way too lazy to get out of bed to nurse the baby the 10 times during teh night, at least I can doze off while nursing in somewhat comfy position in bed, kwim?<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">oh goodness. i just wanted to give you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s reading about your hospital experience with your ds. i'm so sorry that you had to go through that and for the PPD that followed. i think it is AWESOME that you have taken that experience and used to it to make THIS birth experience better.<br><br>
Thank you, that birth also really made me discover that I wanted to be a birth doula. Made me want to do whatever I could so that might not happen to another mama. Still just starting out though<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br><br>
so, what do you yell at "a baby story"? i have a few choice phrases. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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Oh I yell at em that they are being stupid, or "LIES". I just hate it when I hear the moms say that they are planning on breastfeeding then seeing them giving bottles and/or pacifiers within the first 24 hours and they wonder why it's difficult to get the baby to latch on, or when they are surprised when it's just a tad uncomfortable and they quit. URG<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: But occassionally there's good ones<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy"><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> from me too<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
Thanks.<br><br>
what do you do for work? how long have you been there/in that field? do you like it? why or why not?</div>
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I am a wanna be doula, already been through ALACE training. I was working for Target for 2 years this past month but I quit to work for a small bakery where I knew the owner, and she's letting me bring dd with me to work before she has to go to school and I could eventually bring the baby with me to work. She's alot more laid back than target<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 
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