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Okay, since this is the first one, let's ask lots of questions!<br><br><b>What's your experience of your community in Vancouver?</b><br><br><b>What do you do for a living?</b><br><br><b>Tell about a time you experienced or gave a random act of kindness.</b><br><br><b>How are music/art/crafts present in your life?</b>
 

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Why did you guys move here?<br>
How did you meet JM?<br>
What is your favorite part of mama-hood?
 

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Answers to Erlaine’s and andi-mama’s questions… they are long. LOL!<br><b><br>
What's your experience of your community in Vancouver?</b><br><br>
I actually live on Vancouver Island… which means I can tell people I live on “an Island in the Pacific” and it sounds pretty cool. I live in a city of about 80,000 people. I really like it here because it’s beautiful, there are all the amenities that I need and there are enough things to keep me and my family busy! I do wish it was more multicultural here as my husband is Filipino (and my daughter obviously is mixed) and I want my daughter to get to know people from many cultural backgrounds. I think it’s getting more multicultural here, though… so it’s a good thing.<br><br>
Interesting that you ask about “community”. It wasn’t until after becoming a mom that I started to become very keen on the idea of finding a real sense of community. My husband grew up with an understanding of the concept. In his culture, you don’t try to be all independent all the time; you help each other out more – mostly within extended family, but also within friends etc. Anyway in some small ways I feel community in the mommy group I started (andi-mama organizes the group right now – I am happy to just be “founder”). I find there are some people willing to be more than just a playdate pal. I really wish I could find more a sense of community IRL (it’s easier to find online sadly) because sharing lives is cool and rewarding.<br><b><br>
What do you do for a living?</b><br><br>
Currently I am a SAHM and love that. Before Miss Aly, I taught English as a Second Language to 13 – 17 year olds at an international college (in Vancouver). I loved that job! I not only got to teach grammar – which is fuuun – but I got to influence some young people. It was so rewarding to have them tell me I taught them things like respect (you’d think a 15 year old would know that…). I hope to do something similar again. If nothing else, I’d like to take in homestay students in the future!<br><b><br>
Tell about a time you experienced or gave a random act of kindness.</b><br><br>
Let me think more on this one!<br><b><br>
How are music/art/crafts present in your life?</b><br><br>
I sing nursery rhymes!!! I’ve always wished for music to be a bigger part of my life. I guess I’ve never known where to start with finding “good music”. I am a Christian and I can say that worship music really has a positive impact on my life. I like hearing truths about God in the form of music.<br><br>
I like performing arts and would consider looking into community theatre some time in the future. I am SHY, but I love to get on stage (part of why I liked teaching people who didn’t speak English… I got to use lots of gestures and acting things out when I taught).<br><b><br>
Why did you guys move here?</b><br><br>
Lived in Vancouver happily. Got married. Decided, for no reason in particular, to move to Calgary, AB to start a life there. Lived there 8 months and didn’t like it AT ALL. During that 8 months, I had my DD. Since we didn’t know anyone in Calgary, it seemed logical to move somewhere where we DID know people. The options were Grande Prairie, AB (COLD!!) or HERE to be near either my husband’s family or my parents. We ended up HERE!<br><b><br>
How did you meet JM?</b><br><br>
My husband’s name is John Mark and I always abbreviate it JM. I’m lucky… it’s as short to type “DH” or “JM” <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
ANYWAY, I can understand why Andrea would ask this. Taller, bigger boned white girl ends up married to short, small Filipino and they both are REALLY shy, quiet types… how does it happen? The Internet of course  Wasn’t a plan. Wasn’t a dating website. Anyone remember when ICQ was popular? Yah… random conversation started it all. What’s cool about our story is that he ended up moving from AB to BC (after we’d met 3 times in person) on TWENTY FOUR HOURS NOTICE. Told him I’d found him a job on a Friday morning, he was on a plane on Saturday.<br><b><br>
What is your favorite part of mama-hood?</b><br><br>
I think I am addicted to the hugs and cuddles. But I also love love love watching Aly learn something new every day and being part of her learning.
 

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I absolutely LOVE how you two met. That is adorable. I had a relationship that started online a few years ago and I hate the bad rep it gets!
 

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What are you looking forward to about having two kids?<br><br><br>
How many children do you want, or do you know yet?
 

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<b>What are you looking forward to about having two kids?</b><br>
The madness of it  Getting to see my beautiful little girl step up into the role of big sister. I know I loved my little brother when he was a baby (not that I don’t love him now…lol). Aly and her sibling will be 26 months apart like my bro and I so maybe it will be a beautiful relationship, too! And of course one more little person to love and receive love from… how can I not look forward to that!<br><b><br>
How many children do you want, or do you know yet?</b><br>
For several years now I’ve wanted three kids. Oddly, I get a lot of people saying how “awful” that is. “You need to have two or four. Not three!” Ummm… I can have three kids if I want!!! That being said, I absolutely hate how I feel in pregnancy so maybe two will be all!<br><br><b>Tell about a time you experienced or gave a random act of kindness.</b><br>
Ok, back to this! I talked to my mom about this to see if she remembered any good examples of this from my life (we’re supaclose). I guess because I am shy I haven’t been so good at the random acts of kindness – aside from smiling at older people and holding doors. Buuut I am always good at showing kindness to people in my life and am BIG into letting people know that they are appreciated.<br><br>
Oh – one story related to this & about my former ESL teen students. Most Korean and Japanese kids don’t eat sandwiches but their homestay families always make them sandwiches for lunch. Once I got so tired of seeing them throw sandwiches in the garbage so I suggested they take their sandwiches and go – in groups for safety – outside where there are homeless people (yah – right behind the school) and give them the sandwiches. These two girls did that and later came back with the huuuuugest smiles because someone had gratefully accepted their food. They thought it was the most amazing thing!
 

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How chrunchy are you?<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
What are you craving these days?
 

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I guess I've always wondered this in general, but when you teach ESL do you typically know a bit of the student's first language?<br><br>
This is my first pregnancy, any words of wisdom? Was there anything that worried you the 1st time around that doesn't this time?
 

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<b>How crunchy are you?<br></b><br>
Lol, I knew my dirty little secret would come out eventually. Maybe that’s why I wanted to do the spotlight thang. I have no crunch factor. My DD was not breastfed (this is a <span style="text-decoration:underline;">very sore issue</span> which I will probably write about later – I tried 10 days, had no support, didn’t know about a lot of things I could do to help things happen etc. Spent over a year feeling like crap because of this) – though I have every intention to try harder and more informed with my next kiddo. We use disposable diapers (of course I feel guilty for making so much garbage). Until recently I thought a sling was only something you used for a sprained or broken arm. We did cosleep until my DD was 18 months (I bet there will be a few ppl questioning WHY we did that since most ppl do that for night nursing to be easier) and last week she started in a big girl bed. My DD is vaccinated, too. Do I get kicked out now?<br><br>
I don’t like being labeled. And I am a wonderful, attentive, loving mom the way I am <br><br>
And, in case you couldn’t tell by now, I know andi-mama IRL and she suggested I join this due date club – that’s how such a non-crunchy mom got here!<br><b><br>
What are you craving these days?</b><br><br>
Ok, I was going to say “nothing” but then I got up from the computer without thinking and headed to the fridge and ate my like 300th grape that I’ve had in 3 days. So, GRAPES. Mmm!<br><br><b><br>
How is this pregnancy different from your first?</b><br><br>
So far, not really that different. It will be different in that I intend to be more informed throughout. It will be different in that I am going the midwife route instead of the crazily overbooked doctor route.<br><br><b>I guess I've always wondered this in general, but when you teach ESL do you typically know a bit of the student's first language?</b><br><br>
I never did! I mean, of course you need to know things like what pronunciation errors are common for students based on their first language (ie. We spent lots of time reviewing L & R sounds). It’s more important, IMO, to know a bit about their cultural background. Helped me be a more effective instructor and I was able to better control the classroom. I usually always had students from at least 3 countries in my classes.<br><br><br><b>This is my first pregnancy, any words of wisdom? Was there anything that worried you the 1st time around that doesn't this time?</b><br><br>
Just BE INFORMED. And don’t worry about every little thing. People have been having babies for… oh… a few years now. If you end up being paranoid neurotic pregnant woman… you’ll later regret that (thankfully I never was that way!). Oh, and once you start to feel baby move, ENJOY IT. So many women miss that after they have given birth.
 

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Great to have you here!!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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Lol, I knew my dirty little secret would come out eventually. Maybe that’s why I wanted to do the spotlight thang. I have no crunch factor.</div>
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There might be more of us less-than-crunchy types around here than you think! I love the support and intelligent conversation on these boards more than anything else. Even when someone's choices might not be for me, e.g., cloth diapers, it's obvious that it's always a well thought out choice.<br><br>
Good to get to know you Booflies!
 

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What kind of books do you like to read?<br><br>
What are some of your favorite websites?<br><br>
Have you ever thought of hiring a postpartum doula to help with breastfeeding if needed?
 

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<b>What kind of books do you like to read?</b><br><br>
I like to read fiction more than non-fiction when I can. There’s more of an “escape” that way. I prefer character-driven books -- especially when I can relate to the protagonist. I’m not intellectual enough to enjoy a lot of stranger books. Most recently I’ve read and thoroughly enjoyed most of Jodi Picoult’s books.<br><br><b><br>
What are some of your favorite websites?</b><br><br>
I blog on Xanga. Uh oh… now you can find me there based on my username. Haha, it’s protected so you can’t read anything!<br><br>
I admit I sometimes go to PerezHilton.com (it’s so bad!). And I seem to have a weird obsession with ICanHasCheezburger.com. I don’t hang around a lot of forums or anything. I know a LOT of moms with similar aged kids through Xanga and an increasing number IRL so the thought of being part of tons of mommy forums isn’t appealing! Oh, and I love to drool over beautiful handmade stuff on Etsy!<br><br><b>Have you ever thought of hiring a postpartum doula to help with breastfeeding if needed?</b><br><br>
I think I’ve already made it my midwife’s mission to make breastfeeding work for me this time. She was a nurse before becoming a midwife and said she feels very very experienced in helping new moms with bfing & would come help as many days as possible in the postpartum period. I am not in anyway opposed to hiring a postpartum doula. Now that I know such exist...lol… I can look into that.
 

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Well, MDC is a good place to GET crunchier! LOL I've always been 100% attachment parenting, but my NFL side was WAY underdeveloped until I got here!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
So here's my question: If you could have a free trip to any place in the whole world, where would you go and why?
 

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<b>If you could have a free trip to any place in the whole world, where would you go and why?</b><br><br>
Easy one. I’d go to the Philippines. My husband was born there and lived there until he was 18 (minus a few years when he lived in England). All of his father’s side of the family is there….so a LOT of family. DH hasn’t been back there at all and I have never been. As long as I could have some time at the beaches and not all the time being smothered by family I’ve never met… I’d be on a plane!
 
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